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Reminder-This Tuesday-Nov 21-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live, Tonight- Diabolique Ball 21: Myths and Mysteries

Tuesday another wonderful Erotic Literary Salon and Adult Sex-Ed, plus December 9, 11am-1pm the Erotic Literary Salon will be presenting at the Philadelphia Museum of Art. Please read the last blog for details.

TONIGHT: Annual Fundraiser – Tickets – https://www.eventbrite.com/e/diabolique-ball-21-myths-and-mysteries-tickets-38228077208?aff=eac2

Diabolique Ball 21: Myths and Mysteries

Diabolique Ball is legal to drink, we turn 21 this year!

Our event is 21+ with ID for ticket holders that are dress code compliant (see below for rules of conduct and dress code). The dress code is mandatory.

This years Ball is benefitting Women’s Medicial Fund and Witnesses to Hunger. Our playstations and internal chairty fundraisers benefit TransFaith.

The event runs from 8pm to 1am with dungeon play ending at Midnight. Guests are welcome to remain after our event since Voyuer is open until 3am and you can continue to dance and show off your outfits with the general public.

DRESS CODE AND RULES:

Diabolique Ball Dress Code

Diabolique Ball is famous for its strict dress code of Fetish, Fantasy, and Formal. If you don’t arrive wearing the appropriate attire, our fabulous and fierce Fashion Police will require that you strip down to your intimates or you will be turned away at the door. The Fashion Police are the final authority on what is permitted in the event, so who you know will not get you in if you do not comply with the mandatory dress code.

There are three tiers to the Dress Code: Theme Specific (which changes yearly), Tried and True, and Never Permitted. A copy of the Dress Code can be found on the Diabolique website, posted at the event, or with Fashion Police volunteers. The Diabolique Foundation kindly asks all patrons to please consider matters of good taste when choosing your outfit so that all our guests can feel comfortable and have fun!

Not sure what to wear or want an official ruling before the event? Feel free to contact us at fashionpolice@diaboliquephilly.comfor suggestions and advice prior to show time!

Each year’s theme always lends itself to lots of costuming ideas, from the simple to the extravagant. It doesn’t have to be difficult to find clothing that meets our standards, especially if you shop at our sponsor stores PASSIONAL Boutique, Delicious Boutique, and/or Philadelphia AIDS Thrift.

Changing area and clothing check are available at the entrance to the Ball.

Tried & True

-Thongs, g-strings, jockstraps, loincloths, etc. but genitals must be covered at all times

-Pasties or electrical tape over nipples

-Formalwear including: tuxedos, gowns, Historical military dress uniforms— this is a “black tie” event. Suits are only permitted if for drag (Dress it up, or we dress you down. Consider yourselves warned!)

-Fetish wear including: latex, vinyl, leather, pleather, etc.

-Scene and club wear including: Goth, Cyber, Industrial, Vampire, Neo-Victorian, etc.

-Drag and other cross-dressing (Ladies wearing your mans suit does not count. Add a beard and balls and now we are talking! Gents we want RuPaul not Flip Wilson. Step it up for charity)

-Lingerie, corsets, fishnet, body stockings

-Saran wrap, fashion tape, bondage tape

-Adult Baby and other ageplay attire

-Full-body paint or makeup

-Bondage gear, straitjackets, etc.

-Human Pony tack, puppy accessories, fursuits, etc.

Never Permitted

-Exposed “female” nipples (PA Liquor Law regulations)

-Exposed genitals or anus

-Sneakers of any brand or color (black sneakers are not allowed!)

-Cotton tee shirts

-Athletic shorts or jerseys

-Baseball hats or caps

-Khakis

-Offensive And racist symbols (KKK, swastikas, etc.)

-Weapons of any kind, whether fake or real

-Jeans are NEVER permitted unless worn under chaps. (Do not try and argue about them being black, denim is denim!)

Questions? Please e-mail our Fashion Police Coordinator at fashionpolice@diaboliquephilly.com

Diabolique Ball Rules and Etiquette

PHOTO RULES:

-No PHOTOS allowed, this includes SELFIES, too. Refusal to follow this rule will result in being removed from the Ball and all images must be deleted. Our Ball is a safe environment for everyone’s privacy. Taking a photo at the Ball is considered to be a violation of CONSENT and an ASSAULT of ones privacy. (Staff have the right to inspect photographic devices if you take pictures. Staff will supervise picture deletion.)

-If you want a photo to remember the Ball, there are EVENT PHOTOGRAPHERS. They are the only ones permitted to take photos. If you want a selfie, take it at home.

-If you do not want your photo taken by anyone, including EVENT PHOTOGRAPHERS, we have special wrist bands for you to wear. Just ask at the entrance for one.

GENERAL RULES OF CONDUCT:

-Nipples and Genitals must be covered at ALL TIMES, this is a STATE LAW. Failure to comply will be governed at the discretion of the event staff and venue staff. Continued non-compliance will result in removal from the Ball.

-FOOTWEAR must be worn at all times on the the dance floor and in other common areas.

-All Firearms, Firearm Replicas, Sharp Weapons or Replica Weapons are BANNED from the Ball.

-Any object, substance, gas, or liquid illegal in the United States, the state of Pennsylvania, or the city of Philadelphia is ILLEGAL at this event, too.

-The Organizers and the Venue take no responsibility for any injury, damage, or loss sustained during the Ball

-All racist, homophobic, culturally insensitive images, signs, and/or clothing are BANNED from the Ball. The venue and event organizers reserve the right to determine if in violation.

-The Diabolique Ball and Venue expect all guests to behave in a reasonable and courteous manner. Frequent refusal to do so will result in removal from the Ball. The Ball Organizers and Venue reserve the right to determine if behavior is negatively impacting the event and event guests.

PLAY AND DUNGEON RULES OF CONDUCT:

-We reserve the right to declare any toy, implement, object, or practice as unwise or prohibited at the event.

-All play MUST be consensual.

-All Fire Play is prohibited due to fire codes of the venue.

-The Dungeon Monitors’ (DM) word is LAW and FINAL.

-Sex, oral sex, intercourse, and/or penetration is PROHIBITED, this is the law.

-Bodily fluids (blood, saliva, etc.) may not leave the body.

-If you are visibly intoxicated and/or impaired by any substance, you will not be allowed to engage in any play and/or scenes. If behavior is deemed negatively impacting other guests playing you will be asked to leave the space and possibly the Ball.

-Do not move the furniture or set up your own furniture.

-Do not interact with people who are in a scene unless they approach you first.

-Give people time to engage in aftercare after a scene before you interact with them.

-Please clean up after yourselves. Cleaning supplies are available.

-Do not monopolize the equipment.

-Do not walk through ongoing scenes.

Sexual Fantasies-Survey, Reminder Tuesday-July 21-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live

Olga Pérez, 2010 Grand Slam First Person Arts Slam winner will be the featured presenter. Meet her Carlito’s and you will never stop laughing.

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Take part in a survey of sexual fantasies conducted by independent researcher Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D.:

Participation Requirement: Please note that you must be age 18 or older in order to participate in this study.

Purpose: To better understand the nature and origin of sexual fantasies today.

What you will do: If you decide to participate, you will complete one survey. You will be asked questions about your sexual fantasies, as well as your personality and your sexual history, attitudes, and functioning.

Time required: For most people, this survey will take less than 30 minutes to complete.

Risks: There are no known risks associated with participating in this study. However, you will be asked questions about potentially sensitive matters, including specific sexual fantasies you may have had before. Some people may find the content of some of these fantasies to be unusual or shocking.

Benefits: There are no personal benefits; however, you will have the opportunity to contribute to what is designed to be the largest survey study every of sexual fantasies, which will greatly enhance our knowledge of this important aspect of human sexuality. You will also have an opportunity to reflect upon your own fantasies.

Compensation: There is no direct compensation for participation; however, participants will have the option of entering a raffle to win an Amazon.com gift card at the end of the survey by supplying their email address. If you choose to provide your email address, it will be stored separately from your responses to the survey questions in order to ensure anonymity. Upon completion of data collection, a drawing will take place for one $100 gift card, four $50 gift cards, and eight $25 gift cards.

Confidentiality: All data will be collected anonymously. Data will be encrypted and stored in a secure on-line database. When research results are reported (which may be online or in other publications), responses will typically be aggregated (added together) and described in summary; however, individual fantasies will also be reported in conjunction with minimal demographic information (e.g., gender and sexual identity).

Participation and withdrawal: Your participation is completely voluntary, and you may refuse to participate without penalty or loss of benefit to which you may otherwise be entitled. You may quit at any time without penalty or loss of benefit to which you may otherwise be entitled.

To continue:

https://www.psychdata.com/s.asp?SID=161649

Tonight-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live, VIRTUAL-REALITY PORN IS COMING, AND YOUR FANTASIES MAY NEVER BE THE SAME

Come celebrate St. Patrick’s Day at the Erotic Literary Salon, tonight in Philadelphia.

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VIRTUAL-REALITY PORN IS COMING, AND YOUR FANTASIES MAY NEVER BE THE SAME by Peter Rubin

AS A KID, Ela Darling fell in love with the idea of virtual reality. This was the late ’90s, early 2000s; Johnny Mnemonic and the Nintendo Virtual Boy had already come and gone, and VR had moved from brain-busting sci-fi concept to schlocky punch line to faded cultural footnote. But still, Darling was an avid reader and D&D player, and the idea of getting lost in an immersive world—“making visual what I was already losing myself in books for,” as she puts it—was something she found not just exciting but romantic.

Not surprisingly for an active reader, Darling went on to get a master’s degree and become a librarian. Perhaps more surprisingly, she then stopped being a librarian and started acting in pornographic movies. (Yes, that means she officially became a sexy librarian. Fun fact: She has the Dewey decimal number for the Harry Potter books tattooed on her back.) And after a few years of bondage scenes, masturbation videos, and girl-on-girl movies, Darling attended the E3 videogame trade show and tried an early version of the Oculus Rift, the headset that jump-started the current VR revolution. “The first thing I think of when I hear of new technology,” she says, “is ‘How can I fuck with it?’ or ‘How can I let people watch me fucking on it?’ Usually there’s one or the other application if you think hard enough.” With Oculus, Darling didn’t have to think too hard at all; now, at 28, she’s busy forging a future as creative director (and star performer) of VRtube, a nascent online studio and distribution center for VR porn.

It’s not just enterprising actresses who think this way. Call it Rule 34a: Whenever a new media technology appears on the horizon, someone pops into a comment thread to say, “I can’t wait to see what the porn industry is gonna do with this.” And indeed, from VCRs to CD-ROMs to streaming video, nearly every home entertainment platform of the past 40 years was either popularized or downright pioneered by companies that could help people watch other people getting freaky. It generally works out well for everyone: If half of all videotapes for sale in the US in the late ’70s hadn’t been X-rated, it might have taken VCRs a lot longer to reach critical mass in the early ’80s.

Yet no visual technology has ever been so perfectly suited to sexual applications as VR. Yes, video brought sexually explicit content from theaters into homes, but virtual reality promises to eclipse even that shift. Historically, we’ve found titillation at a remove. In erotic woodcuts, DVDs, even streaming webcam shows, there’s a frame—whether a book, a Polaroid border, or a screen—through which we experience whatever it is that turns us on. VR is more than just another iteration. It doesn’t just change the frame. VR erases it. It allows us to exist inside the environment. The NSFW possibilities are endless. Yes, we’re at the dawn of this thing, and all the easy points of reference—Star Trek’s holodeck, the Matrix, Community’s Dreamatorium—are years of refinement and R&D away. The real question is what we’ll do in Year One.

Here’s what we’re not going to do: pull a Lawnmower Man. That is, we’re not going to put on full-body haptic suits, climb into gyroscopes, and transform ourselves into shimmering posthuman forms that overcome our bodily shackles and merge with one another in a transcendent liquid singularity. A huge part of the reason VR has finally tipped into mainstream consciousness is that it’s lightweight and low-­footprint: a headset display, some sort of input controller, and sound. Sure, the libidinally aspirational can shell out for omnidirectional treadmills and mo-cap harnesses to facilitate Peak Air-Hump. Japanese sex-toy company Tenga has even helped design a complicated prototype that syncs a virtual sex simulator with … well, you can imagine with what. But for the foreseeable future, VR will be aural and visual only; if localized tactile feedback is what you’re after, you’re gonna need to handle that yourself. (Good riddance, “teledildonics.” You’re the worst word ever, and you’ll be despised long after your passing.)

WITH VR, YOU’RE NOT WATCHING A SCENE ANYMORE.

YOU’RE INHABITING IT.

We’re also not going to lose ourselves in a panoply of CGI flesh calibrated to our every kink and whim. Not that people ­haven’t tried: The past two years of VR game development are littered with the husks of abandoned projects with names like Sinful Robot. The problem is, as their developers learned, creating a fluid 360-degree video­game is already difficult—and making it stereo­scopic and photo-realistic complicates things exponentially. Players can handle the janky facial animations in an action game like Far Cry 4 because they’re secondary to the purpose of the game (i.e., Shoot Everything). Certainly, depictions of sex can be arousing at low fidelity, as erotic comic books and vast swaths of hentai anime suggest. But obliterate the proscenium the way VR does and suddenly those lossy signals lead straight to the uncanny valley, that very unsexy place where things look sorta real but not real at all. The vast majority of VR-­capable “adult games” are Second Life–like knockoffs with graphics that look like waxy (and waxed) blow-up dolls. While a VR version of phone or FaceTime sex isn’t tenable yet—even if you could see each other, you’d have headsets on—the most promising avenue appears to be 360-degree 3-D video, like the kind some people are using to produce VR concert experiences or the projects showcased at Sundance’s New Frontiers program in January.

When Ela Darling and her collaborators filmed some test footage for the Oculus RIft, what they found wasn’t just titillating, but human.
When Ela Darling and her collaborators filmed some test footage for the Oculus Rift, what they found wasn’t just titillating, but human.

Regardless, what we are going to do is find something virtually (sorry) unheard-of in pornography: intimacy. The thing that’s going to take us there is “presence,” that phenomenon that occurs when head-tracking latency, screen quality, and processing wizardry combine to trick your brain into thinking that you’re existing in a virtual space, rather than just watching a screen that extends past the edges of your vision. If your brain believes it, your body reacts in kind—with all the responses that come along with that.

So if you’re standing at the edge of a skyscraper in VR and you lean over the side, you experience vertigo. If you’re in a darkened corridor on an alien spaceship and you hear a rustle behind you, you freak the fuck out—full, heart-pounding fight-or-flight response. If you’re sitting in a musician’s apartment while he noodles on a piano, his dog sleeping behind you on the hardwood floor, you feel serene. (This isn’t speculation; I’ve done all those things in various VR environments—some CG, some video—and I’ve had all those reactions.)

The big question is whether sexual content in VR will induce the same reptile-brain response. Ela Darling would certainly like to know. She found like-minded colleagues last year when they posted on Reddit about wanting to make VR porn. They flew her from California to Maryland last April; in true tech startup fashion, they turned out to be 20-year-old college students. (“It was very Weird Science,” Darling says.) Nonetheless, they shot a test scene in their dorm room. Rather than invest in an array of pricey high-end Red cameras like many other fledgling VR video companies, they went decidedly DIY, taping together two GoPro cameras to create a stereo­scopic 3-D image with a wide field of view on the cheap. (Again in true tech startup fashion, Darling initially wore an R2-D2 swimsuit.) After she flew back to LA, one of the students emailed her; he’d finished processing the test scene and was so blown away by the result that he wanted her to be a partner in the venture. “This is unlike any porn I’ve seen,” he wrote. “It’s like I’m watching an actual person.”

More great articles: http://www.wired.com/2015/02/vr-porn/

What Part of “Fantasy” Don’t They Understand?, Resuscitate your relationship with erotica

Two very interesting and informative blog posts on erotica/porn:

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What Part of “Fantasy” Don’t They Understand?

Dr. Marty Klein

The success of “50 Shades of Grey” and news about Pornhub’s most popular search terms has too many people buzzing about the alleged dangers of each.

Both traditional conservatives and some self-identified feminists are condemning 50 Shades as encouraging violence against women. Clearly, these people know nothing about S/M, and not nearly enough about violence against women. Similarly, groups like xxxChurch and other anti-porn crusaders are dismayed that “teens” was the most popular porn search term last year, fearing this means we’re about to see a rash of adults trying to have sex with teens.

The panic about both of these things is founded on the persistent myth that enjoying a fantasy is the same thing as desiring it in real life. If that were true, millions of our neighbors would be punching their bosses, sleeping with their brothers-in-law, selling their homes to start over in Boise, or urinating on the very next TSA guard that hassles them.

Most grownups know that fantasy doesn’t equal desire and that it doesn’t predict behavior. One of the ways we cope with the pressures and complicated decision-making of adulthood is fantasy. We watch Star Wars and Star Trek, CSI and Grey’s Anatomy, John Wayne and Clint Eastwood and James Bond (and yes, Wonder Woman and the Million Dollar Baby) and we think “If only that were me…if only I had the chance…”

And we make damn sure we never have the chance. That mayhem stuff is dangerous. Fun to imagine, but nothing to mess with.

Which explains the appeal of 50 Shades of Grey: Fun to imagine, but nothing to mess with. And the appeal of porn featuring 18 and 19 year olds (the only teen porn you can find on the overwhelming majority of porn sites): fun to imagine, but nothing to mess with.

Yes, there are people who coerce women sexually. And adults who romance college kids, even some high school kids. But 50 Shades isn’t making that happen, and neither is porn. According to the federal Justice Department, the incidence of each has gone down in the last decade.
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Anyone who looks at 50 Shades and thinks that women like to get roughed up is (a) not really watching the movie, and (b) thinking that before they watch the film. The idea that women like to fall in love with guys who rough them up was popular before E.L. James was born. Jimmy Cagney and Jane Austen come to mind. 50 Shades isn’t the problem. Given economic options, most women don’t stay with someone who roughs them up. And, of course, 50 Shades isn’t about roughing someone up, it’s about two people collaborating on an experiment.

The concern about porn and – read more:

https://sexualintelligence.wordpress.com/2015/02/23/what-part-of-fantasy-dont-they-understand/

 

Resuscitate your relationship with erotica

ALL WOMAN  

So the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over and life is becoming monotonous. Everything in the relationship has become boring, including the sex, which is now once a week, and a scheduled activity. Honestly, you have both tried everything that you could possibly think of, but still there is something lacking. How can you get that spark back?

With the recent release of the Fifty Shades of Grey movie, women all over have been lobbying for more passion in their love lives. And men all over have been seeking ways to meet the demand.

Here to help is Jamaican author K Sean Harris, who is no stranger to erotic fiction. Below he shares five ways in which erotica can add some much needed spice to your relationship.

1. Erotica can help to broaden your sexual horizons; adding a bit of spontaneity to your love life, especially if sex has become predictable. Most of us go through school reading books related to our course of study, he said, but how many of us pick up books about sex? “You learn a lot through reading. And it’s no different with well-written erotic fiction. You can learn many new things or new spins on old ones, and that knowledge can be brought into the bedroom to resuscitate relationships on their sexual deathbed,” he said. So the next time you are in the bookstore, walk on over to the adult section and browse. See what they have; you never know what you may find.

2. Erotica can help to enhance communication between you and your partner. Though many persons may not frequently practise this, talking about sex with your partner is actually quite a liberating experience. “One of the keys to a healthy sex life is actually being able to talk about sex freely with one’s partner, and being able to reference scenes or acts from a book as an example of something that you’d like to do can be a catalyst to create excitement where there used to be a dull routine,” said Harris. This tip alone, if taken seriously, can change the whole dynamics of your relationship.

3. Erotica can be an excellent aphrodisiac. Within the privacy of your bedroom, before jumping into bed, flipping through a few pages of an erotic novel can be good foreplay. “Erotica gets you in the mood for the real thing. Think of it this way, it is like a literary lubricant,” Harris said. So bookmark that page and go right ahead…

4. Erotica is a great source for ideas. Sex performed in the same way every time gets boring. It is often said that sex it not only a physical thing, it is a mental thing as well, and as such the brain is actually the biggest sex organ there is. If that is so, why not give it something to think about? “Erotica provides tons of ways and scenarios for people to have sex and introduces readers to experiences and fantasies that they likely wouldn’t have thought of before or in some cases, can relate to, which in itself can be a huge turn-on — seeing the things you love deliciously described in print,” said Harris.

5. Erotica facilitates intimacy and sharing between couples. “Erotica can add a whole new dynamic to a relationship. When couples read sexy paragraphs or scenes to each other in bed it can be a super cool way of talking dirty to each other with no pressure of coming up with the right words to say.”

http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Resuscitate-your-relationship-with-erotica