Please join me in celebrating the 11th year of the Salon’s mission – A verbal sanctuary for sexual expression.
Also celebrating the book launch of A New Normal, by attendee Dr. Jennifer Booker.
Passional Boutique / Sexploration has generously offered 4 gift certificates values at $25 each to be given away with free raffle. But stay till the end of the Salon when numbers will be called. In honor of your anniversary the gift certificates will be raffled off monthly.
Do come and celebrate the Erotic Literary Salon’s 11th anniversary and Dr. Jennifer Booker’s book Launch for her memoir/guide to transitioning, The New Normal.
Porn That Takes Senior Sex Seriously
Bonnie and Joel in Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex.Image: Wicked Pictures
LOS ANGELES—Bonnie and Joel have known each other for over half a century. Now, they’re filming their very first porno.
They sit on a white leather couch, backlit by the Southern California sun, and gaze romantically at each other. “I could spend all day just looking into your eyes,” she says, a boom and mic hovering overhead. A camera pans their torsos, capturing wandering hands. Bonnie, 70, strokes Joel’s long, white mane, which has been pulled into a low ponytail. Joel, 69, runs his fingers through her closely croppedsilverhair.
The kissing begins, with pointed pauses for eye contact, face nuzzling, and laughter—but then Bonnie pulls back. “I’m uncomfortable,” she says as a straightforward statement of fact. “First of all, I’m too hot.” Bonnie slowly shrugs a pink cotton robe off her shoulders, revealing a black lace bra from Target, and shifts her position. She has fibromyalgia and her back has been acting up today.
The camera keeps rolling because this is exactly what the film crew is here to capture: two people navigating the vicissitudesof sex and aging.
This film, Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex, co-directed by adult performer jessica drake, who uses the lower-case, and Joan Price, author of Naked At Our Age,will feature hardcore footage alongside narrated tutorials. It’s the latest entry in adult film studio Wicked Pictures’ line of X-rated educational videos, and it comes at a time when headlines frequently highlight the rising rates of sexually transmitted infections among seniors. Naturally, there will be a safer sex component. But, mostly, Price and drake want to show seniors that sex can still be hot and satisfying, even it’s necessarily different than it used to be.
“That’s better, that’s better,” says Bonnie, once her robe is off. The pair were “lovers” in college and only reconnected 11 years ago, thanks to the internet. They start kissing again. “I love your lips,” says Joel. She replies, mischievously, “Both sets.” With their foreheads pressed together, Bonnie offers up a “meowr” before laughing at herself. Joel, wearing a black tank top with a suede string that laces up the neck, “meowrs” right back and tugs at a handful of her hair. “Be careful with the hair pulling today,” she says. “Just, very gentle. I like it, but not too hard right now.”
Before long, Bonnie pulls back again to suggest another change, but this time it isn’t driven by physical discomfort. She tilts her head and raises an eyebrow. Then she says archly, “I think my pussy needs some attention.”
Bonnie’s black crotchless panties are taken off, pillows are propped behind her back, and a range of sex toys are deployed—all of them brought from home in North Carolina. The couple carried them here in a weathered jumbo Ziplock baggie, the kind you might use to freeze slices of fresh bread. There follows a series of “fucks” and “I’m about to come,” and she does, many times over.
“Good thing there’s a towel,” she says with an irreverent laugh, because Bonnie is a squirter.
Joel keeps going, applying a Hitachi between her legs, until she says, a matter of factly, “That’s enough. That’s enough for now.”
drake’s and Price’s film follows two other notable porn projects featuring older performers. In December, porn director Bree Mills launched the series Age & Beauty, which focuses on “elegantly shot encounters between self-confident older women and attractive younger talent.” These pairings are always taboo, which is Mills’s calling card, but the illicitness often arises from something other than the age difference itself—a physical therapist sleeping with her client, for example. Although, there is the exception of a young man from an elder care service who is seduced by an older woman while delivering her groceries. (“All I need is just a strong young man to give me a massage,” she says. “It really helps with my circulation.”)
In March, Erika Lust, a Barcelona-based director, premiered Soul Sex, a film in which a real-life couple in their 70s have sex. It’s a long ways from elderly women seducing grocery delivery boys: The film takes its title from the practice of “soul sex,” a spiritual approach to sex that involves eye contact, mindfulness, and the utterance of a special prayer beforehand (“I know you have sent me this person to help me find, know, heal, and forgive myself,” it begins). The film captures their slow movements alongside luxuriating closeups on rough skin, wrinkles, and sun spots.
The emergence of this micro-genre seems almost inevitable, given an aging populace—people over the age of 65 will soon outnumber children and they are increasingly going online. But the women behind these recent projects talk about them in political terms, rather than as attempts to capitalize on a growing market.
“People think that older bodies can’t possibly be sexy or desirable because we have been fed the message through advertising, television and films that only young bodies are attractive,” Lust says on her website. “It’s time we start shifting how we view senior sex.” Similarly, Mills says her intent is to “showcase intimacy with older people in a sex-positive light, instead of the usual novelty you see in conventional pornography.”
For drake and Price, the goal is to target seniors themselves. “We’re often thought of in our society as having aged out of sex,” says Price, a petite 75-year-old wearing low-heeled lace-up black shoes stamped with bright-red lipstick kisses. “We’re old, we’re wrinkly, who’d want us? We internalize the idea that as older people we’re not sexual anymore.”
Seniors may not age out of sex, but there are real potential sexual side-effects of aging—from vaginal dryness to difficulty with erections, libido changes to achy backs. “Our bodies, relationships, what we like, what we don’t like, what hurts, what feels good—all of that is changed,” Price says in-between takes. These changes, paired with the paradigm of sex as a youthful domain, can be discouraging. “So many seniors will give up on sex and go, ‘I guess that’s over, it was nice while it lasted,’” she adds. “What they don’t understand is that it can, in many ways, be better than ever.”
That “better than ever” requires accepting that, as she writes in Naked At Our Age, “sex might not feel or look the way it did when our hormone rush propelled us into jet-steam sex.” That might mean accepting the need for supportive pillows or the assistance of sex toys. Many women experience vaginal dryness post-menopause—although few discuss it with their healthcare providers—and lube can help. Throughout the shoot—which featured Bonnie and Joel, as well as Marlene and Galen, a kinky pair that had met that day—the co-directors encouraged performers to pointedly use lube on camera.
Senior sex can also require getting comfortable with a flaccid penis. What would have brought another porn shoot to a screeching halt was a narrative essential for this film. “Even with erectile dysfunction there are wonderful ways to have sex where there’s no erection required,” says Price. “Stimulation can happen, arousal can happen, joy can happen.” Galen, who describes himself as a dominant erotic sadist, memorably said during an on-camera interview that his partners “leave feeling penetrated.”
Aging puts some constraints on sex, but it can also put people in touch with the fundamentals: communication, creativity, authenticity. “When you’re young, your hormones will take over even if other things aren’t being done right,” says Price. “But at our age, sex won’t happen unless we have these ideas about how to communicate about it and how to compensate for physical issues and how to talk about sex and how to have sex that isn’t just penetrative sex.”
Bonnie and Joel—with their hair pulling, casual “pussy” talk, and effortless communication—are not your average elderly pair. They are polyamorous and lead an elderly sexuality discussion group at a local senior center back home in North Carolina. Joel is a physician and Bonnie has worked as a nurse and midwife, and spent years as a women’s health advocate. They were hippies in the ’70s. “This is not the senior population,” as Price puts it.
But that is why Price has managed to write four books on senior sex, and why Bonnie and Joel’s classes, where they discuss things like basic anatomy and STIs, routinely fill up. Many seniors are still learning the basics. “The kind of sex education we got back in the ’50s and ’60s was really not much,” Bonnie notes. “When I got my period for the first time, my mother handed me a booklet and said, ‘Read this.’” Bonnie says she encounters many women her age who “don’t know anything about the clitoris.”
In their discussion group, they do an ice-breaking exercise where everyone has to come up with slang words for the penis, vulva, and intercourse. “A lot of people can’t even say the word ‘fuck,’” she notes. They also review the basics of consent. “So many people don’t understand it. We were brought up in the age when you sometimes went along with it.”
Despite her progressive, sex-positive point of view, Bonnie might be somewhat representative in at least one aspect: her willingness to pause mid-makeout to voice her discomfort about an achy back, as opposed to moaning through it. A recent study of peri- and postmenopausal women found that, while some reported negative sexual consequences of aging, like lower libido and vaginal dryness, they also reported positive aspects, like greater self-confidence and communication skills. In a press release, Holly Thomas, the lead author behind that 2018 study, underscored one particular aspect of these improvements: “When they were younger they didn’t feel empowered to say ‘that is not working for me.’”
The reality of sex is rarely a seamless experience of two people wordlessly intuiting each others’ wants and needs—even when you have several decades of sexual experience. The difference might be a greater willingness to accept that.
In Marlene’s case, she didn’t feel empowered to actually figure out what worked for her until a few years ago at the start of her 60s. She followed a traditional path, married at 19, and was a mother by 20. That marriage ended after five years and was followed by another, which lasted a decade before they divorced. Her kids boomeranged in and out of her house, even as adults. “Finally, they got to a point where they were stable,” she says, throwing her strawberry blonde hair over her shoulder. “And I’m like, wow, I’ve got the freedom to do whatever I want now.”
For the past two decades, Marlene has been single and dating, but it was only a few years ago that she met a man in an open marriage who introduced her to the worlds of swinging and BDSM. “I’ve had a lot of experience with vanilla people, single men, and people who are just very repressed about their sexuality,” she says, wearing a strappy black lingerie set and waiting for the start of her scene. “For me, that was not working.”
Now, at 63, she answered a call in Price’s newsletter looking for seniors interested in appearing in the film. “My life has changed quite a bit in the last few years,” she says during an on-camera interview. “I have, I guess, come out as a very sexual woman.” Later, she adds, “We’re not here for a long time, so have a good time.”
She did just that in her scene with Galen, dressed all in black, his face framed by a halo of white hair. Marlene gave and received oral sex, and was blindfolded, flogged, and spanked for half an hour. There were multiple orgasms on her part. No erection, or ejaculation, required.
Older people are hardly unheard of in porn—although “older” is relative. There is MILF porn—a highly popular genre, which typically features performers in their late-20s and beyond—as well as the broader “mature” category. But, according to Chauntelle Tibbals, a sociologist who studies the adult industry, porn featuring women who have aged out of those popular categories “is often presented as ‘shock value’ content along the lines of Grandma’s Bush 12 or Granny’s Little Toyboy.” At the most recent AVN Awards, the so-called Oscars for the porn industry, several “granny” performers and films took home fringe awards.
Older men have their niche, too. Longtime performer Steve Holmes, who is in his 50s, regularly works in daddy-daughter faux incest films, as well as the occasional “dirty grandpa” flick.
These more recent high-profile projects—attached to well-known women directors in the adult industry—come at sex and age from different angles: drake’s is educational, Lust’s is spiritual, and Mills’s is psychological. But they all carry a certain degree of seriousness and sensuality around this business of older people having sex. These are not Grannies Got Hair DownThere or Grannies Got Hair Down There 2.
There is a cultural belief in youthful sex as the hottest sex, which equates “hot” with idealized aesthetics: Smooth, tight, unblemished skin. Acrobatic positions, raging hard-ons, “wet” vaginas, and endless pounding. Nothing flopping or sliding; no popping joints or bad backs. These recent projects suggest a broader set of aesthetics while aiming for something beyond the visual. In Soul Sex, it’s the spiritual and emotional connection during sex that’s punctuated with breathy utterances of “that’s beautiful.” In the Age & Beauty series, it’s often the seasoned confidence of an older woman. In Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex, it’s the easing of physical expectations.
Later, Bonnie and Joel transition to a bed in a sunlit room with gauzy white curtains. He’s changed into white linen pants and let down his chest-length hair. She’s changed into a lacy purple lingerie set and black fishnets. Before filming begins again, drake tells them, “If penetrative sex happens, I’m thrilled. If it doesn’t happen, I’m thrilled, still.” Price calls “action.”
There is making out, fingering, oral, and laughter. Bonnie comes several times with a resounding “oh fuck.” Then she tells Joel, “I need your cock inside me.” He replies, facetiously, “I think we can accommodate that.” There’s some side-by-side and a brief bit of cowgirl, before she dismounts. “Too hard on my body,” she says. Joel fingers her, but then she lets him know that she’s sore and needs some lube.
They continue like this for a while, with necessary pauses and adjustments. Then, several minutes before they’ve captured the 30 minutes of footage that they need for the film, Joel ejaculates on Bonnie’s stomach. As the pair laughs ecstatically, they are told that they will have to fill up the remaining screen time with a bit of dry humping, that cliche domain of teenagers. Shortly before “action” is called again, drake reassures them, “You’re 10 minutes away from a nap.”
The Erotic Literary Salon will be held Tuesday, May 21. Come celebrate the launching of Dr. Jennifer Booker’s book, “The New Normal: Coming Out as a Transgender in Midlife.” Jennifer has been presenting at the Salon since 2012. We have been fortunate to witness her coming out journey as transgender and going through transition. At the May Salon she will share some of her insights and experiences. Jennifer will be doing a book signing at the Salon,”and givingaway one copy to the lucky raffle winner. Her website is docjennifer.org
The evening will start with the Adult Sex-Ed Salon a one-hour program devoted to sex and sexuality. The audience will have the opportunity to pose any questions regarding sex and sexuality anonymously.Sexologist Susana Mayer, PhD, along with co-host Walter will facilitate the Adult Sex-Ed Salon and attendees interested in sharing their knowledge and experiences will join in the discussion. This is always an extremely lively, audience driven Q & A period.
PHILADELPHIA: Since 2008, The Erotic Literary Salon, unique in the English-speaking world has launched a growing movement mainstreaming erotica. Salons attract a supportive audience of 60 or more individuals. Approximately 10-15 attendees participate as writers, readers, storytellers, spoken-word performers of original works. The audience has the opportunity to participate sometimes reading sexuality quotes from various books or they can just listen, enjoy and applaud. The attendees also have the opportunity to create caption for erotic cartoon specifically designed for the Salon. Sign-up to read at the door; guidelines can be found at the Salon’s website.
Salons gather the 3rd Tuesday of every month at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge), 1315 Sansom Street, Center City, Philadelphia. Doors open at 6:30 p.m., for cocktails, food and conversation. Adult Sex-Ed between7:00-8:00, readings begin at approximately8:30. Admission is $12, discounted for students and seniors to $10. Salon attendees must be 21.
Creator of this event, Dr. Susana, is Philadelphia’s best-known sexologist. She lends her voice to the Salon by offering relevant information to support the discussions that arise in the Salon and blog.
“…surprisingly comfortable….Salon devotees praise her for the space she has created….”
“I think Susana is doing a very brave thing.”
Philadelphia Inquirer, February 10, 2010
“There are laughter and tears along with the hot rush of blood – to the face.”
Daily News, March 15, 2010
“I never knew such a life of honesty could exist. I finally found a home I can be comfortable in…this event changed my life.”
First-time attendee and reader 2013
“First time attending but I really enjoyed myself, great crowd, love the transparency and openness. Looking forward to next month with great anticipation.”
First-time attendee 2018
“Finding my voice in such an amazing community has been such a light in my life. I’m feeling whole and full of love.
At tomorrows Salon you get to describe the best sex you ever had in 1 sentence-anonymously in print. Start reminiscing.
21 Men Describe The Best Sex They Ever Had In Graphic Detail
1. She Took COMPLETE control
She got on top, pinned my arms down, and then proceeded to use me to get herself off. I could understand that sounding selfish, but being used as an object for her sexual pleasure was absolutely awesome.
2. Lazy Hotel Sex
Best sex of my life.
My Fiance and I had just driven 16 hours straight to get to Pensacola, FL. We had traveled there to get a FL marriage license because we were getting married in Key West later in the month. We were both exhausted and a little delirious when we finally checked into the hotel and got to our room. I asked her if she wanted to have “sleepy lazy hotel sex.” We made love for over an hour just in the missionary position, barely moving… just kissing and basically just writhing in each other’s arms. We both had the most mind blowing orgasms simultaneously, we just laid there spooning while I was still inside her until we fell asleep.
We awoke maybe 12 hours later and went for round two… been chasing that high ever since. We’ve been married about a year now.
3. A Lifechanging Fling
Wall of text coming. I need to get this off my chest.
They most primal sex organ is the brain itself. If your brain is running smoothly, nothing but the most awesome sex will happen. And the brain gets on full revs when there is chemistry when you click, you just match with the right person.
Without that connection, good sex can be good, but nothing beats having your brain intoxicated with love hormones. NOTHING.
I was (am) coming out of a sexless marriage, where sex was, well, bad. She was tired of being played by men, completely focused on her research work and just shy about men overall.
We met at a conference abroad. She liked me but was too shy to approach. We got introduced. We clicked instantly. We started jumping lectures to talk about ourselves and our work. Still, I was not expecting anything else at this point. The first night I just awkwardly escorted her to her hotel and walked to mine.
The next day, I saw her again, looking for me among the crowd. We spent the day together, sacrificing some of her lectures so she could go to my lectures and vice versa (in conferences, it is common that several lectures run at the same time, forcing the attendees to pick between them). Again, we were just spending time together…not really looking for anything else.
Then comes the night, we recruit other people, we go for dinner, she quickly picks a seat next to me, still shy about being open with her feelings. An old lady comes begging for some money, she is super sweet to I gave her money and start a funny conversation with me. I could see in my girl’s eyes her heart was melting and that gave me a huge rush.
We ate, went for drinks, then to a salsa bar. Danced with some other girls, just teaching them a few steps here and there. Then she asked me to dance with her. And this is when the magic starts to happen: she wasn’t very trained dancing salsa and bachata (a super sexy latin rhythm) however, she held on to me and within a minute we were flying over the dancefloor. We could not even believe this was happening. We danced for hours. Everyone else got bored and left. I kicked the DJ out of the booth (he was a pretty chill guy) so we could play our favorites over and over.
Then we sat down to rest. Then we talked. Then I kissed her. That first kiss made my mind explode. The first thing that rushed into my mind was that I haven’t been kissed like this in no less than a decade. It was her lips, it was her enthusiasm, she kissed me like she wanted to kiss me forever, we could not even stop to breath… we kissed and kissed until the bar closed. I could just not get enough.
The walk back was horrible: we could do more than ten steps without collapsing on some wall kissing again. We decided to go to my place. We had sex until the morning. All over the place. No porn acrobatics, no acting. Just honest, sincere, wild sex.
I could not sleep for the few hours I had left before the conference. I had cheated for the first time. Yet I haven’t felt so loved and cared for in years. We cried tears of joy when she woke up.
The next two days were similar: dancing for hours, swimming naked in the sea at 4 in the morning, then rushing up to our bed.
Came back home and filed for divorce. I haven’t been happier in years. It was not about the sex: it was about affection and boundless love. That is what makes the best sex.
One night my girlfriend and I had rented some Spongebob Seasons. She decides to go to the bathroom and says she’ll be right back. She’s in there for 20 minutes.
Finally, she comes out and tells me to not turn around and to close my eyes. I feel her kiss me, rope go around my hands, and then I open my eyes and she’s in a schoolgirl outfit.
We fucked like crazy for about 3 hours.
Best part was: Since spongebob was still playing in the background, we would hear a funny part about to come up, stop and laugh, then continue on.
Best. Sex. Ever.
6. Breakup Sex
The weekend my ex and I broke up. We’d been dating for ~a year. Things had been tense for a while. Not bad, just tense. I was working 4-midnight, and she was working like 15 hour days finishing her last year of Med School. We had a talk on Friday night and decided we were going to try to make it work. We reassured each other that we loved each other and then proceeded to literallyspend the next two days having sex. Sometimes hardcore and brutal, sometimes so loving and gentle it was less sex than hugging with penetration. We went through every permutation of every position and act I can imagine (minus butthole pleasures). We went at it for 2 days, only stopping to order food and buy Gatorade.
Sunday morning we went to brunch and it was just kind of…off. We broke up while sharing eggs Benedict and after that day I never saw or heard from her again.
Soon after getting married we went on a sort of the vacations to the Black Sea area. There we rented one of those triangular cottages that have roof for their walls. It was completely surrounded by pines and cypresses so despite being flimsy it was rather private. Thing didn’t have any AC and would heat up like an oven, there was just enough space inside for two pulled together twin beds. On the first day there, on the way to the cottage, we picked up a half gallon jug of local young wine, still local grapes and giant chunk of honeycomb, dripping with honey.
Once we got to the cottage our clothes just fell off and pretty much stayed off for the rest of the week there. Something in the air, wine, honey and fruit diet, all those cypresses and pines around – I don’t know what caused it. It was the best sex ever. We’d stop mid-fuck because we were just too hot, jump out on the little porch and pour water from those 2-liter soda bottles on each other – that was the only way to cool down – and get right back to it.
8. The Figure Skater
I once had a FWB thing with a figure skater. She had the strongest pelvic floor (kegel) muscles I have ever experienced–like, phenomenally strong. She was on top of me and basically alternated “milking” me and doing slow, drawn-out up-and-down motions. I was at that “almost about to cum” stage for like 20 minutes–I would want her to just FINISH ALREADY and she wouldn’t move a muscle, and just when the feeling was about the pass–SQUEEZE.
Had a girl over and started having sex. It was great, and after a half hour I’m close to finishing. Part of the reason we started is because it was raining outside and she was turned on by it, the sound. During my vinegar strokes, a big lightning strike comes through the window and glows on my face. And as a I let out the last thrust, the loudest thunder crack you’ve ever heard rattles the house as I’m climaxing. I’ll never forget the look on her face. It was awesome.
I was dating this really shy, quiet, slightly nerdy girl. You wouldn’t describe her as sexy, but as adorable. A nice girl. A sweetheart. She was totally the exact opposite of my type, but she was so smart, and an all-around really good person.
Anyway, the 1st time we had sex, she asked me to lie on the bed and close my eyes. I assumed she was just a little self-conscious or something. When she told me to open them, she had her hair down and was wearing black lace lingerie and fishnets. Giving me a mischevious, Stoya like smile she starts massaging my entire body, teasing her tongue all over it and lightly blowing while I’m damn near going crazy. By the time she finally whispered “take me now” I had never before or after wanted a woman so fucking bad. Goddamnit I miss her.
11. Closet floor sex
Her mom was asleep on the other side of the house…it was late…we were horny…I grabbed a condom and we rushed into her closet, since her bed was squeaky and her closet had carpet, we dropped our pants and I fucked her. She had to brace herself against the wall so as not to bump into it, and she had to restrain herself from making noise because it felt so good. Right before I came, she pulled her shirt down, and the sight of her enormous boobies bouncing up and down pushed me over the edge…holy fuck it was sexy.
12. Dirty And Raunchy
I feel like a lot of people equate “best” with emotion and intimacy. If I’m being honest the best sex I’ve ever had was the exact opposite; it was dirty and raunchy and that’s what made it so good.
Went out for a night on the town with a girl I’d gone on a few dates with. We’d hooked up before but always in a pretty tame way because roommates were always around. This time I had my own personal suite to come home to. Both of us came back absolutely plastered. I literally tore off her cocktail dress and threw her on the bed, blindfolded her with my tie, wrapped my belt around her neck and fucked the ever-living shit out of her until the sun came up. I distinctly remember her telling me she was my “own personal fuck-toy” and that she wanted me to “tear her apart like the useless whore I am.” It was savage. It was barbaric. And it was fucking awesome.
Best sex I ever had was the one girl who had the confidence and gusto to pin me do the bed, and have sex on top of me. Before she started, she was grinding on me before even asking if I wanted to have sex. Then she kept asking again and again in a teasing way that was like asking, “How about now? Now that I’ve done this, how about now. Now that you’ve seen my breasts, how about now?” – It was playful, but super confident.
It was so nice to have a girl try to do ANYTHING to turn me on. Girls don’t do that shit. They expect you to just be on, and then it’s you turning THEM on… every fucking time.
Not this one. She was kind of like a cocky/confident man in bed, and I loved it. Never felt so turned on.
I ended a relationship so I could date her. I went about a year without dating others because I wanted to be available for her. I eventually moved to China to be with her again, that’s years later.
In a few months, we move into an apartment together. The point of mentioning moving to China and waiting is to expressly detail how fucking super-important it is for a girl to know how to be good in bed. I would sacrifice damn near anything for her because she’s unique. She’s special, she has value above any other girl I’ve ever gotten close to because she’s fucking good in bed. She knows what she’s doing.
We get to have that kind of sex pretty regularly. I found a girl that actually enjoys sex, actually has passion, actually likes the male figure, and likes penetration… I hit the fucking jackpot and I know that if I ever let her get away, she’s the one I’ll fantasize about while having sex with my wife in ten, twenty, thirty years. She will be the one that I always fantasize about.
I plan on making her that wife. – THAT, women, is why you need to learn how to have proper sex and show a little confidence in the bedroom. Don’t just spread out like a dead starfish. No man wants to fuck like that. No man will remember or want you, or wait for you, or cross a fucking ocean if you only offer average sex. Game up!
The best sex I ever had also happened to be the most irresponsible sex I ever had. Storytime!
I met this girl while I was traveling and we immediately hit it off. Unfortunately, we only had a few days before the thing I was traveling for ended and I had to go back home.
After I got back home I learned she was about to visit my state for something else and I immediately told her to get her ass over to my place when she was done sight seeing. She happily agreed.
When my doorbell finally rang and I opened my door to see her my lizard brain took over. I remember pulling her inside, kissing her, tearing at each other’s clothes, and hiking her dress up while I pinned her against the wall and drove myself inside her, bare, while she wrapped her legs behind my back.
I finished inside her and as I came she had the most incredible orgasm. It was the most intense sex I’ve ever had.
And to answer the natural questions that I am sure you’re thinking: no, she didn’t get pregnant. No, we didn’t catch anything from the other. And no, I definitely do not plan to have unprotected sex with basically strangers in the future.
I was dating this girl who was beautiful, fun and super sexy. We spent a weekend together having as much sex as we physically could. That was awesome, however, she was just so physically into me that is what made it the best.
It seems like most women nowadays will have sex but not passion. When this girl was so hungry for me it was astounding and made it so much better. I am still trying to find that passion again.
When I was 19-20 there was a girl I liked a whole lot. I would go out partying with her and her friends as the dd. One of her friends had a slammin body; 5’7, 38dd, maybe 125-130 (not a carnival worker, all I know is she was proportionate) and looooved alcohol. Everyone knew I liked her friend. She invites me over one night for drinks. I bring a bottle of grey goose, we do a shot on her couch and she jumps me bones. Literally. Just straight up grabbed me and the night got started. The sex was incredible. Everything about that night was awesome. All my girlfriends up until that point had been kinda small. So being with a taller, curvier lady was nice. Also having her be aggressive was nice. And it was the first marathon sex I’ve ever had. That went on for a couple of months. The friends with benefits, not the marathon sex.
Dated a girl for a few months, and then broke it off. A few weeks later she texted me…I had a sex fantasy about you, if you want guilt free sex, it’s tonight. I replied with a time. When I get there she steps out of the elevator, and a few people were on it, so we casually said hello. Soon as they are off she slams me against the wall. We get into her place and clothes are flying everywhere, walls are being crashed into, music is rocking loud. she would be aggressive, then I would. It was like a movie. Afterward, we are drenched in sweat and out of breath.. and I say “I think I called you a Bitch.. sorry about that” and we laugh our asses off.
My best sex was a one night stand turn into a three-day fuckfest. I was out at the clubs and I see a girl I know making out with this really hot, thin brunette. This brunette was all about fun, she kissed me, repeatedly flashed and played with her tits in front of me.
We sat down at a bar, she bought me a drink. She really knew how to be coy, playful and say the right things. Proclaimed I wasn’t her type but so good looking she didn’t care, kissed me more. It was nearing closing time and she left her barstool for a bit to get something, fifteen minutes went by and I decided I didn’t want to wait anymore so I headed to the exit to find her again. She threw her arms around my neck. An important lesson to learn there, never let a hyperactive boozed girl disappear.
Nonetheless, we head back to my place and boy do we get it on. For three days with only a short break on day two for her to go home and get stuff we fucked and fucked and fucked. I usually don’t orgasm from sex but I shot a fucking jet stream into her several times. Slapping, choking, ass licking, anal. I buried my tongue so far into her ass I almost came from that alone. We used over half a bottle of oil and loads of lube, slid around on each other. I ate her out so many times I had trouble speaking due to my tongue being worn out. And she knew how to suck dick, not sensual, not casually but like she worshiped the cock. The kind of blowjob you feel like she treats your dick as the source of life.
Whenever we took a break we’d lay on the couch and watch some movie I’d just slide it in and just lay there slowly fucking throughout the whole movie, then back to playraping. I love ass to mouth and licking ass so I made sure to fuck her in both holes then face fuck her then make out like our tongues were glued to each other, sharing the taste of her juices.
After she left on the third day I was so sexed up and horny I headed out to the bar to get laid. At the entrance to the club, I met some female friends of me that started clapping. Turns out I rocked her world so hard she’d never gotten fucked like that ever in her life.
Sadly we never hooked up again, some almosts but usually ended in us making out at clubs then either of us getting shitfaced and disappearing. I’m still good friends with her, she’s engaged to some dude now but we both remember and talk our wonderful weekend together. If she’s ever single again I’ll text her in a heartbeat.
The other best sex I had was the girl that taught me the joy of oil. I brought a couple girls and a mate home for an afterparty. Went into my bedroom and fucked for a while. Pretty damn good. She needed some rest so I went into the living room, had sex with the other girl whilst my mate was in the bathroom, came in like two minutes. He leaves with the girl.
I head back into the bedroom, and now that we were alone she turned into a sex fiend. She took my oil and oiled us both up completely. She has large cheekbones, the most seductive green eyes, and big pouty lips. She oiling my shaft with both her hands while sucking me occasionally looking up with her fuck me face was amazing. She had never liked anal, but we went into the shower, I said “fuck this I’m not letting this chance go”, lubed her ass up good fingering her with three fingers before I slid in and went to town. Her screaming my name and complimenting me while I hammered her ass was amazing. We ended up fucking everywhere, even ruined my sink as it tore from the wall. We ended up fucking for years when she got away from her boyfriend. She’s single now so started seeing her again.
It seems sex that glorifies me really turns me on, god knows why but vocal, seductive women that take charge, compliment me but let me dominate them really gets me going.
Best sex? Most definitely on the night of my 21st birthday. Instead of going out to the bars and getting shitfaced like the average college aged kid, my girlfriend and I at the time decided to make the night something we would never forget. A couple hours before sunset we headed out to go camping on a small beach surrounded by tall cliffs for the night. We brought the usual camping gear but with a few fun extras. Mp3 player, speakers,6 pack of some tasty microbrew, plenty of cannabis, 3 hits of some quality LSD
Needless to say, the night was the PERFECT temperature to lounge around under the stars fully nude, tripping balls, and having the most amazing sex I will ever experience. It was as if we were two greek gods making love while the very fabric of our existence intermingled.
Not the best sex I’ve ever had but definitely the best one nighter.
There was a group of friends I saw every now and then, so did this girl. We were both peripheral members of the core group. Anyway, we didn’t get on, like at all. We would argue and make jibes at each other in front of the others. Anyway were at a gathering and 3 of the girls go out to get some weed and more alcohol, the guys go with them as they didn’t want them going by themselves. I would have gone myself but I was having a smoke in the back garden.
So they leave and it’s just this girl, myself and a guy who passed out on the toilet early doors.
We’re forced to deal with this situation, we tried talking and it escalated into a semi-flirty argument which I ended with…’you couldn’t handle me’. So she straddled me right there on the sofa and we had an incredibly intense anger fuck and finished, got ourselves looking presentable again before the others arrive. We never had sex again but it did wonders for our relationship, no more arguments.
She was absolutely beautiful, she was comfortable as hell with herself, and most importantly she was like an Olympic gold medalist in kegel exercises. She could make her pussy squeeze and contort in ways I never thought possible. I lasted all of 30 seconds. The second time all of a minute, the third time maybe a minute and thirty seconds. We were just fuck buddies for a couple months, but never once did I ever fuck her. She fucked the shit out of me every single time. My saving grace was that I’ve got oral down to an absolute art. She kept coming back for the oral and was so kind she let me flop around on top of her for 45 seconds afterward everytime. That pussy was literally designed and chiseled by gods. It was not of this world.
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Monica Day performance/reading two poems: The Fifth Year and This is My Body for January 2013 Erotic Literary Salon
M. Dante reading SKIN dedicated to the art and inspiration of Heide Hatry for December 2013 Erotic Literary Salon
Frances' reading,“Go the Fok to Sleep”