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Lady Dahl spoke with me recently, below is an excerpt from her lovely interview in Slixa. She is a regular contributor at the Salon.

THE SEXUAL PROWESS OF THE PHILADELPHIA EROTIC LITERARY SALONA COMMUNITY OF EROTICA CONNOISSEURS! Philadelphia’s Erotic Salon, hosted by clinical sexologist Susana Mayer, recently celebrated five years of sharing intimate oral exchange. The success of the multi-generational, multicultural, sexually charged forum – which now includes the Salon’s first eBook, SenSexual: A Unique Anthology 2013 Volumes 1 & 2, filled with works from many of the readers along with international contributions- seems to lay in the supportive sincerity of the venue’s Hostess.

The Salon’s cosmopolitan art house environment brings diverse people together in a way that has bonded them in a special sense similar to a sacred ritual, sharing secret desires and intimate life experiences. Her quiet, yet firm dominant tone, sets the mood, as we enter the mystery of the Salon every third Tuesday evening at the Bohemian Absinthe Lounge above TIME restaurant, in the heart of Philadelphia’s vibrant, social GLBT entertainment district.

SLIXA DAHL is excited to be Door Hostess again for September’s Salon. We sat down to discuss Susana’s venue, as we got ready for another sizzling sensate evening.

Susana – the Salon is often standing room only. Congratulations on the success of your venue! You must be so pleased with how the event has evolved over the last five plus years. What changes have you noted?

The Salon originally followed more closely the format of the Italian and French Salons that started in the 16th century. Because the attendance was smaller we were able to discuss and occasionally critique the works that were shared. With over 75 people it has become more entertainment. I have recently added a half hour Talk Q&A that is held prior to the readings.

From feedback I get from Salon attendees you have created an environment where men and women of different ages and identities feel very safe and comfortable discussing fantasies and ideas from different perspectives. What are your favorite aspects of Salon?

I enjoy watching people relate to some of the works, it shows on their faces. The moment when they feel normalized that someone else acts or feels the way they do.

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Press Release – October 15 – Heather Shayne Blakeslee – Writer, Musician, Performer

Philadelphia’s Erotic Literary Salon, Featuring Writer, Musician, Performer, Heather Blakeslee, Along With Attendee Readers, Tuesday, October 15.

Friday, September 20, 2013


PCSalons@gmail.com – contact: Susana Mayer, Ph.D., Salonnière,

PCSalons@gmail.comreserve a time slot to read at Salon (5 min max)

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – guidelines for reading.

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – blog s+x news, Salon notices, erotica, and guidelines.

The Erotic Literary Salon will be held Tuesday,  Oct. 15. Heather Shayne Blakeslee will be presenting, “The Day That You Find Me is Different” a thought-experiment and meditation on the nature of desire and long-term relationships.  Told from the perspective of a modern-day Eve speaking directly to an every-man Adam, the piece explores how we see one another in relationships and how we construct our realities, often passing through each day without intention, without desire, and without knowing one another.    The fictional scenario depicted in the performance has the head of an essay and the heart of a spoken-word seduction piece, and it will be accompanied by percussion on Turkish frame drum by Walter Foley. http://www.littleredrecords.com

Rochelle Lewis will lead the ‘Talk’ offering an excerpt from the Fringe event “All the Sex I’ve Ever Had.” She was one of the featured performers in this production and will also lead the Q&A.

Approximately twenty attendees will also entertain with their 5 minute sex memoirs, rants, short stories and poetry. The half hour talk and Q&A will be led Meghan and Gigi. They will talk about the taboo in discussing masturbation.

PHILADELPHIA: The Erotic Literary Salon, unique in the English-speaking world has launched a growing movement mainstreaming erotica. Salons attract a supportive audience of 70 or more individuals. Approximately 20 participate as writers, readers, storytellers, spoken word performers of original works/words of others, the rest just come to listen, enjoy and applaud. Frances, our resident nonagenarian (96 years young) will recite her original erotica.

Salons gather the 3rd Tuesday of every month at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge), 1315 Sansom Street, Center City, Philadelphia. Doors open at 6:30 p.m. (limited seating), for cocktails, food and conversation. Talk and Q&A between 7:00-7:30 and readings begin at 8:00. Admission is $10, discounted for students, and seniors (65+) to $8. Salon attendees must be 21.

Creator of this event, Dr. Susana, is Philadelphia’s best-known sexologist. She lends her voice to the Salon by offering relevant information to support the discussions that arise in the Salon and blog.


…surprisingly comfortable….Salon devotees praise her for the space she has created….”

“I think Susana is doing a very brave thing.”

Philadelphia Inquirer, February 10, 2010


“There are laughter and tears along with the hot rush of blood – to the face.

Daily News, March 15, 2010


“I never knew such a life of honesty could exist. I finally found a home I can be comfortable in…this event changed my life.

Warren Katz, first time attendee and reader



TODAY-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live – Madame Mojo, 60th Anniversary of Sexual Behavior in the Human Female: The Impact of Research

Tonight’s Erotic Literary Salon will be most special with the presence of Madame Mojo. Her dynamic style of teaching the erotic art of sexual pleasure is truly unique and most informative. Not to be missed.

Kinsey Today – volume 17, Number 3

60th Anniversary of Sexual Behavior in the Human Female: The Impact of Research

Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, the first Kinsey Report, came out in 1948. In the years before, Kinsey and his team took sexual histories of about 12,000 people. Out of this mountain of data, the Male volume analyzed information from 5,300 interviews with men.

Sexual Behavior in the Human Male was 804 pages of statistical tables, appendices, and dry academic analysis, but it still became a bestseller, selling over 200,000 copies, and a cultural sensation. People were starved for factual information about sex in America, and Kinsey’s research struck a nerve. The book was widely debated, and Dr. Kinsey was invited across America to lecture about his research.

And everyone wanted to know – what about the women?

Released in 1953, the women’s version, Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, contained analysis of 5,940 interviews with women about their sexual histories, but also contained a section dedicated to comparisons between the male and female results. It was another huge tome, 830+ pages, and quickly reached bestseller status, and sparked new buzz and controversy.

K-Day and Media Frenzy

After five years of waiting for the release of the female volume, the press around the world was eager for details and juicy tidbits on what Dr. Kinsey and his team might have discovered about women’s sexuality in America. In anticipation of the press attention, the Institute for Sex Research kept information tightly controlled, inviting over 60 print, TV, and radio news outlets to send reporters to private press briefings, and making the press agree not to publish any details until K-Day, August 20th, 1953.

Sexual Behavior in the Human Female was published on September 14 1953, and received another surge of news coverage. It became a topic of popular culture, with references in songs, cartoons, movies, jokes, and magazines.
Listen to Archie Stomp sing “What is her Whimsey, Dr. Kinsey?”


Legacy of the Female Volume

Looking back from our 21st-century viewpoint, with open discussion of sexuality and gender in media and in daily life, it can be hard to understand how much of a difference the Kinsey Reports made in the American conversations about sexuality, bodies, and relationships of the 1950s and 60s.

So we asked a few researchers to share with us what they feel was so revolutionary about the research shared 60 years ago in the Sexual Behavior in the Human Female:


“Our major aim was to create a more rational and scientific view of human sexuality. We made it possible for additional sex research which sprang up after us.
I am proud that I was able to contribute an anthropological cast to the female volume, improving it (over the Male).”

~Dr. Paul Gebhard, Director, 1956-1982, and co-author of Sexual Behavior in the Human Female

“As the first woman and third Director of The Kinsey Institute I wanted to honor the Anniversaries of Dr Alfred Kinsey’s classic works which provided the foundation of the Institute with a statement that would reflect their tremendous impact on science and world culture.

The “Kinsey Reports” were in their own way akin to the discovery of the “New World” several centuries earlier. An entire realm of human existence remained cut off from the purview of scholars and scientists, particularly in the western world after the fall of the Roman Empire. As a result, when they first appeared, the Reports represented far more than just a monumental step in the progress of the social sciences, but, for the first time, firmly established the study of human sexuality within the halls of science.  This pioneering undertaking helped to peel back many of the layers of obfuscation, denial and outright mistruths that had distorted or completely obscured humankind’s understanding of one of our fundamental features.  Though many shadows still remain in the domain of sexuality, it was Kinsey’s work that first cast the light of modern science into the darkest of its corners for not just academics but the public as well.

As the Institute’s name implies, there are no questions of Sex, Gender or Reproduction whose understanding does not in some way stem from the emergence of Kinsey’s work six decades ago.

This anniversary is a time to celebrate and acknowledge the courage and foresight of Dr. Alfred Kinsey and the scientists, researchers and clinicians who worked with him and have followed him over the past 6 decades!”

~Dr. June M. Reinisch, former Director, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction

“Sexual Behavior in the Human Female revealed that most women (such as 97% of married women) had experienced orgasm, just not by intercourse. This busted the myth of the ‘frigid’ wife, and showed the importance of the clitoris in female orgasm.These two books led millions of people to understand that variation in sexual expression is natural; thereby validating their sexuality and enriching their lives.“

~Richard Crosby, Senior Research Fellow. Professor, Department of Health Behavior, University of Kentucky

“My work on human reproductive functioning on 5 continents over the past 30 years has taught me the enormous value and power of Kinsey’s maxim that we are here to record human variation, not to judge it. His groundbreaking work 6 decades ago made possible current scientific understanding of human sexuality, thereby increasing our collective empathy for, and joy in, human universals and differences.”

~Virginia J. Vitzthum, Senior Scientist, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction; Professor of Anthropology, Indiana University

“The 0-6 scale in the Male volume and the debunking of the myth of the vaginal orgasm in the Female volume are two of Kinsey’s long-lasting achievements. The 0-6 scale is a non-hierarchical tool that an untold number of people have used to identify their sexuality.
Demonstrating that Sigmund Freud’s idea of orgasmic transfer was not physiologically possible paved the way for present-day understandings of women’s sexualities.”

~Donna J. Drucker, MLS, PhD, Postdoctoral Fellow, Technische Universität Darmstadt, Germany and author of the upcoming book, The Classification of Sex: Alfred Kinsey and the Organization of Knowledge (2014, U. of Pittsburgh Press).

“I think the most enduring legacy of Kinsey’s work, on a cultural level, is the concept of a continuum of sexual orientation – the ‘Kinsey Scale.’ Although the dominant paradigm is still categorical – “are you straight or gay?”  – most folks born into the post-Kinsey world have some understanding that people who are nominally heterosexual may have occasional homosexual experiences or attractions (and vice versa).

Kinsey’s work highlighted how frequently homosexual attraction occurs in heterosexuals: almost half of men and a fifth of women in his samples had “reacted to” a member of the same gender.  I find it remarkable how casually people my age accept the fluidity of sexual orientation (e.g., being “bicurious”) when just a few generations ago, sexual orientation was considered ironclad and absolute.”

~Tierney Lorenz, Ph.D., Postdoctoral Fellow, Common Themes of Reproductive Diversity, Kinsey Institute, and Center for the Integrative Study of Animal Behavior, Indiana University

“Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female are the bibles of sexology. Critics can carp about the sampling, elements of essentialism, etc., but when push comes to shove, there is no sex research that has informed us as much about human sexual behavior.”

~Martin S. Weinberg, Senior Research Sociologist and Trustee, Kinsey Institute, 1968 – 1980, Professor of Sociology, Indiana University.

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Tomorrow-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live, Podcast-What Do Women Want

Madam Mojo – America’s #1 Sexolutionary will be featured presenter tomorrow. Also she will lead Talk Q&A on Foreplay.

I didn’t realize the author’s talk I attended at Philadelphia’s Free Public Library was being taped. You can hear Daniel Bergner discuss and read parts of his new book, What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire at this link. My question is at 43:52, but in context it would be best to hear the earlier sections. While I was stating my question and discussing personal paradigms for women, what could not be picked up by the microphone were the heads of people shaking in agreement.

Thanks to one of the Salon attendees for sending this link to me.