Tag: the erotic literary salon

Reminder-May 16, Tuesday-Celebrate-The Erotic Literary Salon-Metro Newspaper Article.

Happy 9th year anniversary to the Erotic Literary Salon. Come and celebrate with distinguished, author, teacher, freelance photographer Aaron Vessup, also friend and expat, retired in China. Come hear some steam, learn about sex in China, and probably some other surprises as well.

Thank you to Mike Fenn, an occasional attendee of the Salon, for writing this lovely article in the Metro.

The Erotic Literary Salon celebrates 9 years of sex

Dr. Susana Mayer curates original erotica from all over the Philly area.

While there has no doubt been progress since the mid-20th century, it remains a fact that, even in 2017, expressing one’s sexual side is still seen as a taboo topic. But all hope is not lost.

On the third Tuesday evening of each month, a crowd packs the upper level of Center City’s Time Lounge. Representing all ages, walks of life, and of course sexual experience, the members of this crowd have gathered for the Erotic Literary Salon: A Verbal Sanctuary for Sexual Expression. Over the next few hours, everyone will share personal stories (both fictitious and true), thoughts, laughs, and touching moments. And on Tuesday, May 16, this one-of-a-kind safe space will mark its ninth successful year in Philadelphia.

Local sexologist Dr. Susana Mayer founded and hosts the Erotic Literary Salon. Conceived in 2008 as a way to “mainstream erotica,” the Salon has since developed into an all-inclusive, sex-focused event designed to draw together like-minded artists and attendees.

“The event has evolved to include the witnessing, acceptance and support of people and their pieces as they share not only their fantasies, but lusty confessions, sex memoirs, journals, diaries, correspondence and rants, using a variety of writing styles, some of which I didn’t even realize existed,” Mayer explains.

Each Salon kicks off with an Adult Sex-Ed Salon, where audience members will anonymously pose questions and topics for Mayer and her co-host Walter to discuss. The Salon itself follows, where both new and veteran attendees take the mic to share their personal works—and works in progress—with an appreciative and engaged audience. Fictional erotica, true tales, poetry and even stand-up comedy are all welcome at the Salon. The narratives are punctuated by “six-word sex memoirs,” which audience members anonymously fill out before the event to be read by Mayer.

A special guest usually makes an appearance as well and May 16, it will be author and educator Aaron Vessup.

http://www.metro.us/things-do/philadelphia/erotic-literary-salon-philadelphia

Press Release-May 16-Celebrate 9th Anniversary-The Erotic Literary Salon/Adult Sex-Ed Salon

You’ve been attending since the beginning – you’re in love; when you have a date, or just in the mood – you know where to find your love; you attended once and can’t wait to get back – you’re falling in love; you’ve never been, you have no idea what it is, could be risqué?, (It can be, but only verbally). Please take the step or perhaps a leap for you, but honestly, you have nothing to lose but your Salon virginity.

Come help us celebrate the 9 years worth of love for the Erotic Literary Salon.

Philadelphia’s Erotic Literary Salon-Live and the Adult Sex-Ed Salon, 9th Anniversary Celebration with Featured Reader Aaron Vessup, along with Attendee Readers and Audience Share an Evening of Edutainment, Tuesday, May 16.

 

Thursday, April 26, 2017

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

 

 

PCSalons@gmail.com – contact: Susana Mayer, Ph.D., Salonnière,

PCSalons@gmail.comreserve a time slot to read at Salon (5 min max)

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – guidelines for reading.

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – blog: events, Salon notices, erotica, and guidelines.

 

The Erotic Literary Salon will be held Tuesday, May 16. The evening will start with the Adult Sex-Ed Salon a one-hour program devoted to sex and sexuality. The audience will create this month’s theme. They will have the opportunity to pose any questions regarding sex and sexuality anonymously. Sexologist Susana Mayer, PhD, along with co-host Walter will facilitate the Adult Sex-Ed Salon and attendees interested in sharing their knowledge and experiences will join in the discussion.

 

Aaron Vessup, teacher, author and freelance photographer will honor the Erotic Literary Salon with his wonderful writings, as we celebrate 9 years of creating a verbal sanctuary for sexual expression. Come and be awed by his original works steeped in erotic multiculturalism.

 

PHILADELPHIA: The Erotic Literary Salon, unique in the English-speaking world has launched a growing movement mainstreaming erotica. Salons attract a supportive audience of 65 or more individuals. Approximately 15 attendees participate as writers, readers, storytellers, spoken word performers of original works, some read, “missed connections” and “romance” shorts from Craig’s list. The rest of the attendees come to listen, enjoy and applaud.

 

Salons gather the 3rd Tuesday of every month at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge), 1315 Sansom Street, Center City, Philadelphia. Doors open at 6:30 p.m., for cocktails, food and conversation. Adult Sex-Ed between 7:00-8:00, readings begin at 8:30. Admission is $12, discounted for students and seniors to $10. Salon attendees must be 21.

 

Creator of this event, Dr. Susana, is Philadelphia’s best-known sexologist. She lends her voice to the Salon by offering relevant information to support the discussions that arise in the Salon and blog.

…surprisingly comfortable….Salon devotees praise her for the space she has created….”

“I think Susana is doing a very brave thing.”

Philadelphia Inquirer, February 10, 2010

 

“There are laughter and tears along with the hot rush of blood – to the face.

Daily News, March 15, 2010

 

“I never knew such a life of honesty could exist. I finally found a home I can be comfortable in…this event changed my life.

First-time attendee and reader 2013

 

 

Tonight-Tuesday-April 18-The Erotic Literary Salon/Adult Sex-Ed Salon-Live

Last month’s addition of “I love you/I hate you” rants was so very successful it has become part of the Salon’s evening. In addition, “missed connections, romance and relationship rants from around the world will be read by willing members of the audience.

Whether you become a participant of the evening, or sit back and just listen and applause or do all the above, your ears will be filled with erotic, often times sexual explicit words. While the evening enfolds filled with various verbal expressions of love and hate, 6 word sexual memoirs, sex Q&A’s and readings from the attendees, you can sip on absinthe or your drink of choice and eat divine food from TIME.

Do come and introduce yourself to me, entertain a date and/or meet a new potential friend.

“What Porn Leaves Out,” Reminder-Tuesday-April 18-The Erotic Literary Salon/Adult Sex-Ed Salon

Dr. Marty Klein’s view on porn. The famous sex therapist who offers a fresh and often enlightening perspective on all things sexual.

What Porn Leaves Out

Many people complain about what porn shows viewers. While some of these complaints are accurate (guys instantly erect; women enjoying cum on their faces), they’re often inaccurate (most porn does NOT portray violence; porn DOES offer a wide range of men’s and women’s bodies).

What rarely gets discussed is what porn leaves out.

Today’s internet porn is primarily a visual medium (as compared with, say, the ancient Greek poems of Sappho or the 18th-century novels of the Marquis de Sade). That means it leaves out anything that isn’t visually compelling. And as it happens, a lot of what makes sex satisfying in real life is boring to watch on film.

This isn’t a criticism. Internet porn doesn’t pretend to show real life, only a fictionalized version of it—like the worlds of Sherlock Holmes or Seinfeld’s gang.

And one way porn portrays its fictionalized world is by omitting exactly what makes real sex what it is. So what does porn NOT include?

* Kissing and hugging
The penis and vulva may be the center of attention during sex, but it’s kissing and hugging that get us to sex, that keep us connected during sex, and that transition us from sex back down to earth. Passionate kissing can be very exciting and intimate, while skin-to-skin contact is one of the most common reasons people have sex in the first place.

* Talking and laughing
Assuming that people can agree on a common vocabulary (Penis? Dick? Conan the Barbarian?), talking during sex provides information, reassurance, self-expression, and a sense of the others’ presence. People who can’t ask questions during sex limit the pleasure, variety, and meaningfulness of their experience.
Laughing? Sex is way too important to be treated grimly. If you’ve ever watched a dog watch you having sex, you know just how ridiculous we look. And when things don’t go as planned, laughing together is sometimes the only reasonable response—and the thing that gives us permission to resume sex.

* Handling the unexpected; going slowly; afterwards
Sex is too complex for everything to go smoothly every time. Products and toys may be hard to open or use. Leg cramps or sore backs may intrude without warning. Bodies may provide unwanted and poorly-timed smells or fluids. Porn shows none of these—because none of these are sexy on film. In real life? People cooperating to get beyond these minor obstacles can be sexy indeed.
Sex in real life ebbs and flows, whereas in porn if scenes languish, they lose viewers. Going slowly can bond lovers, can increase arousal, and can equalize desire. On film, that’s boring. And after sex? That’s usually the slowest time of all. It may involve satisfied looks and hand-holding—hardly what a masturbating audience craves.

* Birth control
Intercourse without using birth control? Without discussing birth control? It happens way too often in the real world. It happens almost 100% of the time in porn. Most heterosexual porn consumers think condoms are un-sexy, and discussing pills, diaphragms, IUDs, and implants—well, if talking sexy isn’t sexy enough to include in a porn film, talking about birth control surely isn’t.

* Off-screen preparation
This is the biggest category of all. Before the cameras roll, professionals prepare. If a scene will involve anal sex, preparation may include an enema. Vaginas and rectums are often packed with lubricant. The guys may use an erection drug.
Actors and actresses will discuss what they’re about to portray, especially if the sex is fast-paced or complicated. How far back can you bend your legs without discomfort? Do you prefer your nipples pulled, squeezed, or twisted? Do you want your scrotum involved or left alone? And by the way, are you left-handed or right-handed?
Unlike consumers who want novelty in their sex, professionals want predictability. And remember, any depictions of rough sex are totally consensual. No actress is ambushed on set and suddenly spanked, whipped, or forced to gag on a penis—it’s all worked out ahead of time. It may look uncomfortable, even shocking, but it’s…acting!

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To increase Porn Literacy in both adults and young people, we have to talk about the constructed, edited nature of what they watch. Porn isn’t a peek inside someone’s bedroom—it’s a visual representation of someone’s imagination. A cross between culture, psychology, and art, that imagination produces products for consumers—appealing to what it believes we want, and leaving out the rest. To understand it, it helps to know what’s missing.

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