Asian Shunga – Sex Pictures, How to Think More About Sex, Famous Definitions of Love

Japan has a rich sexual history. The film “Memories of a Geisha” revived this rich, bizarre & kinky history of a truly open-minded culture.  The following images are coined with the term Shunga which can be translated to “Image of Spring”. Spring is a common euphemism for sex.

Shunga art depicted everything: men seducing women, male-on-male trysts, men and women cheat on each other, woman-on-woman, threesomes, masturbation and many more bizarre scenes as you will see in the following pictures.

Shunga couples are often shown in non-realistic positions with exaggerated genitalia. Explanations for this include increased visibility of the sexually explicit content, artistic interest and psychological impact: that is, the genitalia is interpreted as a ‘second face,’ expressing the primal passions that the everyday face is obligated by giri to conceal, and is therefore the same size as the head and placed unnaturally close to it by the awkward position. [Source Wikipedia]


Alain de Botton on How to Think More About Sex


“The more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’ the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.”

“When we hook up with another, in sex or love (or, more rarely, both) we prove that our isolation is not permanent,” Dorion Sagan — son of Carl — wrote in his fascinating history of sex. And yet that very quest to end our isolation has been subject to centuries of stigma and incessant friction with our social values. But it needn’t be this way.

Last week, The School of Life taught us how to stay sane by revising our inner stories. From the same fantastic series of intelligent, non-self-helpy, yet immensely helpful guides to modern living comes How to Think More About Sex(public libraryUK) by philosopher Alain de Botton, who has previously given us some sage advice on success, a vision for religion for atheists, and some answers to little kids’ biggest questions.

De Botton writes in the introduction:

Despite our best efforts to clean it of its peculiarities, sex will never be either simple or nice in the ways we might like it to be. It is not fundamentally democratic or kind; it is bound up with cruelty, transgression and the desire for subjugation and humiliation. It refuses to sit neatly on top of love, as it should. Tame it though we may try, sex has a recurring tendency to wreak havoc across our lives: it leads us to destroy our relationships, threatens our productivity and compels us to stay up too late in nightclubs talking to people whom we don’t like but whose exposed midriffs we nevertheless strongly wish to touch. Sex remains in absurd, and perhaps irreconcilable, conflict with some of our highest commitments and values. Unsurprisingly, we have no option but to repress its demands most of the time. We should accept sex as inherently rather weird instead of blaming ourselves for not responding in more normal ways to its confusing impulses.

This is not to say that we cannot take steps to grow wiser about sex. We should simply realize that we will never entirely surmount the difficulties it throws our way. Our best hope should be a respectful accommodation with an anarchic and reckless power.

He later offers a delightfully animated account, reminiscent of Bill Plympton’s classic animated version, of why a kiss holds the appeal that it does:

The pleasure of the moment can be understood only by considering its wider context: the overwhelming indifference against which any kiss is set. It goes almost without saying that the majority of people we encounter will be not merely uninterested in having sex with us but positively revolted by the idea. We have no choice but to keep a minimum of sixty or, even better, ninety centimeters’ distance between us and them at all times, to make it absolutely clear that our compromised selves have no intention of intruding into their personal spheres.

Then comes the kiss. The deeply private realm of the mouth — that dark, moist cavity that no one else but our dentist usually enters, where our tongue reigns supreme over a microcosm as silent and unknown as the belly of a whale — now prepares to open itself up to another. The tongue, which has had no expectation of ever meeting a compatriot, gingerly approaches a fellow member of its species, advancing with something of the reserve and curiosity exhibited by a South Sea Islander in greeting the arrival of the first European adventurer. Indentations and plateaus in the inner lining of the cheeks, hitherto thought of as solely personal, are revealed as having counterparts. The tongues engage each other in a tentative dance. …

Beneath the kiss itself, it is its meaning that interests us — which is why the desire to kiss someone can be decisively reduced… by a declaration of that desire — a confession which may in itself be so erotic as to render the actual kiss superfluous.

But the true mesmerism of sex, de Botton argues, isn’t even in the physical act itself — it’s in the existential promise that it holds:

The pleasure we derive from sex is also bound up with our recognizing, and giving a distinctive seal of approval to, those ingredients of a good life whose presence we have detected in another person. The more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’ the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.


Our culture encourages us to acknowledge very little of who we normally are in the act of sex. It seems as if it might be a purely physical process, without any psychological importance. But … what happens in love-making is closely bound up with some of our most central ambitions. The act of sex plays out through the rubbing together of organs, but our excitement is no boorish physiological reaction; rather, it is an ecstasy we feel at encountering someone who may be able to put to rest certain of our greatest fears, and with whom we may hope to build a shared life based upon common values.

Ultimately, sex is a grounding mechanism that reminds us of our own imperfect humanity, and in that imperfection lies the messy richness of being human:

Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous.

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What Is Love? Famous Definitions from 400 Years of Literary History


“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only with what you are expecting to give — which is everything.”

After those collections of notable definitions of artscience, and philosophy, what better way to start a new year than with a selection of poetic definitions of a peculiar phenomenon that is at once more amorphous than art, more single-minded than science, and more philosophical than philosophy itself? Gathered here are some of the most memorable and timeless insights on love, culled from several hundred years of literary history — enjoy.

Kurt Vonnegut, who was in some ways an extremist about love but also had a healthy dose of irreverence about it, in The Sirens of Titan:

A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.

Anaïs Nin, whose wisdom on love knew no bounds, in A Literate Passion: Letters of Anaïs Nin & Henry Miller, 1932-1953:

What is love but acceptance of the other, whatever he is.

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Tonight-Aug. 16-Comedy-Gasm! Super Summer Stand-Up Spectacular!

Rachel Fogletto, founder and host of Comedy-Gasm got her start at the Erotic Literary Salon. She still graces us with her words. Don’t miss her show tonight.
Here at Comedy-Gasm there’s no such thing as overstimulation! The summer has been packed full of amazing stand-up talent, both novices and veterans strutting their stuff and making marks…to honor the jam packed comedy motif, we’re having an all stand-up crew for our August show! Summer is still here, so come out and celebrate the spirit of hysterical laughter with some of the city’s most popular and talented comedians!

Hosting: Rachel Fogletto

Performances by:

Jon Lalu (Chaos Comedy)
Bryan Thompson (Philly Comedy Circuit)
Kate Banford (Test Pilot; Five Dollar Comedy Week)
Josh Kosh (Funny Money Tuesdays at Dobbs; Philly’s Phunniest Semi-Finalist 2014)
Lamarr Todd (Host of the Trippin Comedy Series)

Doors open at 8PM; SHOWTIME 8:45…come early for a guaranteed seat!
$10 cover plus donations welcome
Drink Specials!
UPSTAIRS at The Irish Pol



August 19 – next Tuesday – The Erotic Literary Salon-Live

Reminder, featured presenter Poet Merilyn Jackson and Adult Sex-Ed talk with Caitlin Murphy, founder of Philadelphia Academy of Sex Education next Tuesday, August 19th. Doors open 6:30, Adult Sex-Ed talk begins at 7.


Caitlin Murphy

Sunday, August 10-Philadelphia Academy of Sex Ed-Fundraiser

Home Sweet Academy: Burlesque, Trivia, and Prizes for The Philadelphia Academy of Sex Education! 


Dottie Riot – Fan Dance (She will be performing at the fundraiser)

The Philadelphia Academy of Sex Education is one branch of a larger network of Academies of Sex Education fundraising to rent a house venue for classes, hosting out of town educators, founding a library, hosting clubs- and more importantly, for creating a cohesive sex positive community in Philadelphia.

A night of debauchery, burlesque, trivia, and tons of prizes- from books to sex toys and passes to classes.

When: Sunday, August 10th, 2014

Time: Doors open at 7pm, Event begins at 8pm!

Where: Bourbon & Branch, 705 N 2nd Street, Philadelphia, PA, 19123

Tickets: $10 – new price

Performing will be:


Dottie Riot

Liberty Rose


HoneyTree EvilEye

Hosting and giving you all some laughs will be the wonderful Short Stack!

In between each act there will be short rounds of trivia to win some awesome prizes.

Ticket prices start at $10, but you can pay more at the door if you really want to help us out!

Can’t attend? Keep an eye out for our small IndieGoGo Campaign which will be launching shortly!

Check out our website for more information: