Please join me in celebrating the 11th year of the Salon’s mission – A verbal sanctuary for sexual expression.
Also celebrating the book launch of A New Normal, by attendee Dr. Jennifer Booker.
Passional Boutique / Sexploration has generously offered 4 gift certificates values at $25 each to be given away with free raffle. But stay till the end of the Salon when numbers will be called. In honor of your anniversary the gift certificates will be raffled off monthly.
The Erotic Literary Salon will be held Tuesday, May 21. Come celebrate the launching of Dr. Jennifer Booker’s book, “The New Normal: Coming Out as a Transgender in Midlife.” Jennifer has been presenting at the Salon since 2012. We have been fortunate to witness her coming out journey as transgender and going through transition. At the May Salon she will share some of her insights and experiences. Jennifer will be doing a book signing at the Salon,”and givingaway one copy to the lucky raffle winner. Her website is docjennifer.org
The evening will start with the Adult Sex-Ed Salon a one-hour program devoted to sex and sexuality. The audience will have the opportunity to pose any questions regarding sex and sexuality anonymously.Sexologist Susana Mayer, PhD, along with co-host Walter will facilitate the Adult Sex-Ed Salon and attendees interested in sharing their knowledge and experiences will join in the discussion. This is always an extremely lively, audience driven Q & A period.
PHILADELPHIA: Since 2008, The Erotic Literary Salon, unique in the English-speaking world has launched a growing movement mainstreaming erotica. Salons attract a supportive audience of 60 or more individuals. Approximately 10-15 attendees participate as writers, readers, storytellers, spoken-word performers of original works. The audience has the opportunity to participate sometimes reading sexuality quotes from various books or they can just listen, enjoy and applaud. The attendees also have the opportunity to create caption for erotic cartoon specifically designed for the Salon. Sign-up to read at the door; guidelines can be found at the Salon’s website.
Salons gather the 3rd Tuesday of every month at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge), 1315 Sansom Street, Center City, Philadelphia. Doors open at 6:30 p.m., for cocktails, food and conversation. Adult Sex-Ed between7:00-8:00, readings begin at approximately8:30. Admission is $12, discounted for students and seniors to $10. Salon attendees must be 21.
Creator of this event, Dr. Susana, is Philadelphia’s best-known sexologist. She lends her voice to the Salon by offering relevant information to support the discussions that arise in the Salon and blog.
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“Finding my voice in such an amazing community has been such a light in my life. I’m feeling whole and full of love.
At tomorrows Salon you get to describe the best sex you ever had in 1 sentence-anonymously in print. Start reminiscing.
21 Men Describe The Best Sex They Ever Had In Graphic Detail
1. She Took COMPLETE control
She got on top, pinned my arms down, and then proceeded to use me to get herself off. I could understand that sounding selfish, but being used as an object for her sexual pleasure was absolutely awesome.
2. Lazy Hotel Sex
Best sex of my life.
My Fiance and I had just driven 16 hours straight to get to Pensacola, FL. We had traveled there to get a FL marriage license because we were getting married in Key West later in the month. We were both exhausted and a little delirious when we finally checked into the hotel and got to our room. I asked her if she wanted to have “sleepy lazy hotel sex.” We made love for over an hour just in the missionary position, barely moving… just kissing and basically just writhing in each other’s arms. We both had the most mind blowing orgasms simultaneously, we just laid there spooning while I was still inside her until we fell asleep.
We awoke maybe 12 hours later and went for round two… been chasing that high ever since. We’ve been married about a year now.
3. A Lifechanging Fling
Wall of text coming. I need to get this off my chest.
They most primal sex organ is the brain itself. If your brain is running smoothly, nothing but the most awesome sex will happen. And the brain gets on full revs when there is chemistry when you click, you just match with the right person.
Without that connection, good sex can be good, but nothing beats having your brain intoxicated with love hormones. NOTHING.
I was (am) coming out of a sexless marriage, where sex was, well, bad. She was tired of being played by men, completely focused on her research work and just shy about men overall.
We met at a conference abroad. She liked me but was too shy to approach. We got introduced. We clicked instantly. We started jumping lectures to talk about ourselves and our work. Still, I was not expecting anything else at this point. The first night I just awkwardly escorted her to her hotel and walked to mine.
The next day, I saw her again, looking for me among the crowd. We spent the day together, sacrificing some of her lectures so she could go to my lectures and vice versa (in conferences, it is common that several lectures run at the same time, forcing the attendees to pick between them). Again, we were just spending time together…not really looking for anything else.
Then comes the night, we recruit other people, we go for dinner, she quickly picks a seat next to me, still shy about being open with her feelings. An old lady comes begging for some money, she is super sweet to I gave her money and start a funny conversation with me. I could see in my girl’s eyes her heart was melting and that gave me a huge rush.
We ate, went for drinks, then to a salsa bar. Danced with some other girls, just teaching them a few steps here and there. Then she asked me to dance with her. And this is when the magic starts to happen: she wasn’t very trained dancing salsa and bachata (a super sexy latin rhythm) however, she held on to me and within a minute we were flying over the dancefloor. We could not even believe this was happening. We danced for hours. Everyone else got bored and left. I kicked the DJ out of the booth (he was a pretty chill guy) so we could play our favorites over and over.
Then we sat down to rest. Then we talked. Then I kissed her. That first kiss made my mind explode. The first thing that rushed into my mind was that I haven’t been kissed like this in no less than a decade. It was her lips, it was her enthusiasm, she kissed me like she wanted to kiss me forever, we could not even stop to breath… we kissed and kissed until the bar closed. I could just not get enough.
The walk back was horrible: we could do more than ten steps without collapsing on some wall kissing again. We decided to go to my place. We had sex until the morning. All over the place. No porn acrobatics, no acting. Just honest, sincere, wild sex.
I could not sleep for the few hours I had left before the conference. I had cheated for the first time. Yet I haven’t felt so loved and cared for in years. We cried tears of joy when she woke up.
The next two days were similar: dancing for hours, swimming naked in the sea at 4 in the morning, then rushing up to our bed.
Came back home and filed for divorce. I haven’t been happier in years. It was not about the sex: it was about affection and boundless love. That is what makes the best sex.
One night my girlfriend and I had rented some Spongebob Seasons. She decides to go to the bathroom and says she’ll be right back. She’s in there for 20 minutes.
Finally, she comes out and tells me to not turn around and to close my eyes. I feel her kiss me, rope go around my hands, and then I open my eyes and she’s in a schoolgirl outfit.
We fucked like crazy for about 3 hours.
Best part was: Since spongebob was still playing in the background, we would hear a funny part about to come up, stop and laugh, then continue on.
Best. Sex. Ever.
6. Breakup Sex
The weekend my ex and I broke up. We’d been dating for ~a year. Things had been tense for a while. Not bad, just tense. I was working 4-midnight, and she was working like 15 hour days finishing her last year of Med School. We had a talk on Friday night and decided we were going to try to make it work. We reassured each other that we loved each other and then proceeded to literallyspend the next two days having sex. Sometimes hardcore and brutal, sometimes so loving and gentle it was less sex than hugging with penetration. We went through every permutation of every position and act I can imagine (minus butthole pleasures). We went at it for 2 days, only stopping to order food and buy Gatorade.
Sunday morning we went to brunch and it was just kind of…off. We broke up while sharing eggs Benedict and after that day I never saw or heard from her again.
Soon after getting married we went on a sort of the vacations to the Black Sea area. There we rented one of those triangular cottages that have roof for their walls. It was completely surrounded by pines and cypresses so despite being flimsy it was rather private. Thing didn’t have any AC and would heat up like an oven, there was just enough space inside for two pulled together twin beds. On the first day there, on the way to the cottage, we picked up a half gallon jug of local young wine, still local grapes and giant chunk of honeycomb, dripping with honey.
Once we got to the cottage our clothes just fell off and pretty much stayed off for the rest of the week there. Something in the air, wine, honey and fruit diet, all those cypresses and pines around – I don’t know what caused it. It was the best sex ever. We’d stop mid-fuck because we were just too hot, jump out on the little porch and pour water from those 2-liter soda bottles on each other – that was the only way to cool down – and get right back to it.
8. The Figure Skater
I once had a FWB thing with a figure skater. She had the strongest pelvic floor (kegel) muscles I have ever experienced–like, phenomenally strong. She was on top of me and basically alternated “milking” me and doing slow, drawn-out up-and-down motions. I was at that “almost about to cum” stage for like 20 minutes–I would want her to just FINISH ALREADY and she wouldn’t move a muscle, and just when the feeling was about the pass–SQUEEZE.
Had a girl over and started having sex. It was great, and after a half hour I’m close to finishing. Part of the reason we started is because it was raining outside and she was turned on by it, the sound. During my vinegar strokes, a big lightning strike comes through the window and glows on my face. And as a I let out the last thrust, the loudest thunder crack you’ve ever heard rattles the house as I’m climaxing. I’ll never forget the look on her face. It was awesome.
I was dating this really shy, quiet, slightly nerdy girl. You wouldn’t describe her as sexy, but as adorable. A nice girl. A sweetheart. She was totally the exact opposite of my type, but she was so smart, and an all-around really good person.
Anyway, the 1st time we had sex, she asked me to lie on the bed and close my eyes. I assumed she was just a little self-conscious or something. When she told me to open them, she had her hair down and was wearing black lace lingerie and fishnets. Giving me a mischevious, Stoya like smile she starts massaging my entire body, teasing her tongue all over it and lightly blowing while I’m damn near going crazy. By the time she finally whispered “take me now” I had never before or after wanted a woman so fucking bad. Goddamnit I miss her.
11. Closet floor sex
Her mom was asleep on the other side of the house…it was late…we were horny…I grabbed a condom and we rushed into her closet, since her bed was squeaky and her closet had carpet, we dropped our pants and I fucked her. She had to brace herself against the wall so as not to bump into it, and she had to restrain herself from making noise because it felt so good. Right before I came, she pulled her shirt down, and the sight of her enormous boobies bouncing up and down pushed me over the edge…holy fuck it was sexy.
12. Dirty And Raunchy
I feel like a lot of people equate “best” with emotion and intimacy. If I’m being honest the best sex I’ve ever had was the exact opposite; it was dirty and raunchy and that’s what made it so good.
Went out for a night on the town with a girl I’d gone on a few dates with. We’d hooked up before but always in a pretty tame way because roommates were always around. This time I had my own personal suite to come home to. Both of us came back absolutely plastered. I literally tore off her cocktail dress and threw her on the bed, blindfolded her with my tie, wrapped my belt around her neck and fucked the ever-living shit out of her until the sun came up. I distinctly remember her telling me she was my “own personal fuck-toy” and that she wanted me to “tear her apart like the useless whore I am.” It was savage. It was barbaric. And it was fucking awesome.
Best sex I ever had was the one girl who had the confidence and gusto to pin me do the bed, and have sex on top of me. Before she started, she was grinding on me before even asking if I wanted to have sex. Then she kept asking again and again in a teasing way that was like asking, “How about now? Now that I’ve done this, how about now. Now that you’ve seen my breasts, how about now?” – It was playful, but super confident.
It was so nice to have a girl try to do ANYTHING to turn me on. Girls don’t do that shit. They expect you to just be on, and then it’s you turning THEM on… every fucking time.
Not this one. She was kind of like a cocky/confident man in bed, and I loved it. Never felt so turned on.
I ended a relationship so I could date her. I went about a year without dating others because I wanted to be available for her. I eventually moved to China to be with her again, that’s years later.
In a few months, we move into an apartment together. The point of mentioning moving to China and waiting is to expressly detail how fucking super-important it is for a girl to know how to be good in bed. I would sacrifice damn near anything for her because she’s unique. She’s special, she has value above any other girl I’ve ever gotten close to because she’s fucking good in bed. She knows what she’s doing.
We get to have that kind of sex pretty regularly. I found a girl that actually enjoys sex, actually has passion, actually likes the male figure, and likes penetration… I hit the fucking jackpot and I know that if I ever let her get away, she’s the one I’ll fantasize about while having sex with my wife in ten, twenty, thirty years. She will be the one that I always fantasize about.
I plan on making her that wife. – THAT, women, is why you need to learn how to have proper sex and show a little confidence in the bedroom. Don’t just spread out like a dead starfish. No man wants to fuck like that. No man will remember or want you, or wait for you, or cross a fucking ocean if you only offer average sex. Game up!
The best sex I ever had also happened to be the most irresponsible sex I ever had. Storytime!
I met this girl while I was traveling and we immediately hit it off. Unfortunately, we only had a few days before the thing I was traveling for ended and I had to go back home.
After I got back home I learned she was about to visit my state for something else and I immediately told her to get her ass over to my place when she was done sight seeing. She happily agreed.
When my doorbell finally rang and I opened my door to see her my lizard brain took over. I remember pulling her inside, kissing her, tearing at each other’s clothes, and hiking her dress up while I pinned her against the wall and drove myself inside her, bare, while she wrapped her legs behind my back.
I finished inside her and as I came she had the most incredible orgasm. It was the most intense sex I’ve ever had.
And to answer the natural questions that I am sure you’re thinking: no, she didn’t get pregnant. No, we didn’t catch anything from the other. And no, I definitely do not plan to have unprotected sex with basically strangers in the future.
I was dating this girl who was beautiful, fun and super sexy. We spent a weekend together having as much sex as we physically could. That was awesome, however, she was just so physically into me that is what made it the best.
It seems like most women nowadays will have sex but not passion. When this girl was so hungry for me it was astounding and made it so much better. I am still trying to find that passion again.
When I was 19-20 there was a girl I liked a whole lot. I would go out partying with her and her friends as the dd. One of her friends had a slammin body; 5’7, 38dd, maybe 125-130 (not a carnival worker, all I know is she was proportionate) and looooved alcohol. Everyone knew I liked her friend. She invites me over one night for drinks. I bring a bottle of grey goose, we do a shot on her couch and she jumps me bones. Literally. Just straight up grabbed me and the night got started. The sex was incredible. Everything about that night was awesome. All my girlfriends up until that point had been kinda small. So being with a taller, curvier lady was nice. Also having her be aggressive was nice. And it was the first marathon sex I’ve ever had. That went on for a couple of months. The friends with benefits, not the marathon sex.
Dated a girl for a few months, and then broke it off. A few weeks later she texted me…I had a sex fantasy about you, if you want guilt free sex, it’s tonight. I replied with a time. When I get there she steps out of the elevator, and a few people were on it, so we casually said hello. Soon as they are off she slams me against the wall. We get into her place and clothes are flying everywhere, walls are being crashed into, music is rocking loud. she would be aggressive, then I would. It was like a movie. Afterward, we are drenched in sweat and out of breath.. and I say “I think I called you a Bitch.. sorry about that” and we laugh our asses off.
My best sex was a one night stand turn into a three-day fuckfest. I was out at the clubs and I see a girl I know making out with this really hot, thin brunette. This brunette was all about fun, she kissed me, repeatedly flashed and played with her tits in front of me.
We sat down at a bar, she bought me a drink. She really knew how to be coy, playful and say the right things. Proclaimed I wasn’t her type but so good looking she didn’t care, kissed me more. It was nearing closing time and she left her barstool for a bit to get something, fifteen minutes went by and I decided I didn’t want to wait anymore so I headed to the exit to find her again. She threw her arms around my neck. An important lesson to learn there, never let a hyperactive boozed girl disappear.
Nonetheless, we head back to my place and boy do we get it on. For three days with only a short break on day two for her to go home and get stuff we fucked and fucked and fucked. I usually don’t orgasm from sex but I shot a fucking jet stream into her several times. Slapping, choking, ass licking, anal. I buried my tongue so far into her ass I almost came from that alone. We used over half a bottle of oil and loads of lube, slid around on each other. I ate her out so many times I had trouble speaking due to my tongue being worn out. And she knew how to suck dick, not sensual, not casually but like she worshiped the cock. The kind of blowjob you feel like she treats your dick as the source of life.
Whenever we took a break we’d lay on the couch and watch some movie I’d just slide it in and just lay there slowly fucking throughout the whole movie, then back to playraping. I love ass to mouth and licking ass so I made sure to fuck her in both holes then face fuck her then make out like our tongues were glued to each other, sharing the taste of her juices.
After she left on the third day I was so sexed up and horny I headed out to the bar to get laid. At the entrance to the club, I met some female friends of me that started clapping. Turns out I rocked her world so hard she’d never gotten fucked like that ever in her life.
Sadly we never hooked up again, some almosts but usually ended in us making out at clubs then either of us getting shitfaced and disappearing. I’m still good friends with her, she’s engaged to some dude now but we both remember and talk our wonderful weekend together. If she’s ever single again I’ll text her in a heartbeat.
The other best sex I had was the girl that taught me the joy of oil. I brought a couple girls and a mate home for an afterparty. Went into my bedroom and fucked for a while. Pretty damn good. She needed some rest so I went into the living room, had sex with the other girl whilst my mate was in the bathroom, came in like two minutes. He leaves with the girl.
I head back into the bedroom, and now that we were alone she turned into a sex fiend. She took my oil and oiled us both up completely. She has large cheekbones, the most seductive green eyes, and big pouty lips. She oiling my shaft with both her hands while sucking me occasionally looking up with her fuck me face was amazing. She had never liked anal, but we went into the shower, I said “fuck this I’m not letting this chance go”, lubed her ass up good fingering her with three fingers before I slid in and went to town. Her screaming my name and complimenting me while I hammered her ass was amazing. We ended up fucking everywhere, even ruined my sink as it tore from the wall. We ended up fucking for years when she got away from her boyfriend. She’s single now so started seeing her again.
It seems sex that glorifies me really turns me on, god knows why but vocal, seductive women that take charge, compliment me but let me dominate them really gets me going.
Best sex? Most definitely on the night of my 21st birthday. Instead of going out to the bars and getting shitfaced like the average college aged kid, my girlfriend and I at the time decided to make the night something we would never forget. A couple hours before sunset we headed out to go camping on a small beach surrounded by tall cliffs for the night. We brought the usual camping gear but with a few fun extras. Mp3 player, speakers,6 pack of some tasty microbrew, plenty of cannabis, 3 hits of some quality LSD
Needless to say, the night was the PERFECT temperature to lounge around under the stars fully nude, tripping balls, and having the most amazing sex I will ever experience. It was as if we were two greek gods making love while the very fabric of our existence intermingled.
Not the best sex I’ve ever had but definitely the best one nighter.
There was a group of friends I saw every now and then, so did this girl. We were both peripheral members of the core group. Anyway, we didn’t get on, like at all. We would argue and make jibes at each other in front of the others. Anyway were at a gathering and 3 of the girls go out to get some weed and more alcohol, the guys go with them as they didn’t want them going by themselves. I would have gone myself but I was having a smoke in the back garden.
So they leave and it’s just this girl, myself and a guy who passed out on the toilet early doors.
We’re forced to deal with this situation, we tried talking and it escalated into a semi-flirty argument which I ended with…’you couldn’t handle me’. So she straddled me right there on the sofa and we had an incredibly intense anger fuck and finished, got ourselves looking presentable again before the others arrive. We never had sex again but it did wonders for our relationship, no more arguments.
She was absolutely beautiful, she was comfortable as hell with herself, and most importantly she was like an Olympic gold medalist in kegel exercises. She could make her pussy squeeze and contort in ways I never thought possible. I lasted all of 30 seconds. The second time all of a minute, the third time maybe a minute and thirty seconds. We were just fuck buddies for a couple months, but never once did I ever fuck her. She fucked the shit out of me every single time. My saving grace was that I’ve got oral down to an absolute art. She kept coming back for the oral and was so kind she let me flop around on top of her for 45 seconds afterward everytime. That pussy was literally designed and chiseled by gods. It was not of this world.
Looking forward to the next Erotic Literary Salon. Consider reading, great support from the audience especially if you’ve never read before. We love “virgin” readers, we’ll clap before and after you present your words!
Marijuana really DOES give women better orgasms: New study finds cannabis leaves users twice as likely to report sexual satisfaction
It’s a common claim among marijuana enthusiasts that the plant can boost sexual arousal and even lead to more powerful orgasms.
And now, there’s research to back it up.
A new study that analyzed reports from hundreds of women, both pot smokers and non-smokers, has found that marijuana use prior to sex doubles the chances of having a more satisfying orgasm.
THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN THC AND CBD
Tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) and cannabidiol (CBD) are both derived from the cannabis plant.
Together, they are part of the cannabinoid group of compounds found in hashish, hash oil, and most strains of marijuana.
THC is the psychoactive compound responsible for the euphoric, ‘high’ feeling often associated with marijuana.
THC interacts with CB1 receptors in the central nervous system and brain and creates the sensations of euphoria and anxiety.
CBD does not fit these receptors well, and actually decreases the effects of THC, and is not psychoactive.
CBD is thought to help reduce anxiety and inflammation.
Exactly why marijuana seems to improve the sexual experience is still somewhat of a mystery. But over the years, scientists have come up with several possible explanations.
‘It has been postulated that it leads to improvement in sexual function simply by lowering stress and anxiety,’ researchers explain in the new paper, published to the journal Sexual Medicine.
‘It may slow the temporal perception of time and prolong the feelings of pleasurable sensations. It may lower sexual inhibitions and increase confidence and a willingness to experiment.
‘Marijuana is also known to heighten sensations such as touch, smell, sight, taste, and hearing.’
The study led by a team at the Saint Louis University School of Medicine reviewed self-reported survey responses from 373 women.
About 47 percent of the participants indicated that they were marijuana smokers, and of this group, 34 percent noted that they used it before sex.
To find out how pot use factors into sexual satisfaction, the researchers developed a Sexual Health Survey addressing a broad variety of topics, including sex drive, lubrication, and the presence of sex-related pain.
‘To limit bias, the authors embedded the questions about marijuana deeper into the questionnaire,’ the paper notes.
In reviewing the data, the researchers found significant differences in the participants’ reported sexual experiences depending on whether they used marijuana beforehand or not.
‘Most women reported increases in sex drive, improvement in orgasm, decrease in pain, but no change in lubrication,’ the researchers wrote.
These differences translate to 2.13 higher odds of reporting ‘satisfactory orgasms’ for women who smoke pot.
‘Marijuana appears to improve satisfaction with orgasm,’ the team concluded.
‘Women who used marijuana before sex and those who used more frequently were more than twice as likely to report satisfactory orgasms as those who did not use marijuana before sex or used infrequently,’ the researchers wrote in the paper.
‘Our study is consistent with past studies of the effects of marijuana on sexual behaviour in women.’
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Monica Day performance/reading two poems: The Fifth Year and This is My Body for January 2013 Erotic Literary Salon
M. Dante reading SKIN dedicated to the art and inspiration of Heide Hatry for December 2013 Erotic Literary Salon
Frances' reading,“Go the Fok to Sleep”