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FREE TICKETS to DAN SAVAGE’S HUMP FILM FESTIVAL

I was approached by Dan Savage’s marketing coordinator to help promote his HUMP! Film Festival (May 12 & 13 Fringe Arts Theater, Philadelphia). She was unable to provide discount tickets as I had requested, however, she offered 2 free tickets.

I have decided to hold a contest, you can win one ticket for either the Friday 9:30pm or Sat. 5pm show. Rules will be in the Erotic Literary Salon’s newsletter to be sent out early evening, May 10, Wednesday – check your in box. If you are not subscribed, go to the right side of the Salon’s home page and press the subscribe button.

This is a fabulous event, I’ve attended in the past and unfortunately I’ll still be in Florida on my personal writing retreat until the day before our special Salon, May 16. The Erotic Literary Salon’s 9th Anniversary. An event not to be missed.

HUMP 2017 Press release

 

Tonight-Tuesday-April 18-The Erotic Literary Salon/Adult Sex-Ed Salon-Live

Last month’s addition of “I love you/I hate you” rants was so very successful it has become part of the Salon’s evening. In addition, “missed connections, romance and relationship rants from around the world will be read by willing members of the audience.

Whether you become a participant of the evening, or sit back and just listen and applause or do all the above, your ears will be filled with erotic, often times sexual explicit words. While the evening enfolds filled with various verbal expressions of love and hate, 6 word sexual memoirs, sex Q&A’s and readings from the attendees, you can sip on absinthe or your drink of choice and eat divine food from TIME.

Do come and introduce yourself to me, entertain a date and/or meet a new potential friend.

“What Porn Leaves Out,” Reminder-Tuesday-April 18-The Erotic Literary Salon/Adult Sex-Ed Salon

Dr. Marty Klein’s view on porn. The famous sex therapist who offers a fresh and often enlightening perspective on all things sexual.

What Porn Leaves Out

Many people complain about what porn shows viewers. While some of these complaints are accurate (guys instantly erect; women enjoying cum on their faces), they’re often inaccurate (most porn does NOT portray violence; porn DOES offer a wide range of men’s and women’s bodies).

What rarely gets discussed is what porn leaves out.

Today’s internet porn is primarily a visual medium (as compared with, say, the ancient Greek poems of Sappho or the 18th-century novels of the Marquis de Sade). That means it leaves out anything that isn’t visually compelling. And as it happens, a lot of what makes sex satisfying in real life is boring to watch on film.

This isn’t a criticism. Internet porn doesn’t pretend to show real life, only a fictionalized version of it—like the worlds of Sherlock Holmes or Seinfeld’s gang.

And one way porn portrays its fictionalized world is by omitting exactly what makes real sex what it is. So what does porn NOT include?

* Kissing and hugging
The penis and vulva may be the center of attention during sex, but it’s kissing and hugging that get us to sex, that keep us connected during sex, and that transition us from sex back down to earth. Passionate kissing can be very exciting and intimate, while skin-to-skin contact is one of the most common reasons people have sex in the first place.

* Talking and laughing
Assuming that people can agree on a common vocabulary (Penis? Dick? Conan the Barbarian?), talking during sex provides information, reassurance, self-expression, and a sense of the others’ presence. People who can’t ask questions during sex limit the pleasure, variety, and meaningfulness of their experience.
Laughing? Sex is way too important to be treated grimly. If you’ve ever watched a dog watch you having sex, you know just how ridiculous we look. And when things don’t go as planned, laughing together is sometimes the only reasonable response—and the thing that gives us permission to resume sex.

* Handling the unexpected; going slowly; afterwards
Sex is too complex for everything to go smoothly every time. Products and toys may be hard to open or use. Leg cramps or sore backs may intrude without warning. Bodies may provide unwanted and poorly-timed smells or fluids. Porn shows none of these—because none of these are sexy on film. In real life? People cooperating to get beyond these minor obstacles can be sexy indeed.
Sex in real life ebbs and flows, whereas in porn if scenes languish, they lose viewers. Going slowly can bond lovers, can increase arousal, and can equalize desire. On film, that’s boring. And after sex? That’s usually the slowest time of all. It may involve satisfied looks and hand-holding—hardly what a masturbating audience craves.

* Birth control
Intercourse without using birth control? Without discussing birth control? It happens way too often in the real world. It happens almost 100% of the time in porn. Most heterosexual porn consumers think condoms are un-sexy, and discussing pills, diaphragms, IUDs, and implants—well, if talking sexy isn’t sexy enough to include in a porn film, talking about birth control surely isn’t.

* Off-screen preparation
This is the biggest category of all. Before the cameras roll, professionals prepare. If a scene will involve anal sex, preparation may include an enema. Vaginas and rectums are often packed with lubricant. The guys may use an erection drug.
Actors and actresses will discuss what they’re about to portray, especially if the sex is fast-paced or complicated. How far back can you bend your legs without discomfort? Do you prefer your nipples pulled, squeezed, or twisted? Do you want your scrotum involved or left alone? And by the way, are you left-handed or right-handed?
Unlike consumers who want novelty in their sex, professionals want predictability. And remember, any depictions of rough sex are totally consensual. No actress is ambushed on set and suddenly spanked, whipped, or forced to gag on a penis—it’s all worked out ahead of time. It may look uncomfortable, even shocking, but it’s…acting!

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To increase Porn Literacy in both adults and young people, we have to talk about the constructed, edited nature of what they watch. Porn isn’t a peek inside someone’s bedroom—it’s a visual representation of someone’s imagination. A cross between culture, psychology, and art, that imagination produces products for consumers—appealing to what it believes we want, and leaving out the rest. To understand it, it helps to know what’s missing.

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http://www.martyklein.com

Porn Digital Art, Habits of Highly Erotic People

I enjoy sharing blogs and articles I think the attendees of the Erotic Literary Salon will appreciate. Nerve and The Paris Review are today’s blog contributors.

The Habits of Highly Erotic People

What can the French teach Americans about sex?

vintage french adFrom a 1923 French advertisement

Last month, as the New York Post went into paroxysms over the latest French presidential love triangle, we found a more academic comment on French habits of the heart, thanks to our attendance at a panel on “The Art of Sex and Seduction,” sponsored by the Alliance Française. On the first of its three nights, entitled “Did the French invent love?”, Catherine Cusset, a former professor of French literature at Yale, told a story:

A countess invites a young man to her house after running into him at the opera. After a stiff meal with her husband, who retires to his private apartments, the countess leads her guest down a secret passageway into a bedroom. The walls and ceiling are covered with gilded mirrors. Sexual frenzy ensues. At daybreak, the giddy, exhausted young man emerges from the den and runs into a marquis who has just arrived. The marquis thanks him profusely. The young man realizes that he has served merely as a decoy to distract the count from his wife’s true lover. The husband appears for breakfast and greets the marquis cordially. The last line of this story—Vivant Denon’s No Tomorrow, first published in 1777—reads, “I looked for some moral to this adventure and … I could find none.”

“There is no moral lesson,” Cusset said pointedly, and a communal gasp could be heard in Florence Gould Hall. Throughout the series, the audience was susceptible to gasps, audible stirring, and sudden eruptions of laughter. The French and American panelists, who included historians, scientists, sex therapists, and journalists, spoke about vaginas and orgasms in that purposefully blunt way one always expects and yet can seldom prepare for. Here’s what we learned about the difference between French and American sexual customs and attitudes, with a few startling facts about tout le monde.

  • “Love, for the French, is tied up with adultery,” explained Marilyn Yalom, a feminist scholar at Stanford. Marriage in the Middle Ages, as least in the upper classes, was a contract related to the exchange of rank and property. Love was, therefore, to be found outside the marriage, leading to the mythic French threesome: the husband, the wife, the mistress.
  • Studies show that Americans and French have similar rates of infidelity, but the French, “marathoners,” have longer, and therefore fewer, affairs. Americans are “sprinters,” with more frequent but shorter trysts.
  • Older French women are considered sexual beings. A nonagenarian is to be respected as a repository of sexual history. When Colette was nearing fifty, pointed out her biographer Judith Thurman, she had an affair with her sixteen-year-old stepson, among other men-children.
  • Cusset once assigned Woman Destroyed, the novella by Simone de Beauvoir, in a class at Yale. The diary of a woman who discovers her husband of twenty years has been unfaithful, it records a gradual nervous breakdown. Cusset was surprised by her American students’ reaction. “They thought she whined too much. They didn’t understand that you can be broken by love.” Love as the loss of control—whether it brings ecstasy or devastation, within or without marriage—is a French ideal. Total surrender is too much for an American. We prefer to check boxes for the ideal mate.
  • More casually accepted notions in France: When a woman has married and produced the heir and a spare, she is free to live her own sexual life. A lover outside the marriage can save a marriage.
  • Marie de Bonaparte, a great-niece of the emperor and a student of Freud’s, was convinced that her frigidity was the result of an anatomical defect. After measuring the distance from the clitoris to the vagina in a group of women, she found that those with a shorter distance were more orgasmic. She had surgery to shorten hers. It didn’t work. She did it again, with no better luck.
  • Forty million Americans describe themselves as sex-starved. According to Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers and chief scientific consultant to the dating site chemistry.com, it is often a question of mismatched libidos—an adventurer paired with a traditionalist, for example.
  • Studies show single Americans are having sex especially rarely. An audience member blamed Internet porn; the American sex therapist Ian Kerner theorized that everyone was too tired.
  • Women who had their cervixes wired for signs of stimulation were shown images of heterosexual, gay, and lesbian porn, and one image of bonobo chimpanzees having sex. The women claimed not to be excited by anything but “appropriate” images, but the instruments showed otherwise. The women were turned on by all the images, including the monkeys. Men, subjected to the same study, were excited by the predictable, and mostly said so. None of them reacted to the monkeys.
  • In a survey of five thousand Americans, 70 percent said they experienced sexual boredom in their relationship, but eighty percent of married couples said they would remarry the same person.
  • Women get bored sexually with the same partner much sooner than men. According to one study, women experience “a catastrophic decline of interest” after three years whereas men show a much more gradual erosion.
  • Studies and anecdotal accounts show rape fantasies to be ubiquitous among women.
  • In France, “flirting is a civic duty.” Flirting is playing with le fleuret, the tip of the sword.
  • There is a point of no return in the process of seduction, wrote the French eighteenth-century erotic writer Crebillon Fils, which is when the woman signals that she won’t say no.
  • As human animals, we have our own observable sexual cues. Females tend to tip their buttocks up during courting. There is also the “copulatory gaze,” during which the pupils dilate.
  • Manon Lescaut and Dangerous Liaisons were named the sexiest works of literature. Also, The Story of O still stands as a minor erotic masterpiece.
  • Why the French are not as morally conflicted about sex as Americans: “The French are keenly aware of the brevity of time and the immediacy of pleasure.”
  • For the French, love is “embedded in the flesh.” Americans “prefer to imagine love without the body.”
  • According to a French audience member in her twenties, there is no French translation for a date, as in the official dinner/movie outing, which she clearly thought sounded deadly.
  • A French therapist would not necessarily encourage, as would an American one, more “communication in bed.” Mystery, or what the French call le non-dit (“the unspoken”), is a better aphrodisiac.
  • An eager young woman had a question “from some friends.” Her “friends,” a new couple, were in love and very attracted to each other, but the man wouldn’t “release his inner wild man.” “What should she do?” the woman inquired, almost desperately. “She is ready for anything!” “When a man gets to know a woman, “ said the expert, “sometimes he becomes self-conscious about objectifying her that way. He thinks it’s wrong.” There was a silence as we considered the sensitivity of this hypothetical male. Then the American science writer suggested talking dirty to break the ice.

On all three nights, the audience was about fifty percent male, which surprised us. The third night, entitled “Behind the Boudoir: The Secrets of Sex Appeal,” attracted an especially attentive group, most of whom appeared in their seventies. The French audience members, whom we might assume to be appealingly jaded, were just as riveted as everyone else. Throughout the series, the ubiquitous French affirmation c’est normal (“that’s normal,” or “we are only human”) hung in the air as we delved into the often bizarre complexities of sex, and for a moment, we felt a uniquely Gallic pleasure: exulting in the complexity of a problem rather than searching for its solution.

Someone asked what Americans could teach the French about sex and seduction. There was a puzzled silence. Finally, the cultural historian suggested that French men could be encouraged to help out more with household tasks, with an important caveat: “Egalitarianism is wonderful in the kitchen but boring in the bedroom.”

https://www.theparisreview.org/blog/2014/02/06/the-habits-of-highly-erotic-people/

Making Porn into Digital Art (NSFW) – Nerve

Italian artist Dom Barra works in the emerging field of Dirty New Media Art. Jon Cates, a professor at the Art Institute of Chicago says Dirty New Media’s mission is “to express a contrast with the kind of cleanliness that is [associated] with more commercial or corporate styles of digital art and design. It refers to a menagerie of alternative practices and subcultures spanning from punk and digital sampling to piracy and pornography.” Barra says this is done through, “using softwares not designed for the image editing task such as text editing and music softwares. Through these process I manage to corrupt/glitch digital format such as .jpg, .gif, .avi, .bmp, .raw, .tif, .iff and so on.” Barra says of his subject matter, “I work with porn because I think it fits well with the glitch art aesthetics, that feeling of stolen images, corrupted TV signals from a dystopian cyberpunk scenarios. I also believe that sex is the best expression of the human body and its power and energy. I love the way it shows these qualities in a glitched picture/video/gif.”

 

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http://www.nerve.com/art/porn-art-dirty-new-media-making-forbidden-human-acts-into-digital-art-nsfw