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BDSM for Writers: The #1 RESOURCE for Dominance and Submission and Power Exchange Relationships

Conference: BDSM for Writers

3-DAY Intensive Workshop

August 23-25, 2013 in New York City

“Whether you’ve been writing D/s stories for years, or just picking up the whip, once you’ve completed this workshop, you will have a greater understanding of the emotional and psychological connections individuals make when engaging in this highly erotic and often misunderstood lifestyle.

This is an exclusive one-of-a-kind BDSM workshop specifically geared toward writers’ needs and to help you create believable characters. We’ll also have time to discuss your story ideas and how to make them work. The focus is on D/s relationships and activities not on the dynamics of writing in general. Plus we will have a day devoted to victims & villians adress the psychology and reality of sadism, PTSD, and other criminal activities. There will also be hands-on demonstrations of various BDSM activities. Invest in your writing career today.”

Guest Speakers: Laura Antoniou & D.L. King

Who may attend: 
This workshop is geared toward authors (published and unpublished) and anyone interested in the topics being discussed. Participants will discover the emotional and psychological connections made by individuals who participate in BDSM and Dominance and submission interactions. Participants will also learn the basics of creating realistic villains and how to incorporate trauma and self-esteem to ensure you do not overwhelm your reader with a traumatic storyline. Great resource for mental health practitioners and law enforcement as well.

INSTRUCTORS: Dr. Charley Ferrer, world renowned Clinical Sexologist & BDSM Expert. Demonstrations on Electrical & Knife Play conducted by various local lifestyle practitioners.

OUTINGS:Several outings are planned to local leather shops and BDSM related clubs. Admission to club is included in your workshop price if you register prior to 
June 15st, 2013. After June 15st it is an additional $30.

BRING A FRIEND: Feel free to bring a friend.  Friends, and family memeber over 19 years of age can accompany you to the club and shopping events for $50.

Detailed information & Registration:



Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit – Early Bird Registration Special

“…This is the only Sexual Freedom Summit – the event where all of the personal and political elements of the sexual freedom movement come together. And this year, 2013, we’re not only four years old, we’re FOUR DAYS LONG with a program that’s packed full of fabulous workshops, events, and networking opportunities!!

Join us to share information, experiences, and strategies to use in the fight for human rights and sexual freedom.

We’ll talk about the denial of our identities, relationships and families, the undermining of our health care, and reduction of our access to sexuality education, as well as the criminalization of our sexual expression and pleasure.

But we’ll also be talking about how to create the change we want to see in these and other areas….

There is only one Sexual Freedom Summit that focuses on policy and social change, and only one that utilizes the human rights framework, in addition to civil and legislative remedies – and that Summit is Woodhull’s.

Be a part of change, be a part of the conversations and join us at Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit.”

Early Bird Registration Until 7/9 for Woodhull’s
Sexual Freedom Summit
September 19-22, 2013
Washington, DC


FREE Erotica Author’s Webinar – Sizzler Editions

This is a must webinar, offered by well respected successful erotica authors/editors. “Meet The Editors,” M. Christian, Sascha Illyvich and Jean Marie Stine. Free Live Interactive Webinar, Sat. June 29th, 5-6:30pm EST.

Get expert guidance from writing professionals – without having to drive to and from a crowded, noisy event facility and with no costly fees.

Participate from anywhere in the world through your computer’s microphone, webcam, or text

Current and aspiring writers of erotica, erotic romance, and sexuality-themed nonfiction won’t want to miss this live, interactive, online discussion and Q&A with three highly successful editors/authors, hosted by Sizzler Editions and Creative Sexuality.

• Hear expert advice on formatting, submitting, and publishing your book; Develop and strengthen your writing, plot development, and characterization;

• Learn the most effective ways to market and publicize your book;

• Have the opportunity to ask questions about the writing and publishing process;

• Be able to pitch your own erotic story, novel or nonfiction.

Editors M. Christian, Sascha Illyvich, and publisher Jean Marie Stine will provide insight into trends and taboos in the field, writing tips and tricks, and advice on marketing and promotion of your books.

All three panelists are writers as well as editors/publishers, with several decades of experience to their credit, and are well-versed in the craft and business of writing. They will address topics and questions such as:

• Trends in Erotic Romance and Erotica

o What are editors looking for?

o What do readers want right now?

o Who is the best audience for your book and why?

o Is your book idea a good one?

o How do you create compelling characters?

o …and vivid scene description?

o …and believable, attention-grabbing dialogue?

o How do you make it sexy?

o What’s the secret to choosing the best title?

o Who designs, assigns and pays for them?

o How do you know if a cover is really good?

• Promoting and Publicizing

o What if you want to design your own?

o OK, so you love this cover – but will it sell your book?

o What are the best ways (and the worst) to build readership with social media?

o What are virtual tours, and how can they help?

o How do you get your book on review sites – or get reviews otherwise?

o Should you pay for advertising? If so, what kind?

o What about contests, giveaways and other promotional events?

o Should you sell your books at romance, fantasy or science fiction conventions?

o How do you submit your book to publishers?

o How do you find publishers in the first place?

o Should you self-publish instead?

o What kind of contract – and royalties! – should I expect?

…and if you don’t see your burning questions here, don’t worry! These are only some of the issues to be covered in this multifaceted opportunity to interact directly with experienced editors.

More information: http://sexedforadults.org/categories/erotic-humanities/product/60-meet-the-editors

Why You Shouldn’t (and should) Be Monogamous – Polyamory

Great article on monogamy and polyamory written by an ethicist and critical thinker, not a sexologist or psychologist. He got it right. My only addition would be the ‘octopus’ analogy Reid Mihalko used in his poly conference seminar regarding jealousy. He actually apologized for using an octopus for comparison since they only have 8 arms and he felt there were even more reasons for people to feel jealous. But whether there are one or a dozen reasons, bottom line, we fear our partner will leave us if they experience jealousy.

Why You Shouldn’t (and should) Be Monogamous

by Tauriq Moosa


Is monogamy wrong?

Being nonmonogamous is not about being better or worse than monogamous couples: it’s about what works for you as individuals and as a couple. For example, it would be wrong for you to have multiple partners beyond your primary partner without her consent or approval. Again, this would be unethical nonmonogamy and therefore betrayal.

Notice, too, the problem isn’t monogamy or nonmonogamy but betrayal which an ethical nonmonogamy is undermining.

The point isn’t the label of one’s relationship. What matters is that the relationship has a foundation of honesty; that openness is consistent and on-going. Whether this results in monogamy or nonmonogamy is irrelevant since how you arrive there matters more: You might switch between monogamy and nonmonogamy. You might want other partners purely for sex, or yearn for lots of deep, emotional romantic relationships.

Whatever it is, your needs should be discussed with your partner, without the danger of him reacting irrationally and harshly.

What we should begin insisting and establishing is that we have a hold on sex and romance, not the other way round; that sex has as much power as we want to give it, not an ineffable measure it gives us. This doesn’t undermine that sex can be powerful, that sex does come with measures of caution. But these, also, can be controlled.

Read the entire article: