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Press Release-December 20-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live – Adult Sex-Ed Salon

Philadelphia’s Erotic Literary Salon-Live and the Adult Sex-Ed Salon, along with Attendee Readers, Share an Evening of Edutainment, Tuesday, Dec 20.

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Tuesday, November 22, 2016

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

 

 

PCSalons@gmail.com – contact: Susana Mayer, Ph.D., Salonnière,

PCSalons@gmail.comreserve a time slot to read at Salon (5 min max)

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – guidelines for reading.

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – blog: events, Salon notices, erotica, and guidelines.

 

The Erotic Literary Salon will be held Tuesday, December 20. The evening will start with the Adult Sex-Ed Salon a one-hour program devoted to sex and sexuality. The audience will create this month’s theme. They will have the opportunity to pose any questions regarding sex and sexuality anonymously. Sexologist Susana Mayer, PhD, along with co-host Walter will facilitate the Adult Sex-Ed Salon and attendees interested in sharing their knowledge and experiences will join in the discussion.

 

PHILADELPHIA: The Erotic Literary Salon, unique in the English-speaking world has launched a growing movement mainstreaming erotica. Salons attract a supportive audience of 65 or more individuals. Approximately 15-20 attendees participate as writers, readers, storytellers, spoken word performers of original works/words of others, the rest just come to listen, enjoy and applaud.

 

Salons gather the 3rd Tuesday of every month at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge), 1315 Sansom Street, Center City, Philadelphia. Doors open at 6:30 p.m., for cocktails, food and conversation. Adult Sex-Ed between 7:00-8:00, readings begin at 8:30. Admission is $12, discounted for students and seniors to $10. Salon attendees must be 21.

 

Creator of this event, Dr. Susana, is Philadelphia’s best-known sexologist. She lends her voice to the Salon by offering relevant information to support the discussions that arise in the Salon and blog.

…surprisingly comfortable….Salon devotees praise her for the space she has created….”

“I think Susana is doing a very brave thing.”

Philadelphia Inquirer, February 10, 2010

 

“There are laughter and tears along with the hot rush of blood – to the face.

Daily News, March 15, 2010

 

“I never knew such a life of honesty could exist. I finally found a home I can be comfortable in…this event changed my life.

First-time attendee and reader 2013

 

 

Reminder-Next Tuesday-Nov 15-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live&Adult Sex-Ed

Tuesday you will be given the opportunity to talk sex & sexuality – ask questions, discuss and enjoy meeting people who are comfortable or at least interested in getting comfortable with sexuality.

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I would like to leave politics at the door, I’m overwhelmed with the election, results and our future as a nation. I need to forget for one evening that there is life outside the bubble of the Erotic Literary Salon.

Dhami Boo a summer regular reader at the Salon (reading to the sounds of his wonderful handmade instruments) reposted the following on fb.

IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER THIS: posted by Clyde M. Hall: THINGS A PRESIDENT CANNOT DO:

Reverse any Supreme Court decision
This includes Obergefell v. Hodges, which made same-sex marriage a constitutional right; Whole Woman’s Health v. Hellerstedt, which reaffirmed a woman’s right to choose first articulated in Roe v. Wade, another Supreme Court case. Grutter v. Bollinger, which instituted affirmative action, the entire body of Civil Rights case law, plus anything related to due process, including the right of minors to due process, your right to an attorney, Miranda rights, inadmissible evidence, etc.
(Even if Trump appoints the worst possible SC nominee, they still can’t reverse any of these decisions without a really significant case coming before the Court with new facts, and then they have to write an opinion stating how this case is different than that other case…it’s unlikely to happen.)
Write law or repeal any existing law
While traditionally, presidents have exerted influence on the legislative agenda (see, Obama’s role in advancing and promoting the Affordable Care Act) they cannot actually write or pass legislation. Bills, joint resolutions, concurrent resolutions, and simple resolutions must be introduced in the House by a Representative.
Presidents cannot strike down law. Only Congress can repeal laws, and only the Supreme Court can strike them down as unconstitutional.
Presidential influence is just that—influence.
(And if—for example—you are hated by 95% of the party you joined last week, and burned all your goddamn bridges by insulting them at various points in your campaign…..they’re unlikely to partner with you in crafting legislation.)
Make any law or declaration that infringes in any way on the rights of the states
So in the US, most of the rights are reserved to the states. You name it, it’s a state-run power. Criminal procedure and law? States. Medicare and Medicaid? States. The definition of marriage? States. Insurance, health departments, housing, unemployment benefits, public education, all these are state programs. And the president cannot infringe on those powers given to the states.
(This is why down-ticket voting is so important, because Mike Pence as governor of Indiana had 800x the power he’s going to have as VP.)
Declare war.
This one is the most complicated, because with the advent of our “conflicts” in Vietnam, Iraq, Afghanistan, Libya, etc. there has been a significant shift in the articulation of the war doctrine, and it is one of the least restricted of the president’s “restricted” powers. But, despite all that, a president still has no power to declare war.
Unilaterally appoint heads of administrative departments
Unilaterally make treaties with foreign nations
Essentially, while presidents have a lot of power, it’s mostly unofficial—they can’t make sweeping laws, they can’t overturn existing rights, the most they can do is refuse to enforce them (which is absolutely a threat! and a problem!) but we aren’t electing de facto royalty here.

Tonight-Tuesday-Sept.20-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live/Adult Sex-Ed, Article-Are You Sexually Compatible?

Theme for this evening’s Adult Sex-Ed – SEX: What’s Love Got To Do With It? Come with your question(s), write them anonymously.

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Article worth reading –

Are you Sexually Compatible?

As the urgency of a new relationship fades (honestly, you can only play “How many times can we have sex before being late to dinner?” so often before you stop getting invited) your sex life will take on a more comfortable tone. It’s still good but…different?

If you’re starting to wonder about your sexual compatibility in the context of a long term relationship, our questions can help shed some light on whether you’re just settling into a groove or dancing to different tunes.

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Sex Drive

Do you feel like one party is having sex more or less than they’d like to on a regular basis?

  1. Yes, I’m often feel like I’m bugging my partner for sex.
  2. No, we’re pretty equal.
  3. Yes, my partner’s sex drive is much higher than mine.

Do you find you and your partner get aroused at similar times during the day?

  1. Yes, we’re in step with each other.
  2. Sometimes they conflict but we try to accommodate both.
  3. No, it’s literally like night and day.

Sex drives are way more complicated than we tend to think, and can be affected by things as simple as what time of day either of you tend to be in the mood, or even who is initiating. Some people rarely feel like initiating sex, but are game as soon as there’s some kissing and cuddling going on. However, just because you’re turned on like clockwork as soon as you’re off the clock, but he doesn’t heat up ‘til later in the evening doesn’t mean you’re headed to a dead bedroom.Differences in sex drive can be worked through, if they don’t vary too widely, and if both partners are able to talk through their expectations for frequency of sex. Neither of you should feel badgered for sex and a partner who whines when they hear a ‘no’ is a huge red flag, but being able to talk about your expectations let it be a reasonable conversation rather than the nagging and guilt-tripping that lack of openness can make it seem like.

Openness & Communication

Are you able to discuss your sexual needs?

  1. Heck yes! I tell them exactly how to [redacted] [redacted] me [redacted]!
  2. I sometimes mention what I want either before or during sex.
  3. I prefer for my partner to anticipate my needs.

Obviously, some amount of conversation is required to a happy and healthy relationship, but it’s true that some people are just not as comfortable talking about sex. It can be highly situational, given that we all know one person who will enthusiastically describe their latest sex toy purchase in the middle of a restaurant, and those who prefer to keep it private, pillow-side conversations.

Again, you and your partner don’t need to be exactly the same, but if one of you likes to hear naughty talk in the bedroom and views sexting as a required foreplay, it may be difficult to work through if the other gets uncomfortable with the most euphemistic discussions of sexuality and body parts.

Sexual Style

LELO-Suede-Whip-purple-sensuaYou would describe your preferred sexual style as:

  1. Harder, better, stronger, faster!
  2. I take the rough with the smooth.
  3. When it comes to love, I want a slow hand.

How often do you like to switch up your routine?

  1. As much as I can!
  2. Sometimes.
  3. We’ve perfected a groove that works for us.

Foreplay is…

  1. What’s for dinner, every night.
  2. All about give and take.
  3. Something I don’t have the patience for.

Sexual style is just about equal parts what you naturally gravitate towards in bed, and also how open (and enthusiastic) you are about new experiences, and doesn’t necessarily depend on how kinky you are. To clarify, some people might be happy with the inclusion of hand cuffs or ticklers once in a while, while others are greatly interested and invested with exploring new sensations.

Sexual tastes can develop at any time, and while some people may dip their toe into new kinks occasionally, or are happy to do so to please their partner, but don’t feel particularly compelled to continue explore new things on a regular basis. In that way, two people of differing styles can still have a happy sex life, but if catering to each other’s tastes seems like a chore, it doesn’t bode well.Does your partner feel the need to push sexual boundaries and explore new kinks regularly? Try and be open minded and enthusiastic to try new things within reason. You don’t want to agree to things that will upset or disgust you, but you may find you get a lot of enjoyment out of their kinky pleasure.

Monogamy

Monogamy and you are:

  1. Mortal enemies.
  2. In talks.
  3. Monogamous.

Monogamy has been the assumed default model for relationships for so long, people can forget that it’s an important discussion to have. Clearly, given the popularity of the threesome fantasy, it simply doesn’t make sense to never discuss how ‘open’ you’d both like your relationship to be.Some people will treat watching porn as infidelity, and some people will want their partners to be able to find sexual satisfaction with other people in situations where they can’t or would not like to fill a particular need. Both can be equally healthy as long as those attitudes are discussed and agreed upon (sincerely). And hey, it’s ok to change your mind about the level you’ve agreed upon during your relationship, just make sure it’s posed as a new discussion and not an accusation.

Intimacy & Affection

When you think of the most intimate moments you share with your partner, you think of:

  1. Cuddling on the couch.
  2. Having a deep conversation at dinner.
  3. When you’re both in the throes of passion.

Your favorite place to keep your hands is:

  1. All over your partner.
  2. In their hand.
  3. In my pockets.

When you’re stressed out…

  1. Sex is the furthest thing from my mind.
  2. My partner and I relax with each other, sometimes through sex.
  3. Sex is my go-to way to relax.

This may not seem entirely like it’s relevant to sexual compatibility, but bear with us. Imagine one partner rarely makes bodily contact with the other, unless they’re in the bedroom. If their partner is a highly affectionate person, this can seem cold, and perhaps make them think their partner is only interested in them sexually.

Really, we all have different ways of communicating love and affection, as well as attitudes toward things like PDA. Because they aren’t calculated responses, we don’t always think about how our partner will interpret them. By examining your habits and talking about them, you can clear up any misunderstandings about behavior, and also learn how to better communicate affection and intimacy to your partner purposefully.

Conclusion

Be honest: How important is sex to you?

  1. It can fluctuate depending on who I’m with.
  2. Extremely!
  3. I like sex but it doesn’t figure that much into my daily life.

Look back over your answers, and think about how your partner would answer them. Better yet, ask! This is a key step to finding out how compatible you are because it will open up discussions about things that you both may have assumed about each other. Have different answers? Before you panic (it’s ok, we promise!) focus on which things are negotiable for you and your partner.

You know yourself that things are rarely black and white, compromise and flexibility are key to establishing how complementary you are as a couple.

And figuring out how you both feel about these aspects of your sexuality doesn’t mean squaring off to see who can get more out of the other person, or that you need to change fundamental parts of yourself. Negotiation might not sound sexy, but trust us when we say that discussing things like how kinky you are and how often you get turned on tend inspire couples to discovery!

https://www.lelo.com/blog/are-you-sexually-compatible/

Next Tuesday, Sept 20, The Erotic Literary Salon-live, Adult Sex-Ed-Having Sex, Making Love, Fucking

Sex, What’s Love Got To Do With It?

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Come with your questions, write them anonymously. It is rare that you have the opportunity to ask your question to a certified sexologist, an audience filled with people of all ages, ethnic backgrounds, all orientations, all genders, and the co-host Walter who will put a spin on it. Refer to the subject – What is the difference between making love, having sex and fucking. and Sex, What’s love got to do with it?