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Salon – Next Tuesday, Women’s Libido Drug Flibanserin Aims to be Female Answer to Viagra

Friendly reminder, next Tuesday, June 16 the next Erotic Literary Salon.

There are many issues involved in taking any pill to enhance sexual functioning. With this new “pink Viagra” the playing field begins to level out. Hopefully people use these drugs after much thought regarding relationship and sexual expression. It is easy to rely on a teeny pill to create a bandage effect.

http://www.nbcnews.com/nightly-news/womens-libido-drug-flibanserin-aims-be-female-answer-viagara-n368746

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Search for Magic Pill Misses the Mark-Does Sex Have An Expiration Date?-Philadelphia Inquirer

My letter to the editor was published November 7 in response to the FDA Conference article of October 29. Bottom line, men have 24 medications for libido problems, women have 0.

ISSUE | WOMEN’S SEXUALITY

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Search for magic pill misses the mark

Does sex have an expiration date? For some women it does. Hormone imbalance caused by childbirth, hysterectomy, menopause, medication side effects, aging, pain, and long-term relationships can impact a woman’s libido and arousal negatively. A major issue with the federal Food and Drug Administration considering approval of a low-libido drug for women is the expectation that one drug can remedy several problems (“Elusive issue of women’s low libido,” Oct. 29).

It is why off-label Viagra and testosterone, bio-identical creams, sex therapy, explicit sex videos, erotica, and the like may work for some women and not others. One reason for the success of 50 Shades of Grey is that many women credit the book with reviving their libido.

Everyone seems to be making decisions for women, from the FDA to various factions that believe libido issues can be remedied only with talk therapy or only with drugs. My experience as a clinical sexologist and sex educator has led me to believe women must be educated regarding their sexual health and given choices so they can ultimately have pleasurable and fun sex. Ageless sex is not an impossible concept, but we need to be open to many different ways to achieve it, and medications are certainly part of the picture.

Susana Mayer, Philadelphia

Read more at http://www.philly.com/philly/opinion/inquirer/20141107_LETTERS_-_Nov__7.html#kbPphEUGbEJwTkvU.99

Sex Addiction Does Not Appear To Be A Disorder, UCLA Study Says (VIDEO)

Within the sexological community the sex addiction model is a contentious one. I have always believed people are responsible for their behavior. Self-identifying as a sex addict often stems from that individual’s sex partner not wanting as much sex as they do or feeling an internal drive or urge for sex and not handling these feelings within the framework of what society consider’s a ‘normal’ situation.

Even the DSM-5 did not include sex addiction in their recently revised edition.

Video:

Excerpts from article on recent sex addiction research:

Celebrities Tiger Woods, Russell Brand and David Duchovny all blamed their copious amounts of sex on a disorder: sex addiction.

But UCLA researchers say sex addiction does not appear to be a disorder, according to their study, which appears in the current online edition of the journal Socioaffective Neuroscience and Psychology.

The study involved 39 men and 13 women who reported having problems controlling their viewing of sexual images. UCLA scientist Nicole Prause and her colleagues monitored the volunteers’ brains while showing them erotic images.

“If they indeed suffer from hypersexuality, or sexual addiction, their brain response to visual sexual stimuli could be expected to be higher, in much the same way that the brains of cocaine addicts have been shown to react to images of the drug in other studies,” a UC press release on the study explained.

And yet, that did not happen. Instead of being caused by an actual disorder, hypersexuality may be a result of having a high libido, Prause said.

“Potentially, this is an important finding,” she said in the press release. “It is the first time scientists have studied the brain responses specifically of people who identify as having hypersexual problems.”

Free-Video-Victorian Erotica, Article-What Do Women Want?

Primer on recent article written by Daniel Bergner for the NYTimes magazine, “What Do Women Want?”

My comment regarding article:

While conducting focus groups for my dissertation several years ago, it became apparent that women were seeking a quick fix for their self-diagnosed low libidos. When I recommended erotica (often porn by another name) some women were pleased by the ‘permission’ I gave them with this suggestion. Other women cried fowl – ‘anti-feminist’ planting the seed for my Erotic Literary Salon. The space affords all sexes the opportunity to speak their inner sexual voice, with no judgment from the audience. Often women share fantasies that are anything but sweet and men express their softer side. Perhaps it is society’s expectations that even restrict our fantasies, often creating shame and limiting our true sexual turn-ons. It is ultimately our libido’s that suffer and we want to reach for a quick fix.

Excerpts:

1. It’s Complicated

The short answer: Who the &*%$ knows. Science-wise, the study of women’s sexuality is still at the baking soda and vinegar volcano stage. The field is underfunded and plagued by the idea that it’s a little pervy. It’s politically volatile and upsetting findings are assailed by both the right and left, and, not to rat out the sisters, but women are confusing. Our sexuality is a confusing morass of still-poorly understood biological reactions, psychology and societal expectations. Only recently scientists have discovered and mapped the extensive internal parts of the clitoris, there’s no agreement on whether or not the G-spot even exists, and some women can just think their way to orgasm. However…

2. Women are way more visual than they let on—or even realize.

Researchers hooked men and women up to genital arousal monitoring devices and showed them a variety of porn—a man masturbating, a man and woman having sex, even a pair of bonobo apes getting it on. The heterosexual men reported being most turned on by scenes of women with women, women alone, and men with women. (Homosexual men, same deal but with the orientations reversed.) Women, however, were actually turned on by it all, even the monkey sex. Did the women really not know what was going on with their bodies, or where they just embarrassed to admit that they were more turned on by bonobo hard-ons than a strolling naked man? Keep in mind that the women in this study were liberated enough to watch porn in a lab with wires hooked up to their groins.

3. Monogamy turns women off.

After one to four years of monogamy, a woman’s desire for her partner drops far more dramatically than a man’s. (This effect is markedly reduced if the couple lives apart.) The once white-hot passion of early love often turns into muted, dutiful sex or trying to avoid sex altogether. One woman in the book described marital sex thus: “My body would respond, but the pleasure was like the pleasure of returning library books.”

Read entire article, including comments:

http://www.damemagazine.com/2013/05/29/what-women-want-primer#comment-915407585