Tag: erotica

Why You Shouldn’t (and should) Be Monogamous – Polyamory

Great article on monogamy and polyamory written by an ethicist and critical thinker, not a sexologist or psychologist. He got it right. My only addition would be the ‘octopus’ analogy Reid Mihalko used in his poly conference seminar regarding jealousy. He actually apologized for using an octopus for comparison since they only have 8 arms and he felt there were even more reasons for people to feel jealous. But whether there are one or a dozen reasons, bottom line, we fear our partner will leave us if they experience jealousy.

Why You Shouldn’t (and should) Be Monogamous

by Tauriq Moosa

Excerpts:

Is monogamy wrong?

Being nonmonogamous is not about being better or worse than monogamous couples: it’s about what works for you as individuals and as a couple. For example, it would be wrong for you to have multiple partners beyond your primary partner without her consent or approval. Again, this would be unethical nonmonogamy and therefore betrayal.

Notice, too, the problem isn’t monogamy or nonmonogamy but betrayal which an ethical nonmonogamy is undermining.

The point isn’t the label of one’s relationship. What matters is that the relationship has a foundation of honesty; that openness is consistent and on-going. Whether this results in monogamy or nonmonogamy is irrelevant since how you arrive there matters more: You might switch between monogamy and nonmonogamy. You might want other partners purely for sex, or yearn for lots of deep, emotional romantic relationships.

Whatever it is, your needs should be discussed with your partner, without the danger of him reacting irrationally and harshly.

What we should begin insisting and establishing is that we have a hold on sex and romance, not the other way round; that sex has as much power as we want to give it, not an ineffable measure it gives us. This doesn’t undermine that sex can be powerful, that sex does come with measures of caution. But these, also, can be controlled.

Read the entire article:

http://bigthink.com/against-the-new-taboo/why-you-shouldnt-and-should-be-monogamous

Video – Topless Day Rally NYC – The Erotic Literary Salon 5th Anniversary

NYPD instructed not to arrest topless women in NYC, as long as they are obeying the law. Even a topless male would probably be gawked at in NYC, not your typical location for sidewalk exposure.

Below video at 2012 Topless Day Rally in NYC.

This past Tuesday, May 21, the Salon celebrated its 5th anniversary. Val one of the attendees at the Salon sent around several congratulatory cards that the attendees signed. Many of the individuals thanked me with generous words of gratitude. It was a most heartfelt evening.

Florida Teen – Criminal Charges – Same Sex Relationship – Sex Offender?

I doubt this high school romance would ever have been reported if the teens involved were of the opposite sex. This is an outraggeous charge, and the defendant could face 15 years imprisonment or a plea deal, read details below.

Kaitlyn Hunt and her father Steve, who said: ‘For my daughter’s sexual preferences, she’s getting two felony charges.’ Photograph: AP

Please sign the petition to stop the prosecution: http://www.change.org/petitions/assistant-state-attorney-brian-workman-stop-the-prosecution-of-an-18-year-old-girl-in-a-same-sex-relationship 

Excerpts from article in the Guardian

Prosecutors have offered a plea deal to Hunt that would allow her to avoid registering as a sex offender if she pleads guilty to lesser charges of child abuse. The state attorney Bruce Colton said he would recommend two years of house arrest followed by one year of probation if she took the deal.

If she is found guilty, it is also possible that Hunt could apply not to have to register as a sex offender under a “Romeo and Juliet” law because the girls were no more than four years apart in age, Colton said.

Colton said the victim’s family was not pushing for prison but wanted Hunt to be held responsible in some way. However, the Hunt family said they would accept a plea deal only if the charges were dropped to a lower-level misdemeanour.

“One of the reasons this case has gotten people’s attention is because it’s being publicised as a person being persecuted because she’s gay, and that has nothing to do with the case, nothing to do with the law, nothing to do with the sheriff’s office filing the charges,” Colton said. He said the law was designed to protect younger children from older children who might be more aggressive in starting a relationship.

“The law doesn’t make any differentiation. It doesn’t matter if it’s two girls or two boys, or an older boy and a younger girl or an older girl and a younger boy. Whatever the combination, it doesn’t matter.”

The American Civil Liberties Union of Florida said Hunt was being criminalised for behaviour that “occurs every day in tens of thousands of high schools across the country, yet those other students are not facing felony convictions … and potential lifelong branding as sex offenders”.

Prosecutors have offered a plea deal to Hunt that would allow her to avoid registering as a sex offender if she pleads guilty to lesser charges of child abuse. The state attorney Bruce Colton said he would recommend two years of house arrest followed by one year of probation if she took the deal.

If she is found guilty, it is also possible that Hunt could apply not to have to register as a sex offender under a “Romeo and Juliet” law because the girls were no more than four years apart in age, Colton said.

Colton said the victim’s family was not pushing for prison but wanted Hunt to be held responsible in some way. However, the Hunt family said they would accept a plea deal only if the charges were dropped to a lower-level misdemeanour.

“One of the reasons this case has gotten people’s attention is because it’s being publicised as a person being persecuted because she’s gay, and that has nothing to do with the case, nothing to do with the law, nothing to do with the sheriff’s office filing the charges,” Colton said. He said the law was designed to protect younger children from older children who might be more aggressive in starting a relationship.

“The law doesn’t make any differentiation. It doesn’t matter if it’s two girls or two boys, or an older boy and a younger girl or an older girl and a younger boy. Whatever the combination, it doesn’t matter.”

The American Civil Liberties Union of Florida said Hunt was being criminalised for behaviour that “occurs every day in tens of thousands of high schools across the country, yet those other students are not facing felony convictions … and potential lifelong branding as sex offenders”.

Read entire article:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2013/may/22/gay-teenager-charges-relationship-girlfriend

Tonight-May 21-The Erotic Literary Salon-live, Interview-Sheba Karim-“Alchemy”

“It’s Difficult to Write Sex Well.” An interview with Sheba Karim, who edited Alchemy: The Tranquebar Book of Erotic Stories 2.

Excerpts from interview by Mini Anthikad-Chibber in The Hindu Sunday Magazine.

…What, according to you, is the purpose of erotica?

There is the obvious — to entertain, to inspire pleasure in the reader. What I think differentiates literary erotica, aside from the level of the writing, is the use of sex to explore other facets of human nature and relationships. After all, sex is a primary motivator of human behaviour, and yet a lot of fiction shies away from it, making literary erotica all the more important….

…How is erotica different from porn?

Distinguishing between erotica and porn makes more sense in a medium like film, where you can argue that an erotic film would have an actual plot and characters you actually care about whereas porn would be a bunch of random people just having sex. But a story will always have some type of narrative, and transport you into a character’s mind, into a fictional world. As I’ve mentioned elsewhere, I think a better distinction in terms of the written word would not be erotica versus porn but ‘badly-written erotica’ versus ‘well-written erotica.’…

…Is erotica about sex, power or gender?

It’s often about all three. It’s hard to completely separate sex from power or gender. M. Svarini’s wonderfully inventive Mouth is an example of a story that takes sex, power and gender to places you never imagined….

Read the entire interview:

http://www.thehindu.com/features/magazine/its-difficult-to-write-sex-well/article4727114.ece

http://shebakarim.com