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FREE video – Sex on Wheels

Wonderful documentary on physically & mentally challenged people and their sexuality. At approximately 14 minutes into the film the body mapping description is valuable for all individuals; it is an exercise I suggest to many of my clients.


FREE – Erotic – Sensual – Video (photos) – India Arie (Music)

5 minutes of Sensexual bliss to awaken your soul. Chocolate eye candy wrapped in sensual sounds.


India Arie “Brown Skin” Black Erotica Re-mix from Belladonna Del Rio on Vimeo.

Video – Love Bites: Banned Erotica, Viagra for Women?

Lybrido might become the new ‘Viagra’ for women if it meets the FDA standards. Is this a good thing? Similar to my polemic on Viagra written approximately 10 years ago (Men swallow the pill but the women are literally and physically impacted by it), Daniel Bergner wrote in his NYTimes article on May 22nd, “But of course swallowing a tablet can take us only so far. Chemically enhancing a woman’s desire might play out in all kinds of ways within a relationship. Some couples might feel closer, others might feel desolate because, despite more sex, their bond isn’t stronger. Wives might yearn for the old seductive efforts of their husbands, even if those gestures stopped working long ago. Women might feel yet more pressure to perform: Why not get that prescription? their partners might ask; why not take that pill? And men, if they are willing to confront the truth, might not be so happy about the reminder, as their partners reach for the pill bottle, that their women need chemical assistance to want them. All the agonies that have existed since the dawn of monogamy will still pertain, many of them coming down to the craving to feel special.”

Entire Article: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/26/magazine/unexcited-there-may-be-a-pill-for-that.html?smid=tw-share&pagewanted=all&_r=1&

Love Bites: A Banned Erotica Showcase at the Comedy Store

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Free-Video-Victorian Erotica, Article-What Do Women Want?

Primer on recent article written by Daniel Bergner for the NYTimes magazine, “What Do Women Want?”

My comment regarding article:

While conducting focus groups for my dissertation several years ago, it became apparent that women were seeking a quick fix for their self-diagnosed low libidos. When I recommended erotica (often porn by another name) some women were pleased by the ‘permission’ I gave them with this suggestion. Other women cried fowl – ‘anti-feminist’ planting the seed for my Erotic Literary Salon. The space affords all sexes the opportunity to speak their inner sexual voice, with no judgment from the audience. Often women share fantasies that are anything but sweet and men express their softer side. Perhaps it is society’s expectations that even restrict our fantasies, often creating shame and limiting our true sexual turn-ons. It is ultimately our libido’s that suffer and we want to reach for a quick fix.

Excerpts:

1. It’s Complicated

The short answer: Who the &*%$ knows. Science-wise, the study of women’s sexuality is still at the baking soda and vinegar volcano stage. The field is underfunded and plagued by the idea that it’s a little pervy. It’s politically volatile and upsetting findings are assailed by both the right and left, and, not to rat out the sisters, but women are confusing. Our sexuality is a confusing morass of still-poorly understood biological reactions, psychology and societal expectations. Only recently scientists have discovered and mapped the extensive internal parts of the clitoris, there’s no agreement on whether or not the G-spot even exists, and some women can just think their way to orgasm. However…

2. Women are way more visual than they let on—or even realize.

Researchers hooked men and women up to genital arousal monitoring devices and showed them a variety of porn—a man masturbating, a man and woman having sex, even a pair of bonobo apes getting it on. The heterosexual men reported being most turned on by scenes of women with women, women alone, and men with women. (Homosexual men, same deal but with the orientations reversed.) Women, however, were actually turned on by it all, even the monkey sex. Did the women really not know what was going on with their bodies, or where they just embarrassed to admit that they were more turned on by bonobo hard-ons than a strolling naked man? Keep in mind that the women in this study were liberated enough to watch porn in a lab with wires hooked up to their groins.

3. Monogamy turns women off.

After one to four years of monogamy, a woman’s desire for her partner drops far more dramatically than a man’s. (This effect is markedly reduced if the couple lives apart.) The once white-hot passion of early love often turns into muted, dutiful sex or trying to avoid sex altogether. One woman in the book described marital sex thus: “My body would respond, but the pleasure was like the pleasure of returning library books.”

Read entire article, including comments:

http://www.damemagazine.com/2013/05/29/what-women-want-primer#comment-915407585