Search for Magic Pill Misses the Mark-Does Sex Have An Expiration Date?-Philadelphia Inquirer

My letter to the editor was published November 7 in response to the FDA Conference article of October 29. Bottom line, men have 24 medications for libido problems, women have 0.



Search for magic pill misses the mark

Does sex have an expiration date? For some women it does. Hormone imbalance caused by childbirth, hysterectomy, menopause, medication side effects, aging, pain, and long-term relationships can impact a woman’s libido and arousal negatively. A major issue with the federal Food and Drug Administration considering approval of a low-libido drug for women is the expectation that one drug can remedy several problems (“Elusive issue of women’s low libido,” Oct. 29).

It is why off-label Viagra and testosterone, bio-identical creams, sex therapy, explicit sex videos, erotica, and the like may work for some women and not others. One reason for the success of 50 Shades of Grey is that many women credit the book with reviving their libido.

Everyone seems to be making decisions for women, from the FDA to various factions that believe libido issues can be remedied only with talk therapy or only with drugs. My experience as a clinical sexologist and sex educator has led me to believe women must be educated regarding their sexual health and given choices so they can ultimately have pleasurable and fun sex. Ageless sex is not an impossible concept, but we need to be open to many different ways to achieve it, and medications are certainly part of the picture.

Susana Mayer, Philadelphia


Watch world’s first advert for SEX after artist produces film promoting joy of intercourse

An artist claims to have created the world’s first filmed commercial – for sex.

By Chris Gee for Mirror/UK


The one-minute long promotional video uses a pencil sharpener and a pencil to advertise sex without ‘vulgar scenes’, promoting it as a leisure activity that ‘should be more widely enjoyed’.

The Slovak artist, who changed his name to Matus The First when he moved to German capital Berlin three years ago, claims it is the world’s first ever commercial purely to promote sex and for no other reason.

The 26-year-old film maker said: “When sex becomes a routine it is necessary to change something. “Therefore this is not a product commercial, because you can’t buy a solution to some things.

“I felt though that in some cases it might be important for people to change something in their minds and this commercial is not only about sex but also about thinking.”

CEN Selling sex: Slovak artist Matus The First (r) claims to have created the world’s first ad for sex

It has an English commentary and shows the pencil and sharpener in various positions.

He said: “The English voice used in the commercial is British musician Sean Black. He makes electronic music and also lives in Berlin.”

The video was produced between August and October 2014 by a small team of film makers of which Matus The First was writer and director, and the cinematographer was his German colleague Konstantin Minnich.

Both of them work in a small film and commercial production company – the Metropolitan Film Institute – which is also based in Berlin.

The commercial will not be seen on TV, with Matus adding: “The commercial was produced to share on the internet.”

The video was released through the Metropolitan Film Institute’s YouTube channel and in the first week had almost 90,000 views.

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No topic’s taboo at this Philly Erotic Literary Salon – Philadelphia Citypaper

Wonderful article written by erotica author/editor Rachel Kramer Bussel

Published 10/30/2014


“We have a virgin in the crowd,” Susana Mayer announces to big applause from the rapt group gathered at the Bohemian Absinthe Lounge on Sansom Street. The host isn’t referring to a sexual blank slate, but to a newbie reader at her monthly Erotic Literary Salon.

The salon, held in an upstairs bar space above Time restaurant, embraces all sorts of writing in a no-judgment zone. Want to hear sexy stories? You’ve got them. Want poetry and real-life revelations? Check. Want to learn about bisexuality, porn or other sexual topics? A guided discussion starts off each evening and draws plenty of audience participation. Mayer, a sexologist who’s been running the salon for six years, calls the three-and-a-half hour event “edutainment.”

Those who want to read sign up at a session for the following month or via email. The only requirement? Include a backstory, because Mayer knows those listening to the stories are thinking, “Is that a real story? Did they do that, or did they dream about that?” Here, the audience finds out.


About 20 people read at October’s salon, standing at a mic set up in front of the crowd. They read short pieces on everything from prehistoric mating rituals to an Italian fling, Tantric sex to wedding-night remembrances. They were alternately tender, enlightening, hot and provocative. The vibe appears to be less about getting off than building community.

Jackie, a cross-dresser who shared a humorous true tale of her double life, told me, “It used to be the cock-and-pussy show.” Now, she says, the writing is better and more varied, but still has “an erotic aspect of some sort.” This racially and age-diverse salon is for people who aren’t afraid of dirty words, and are looking to expand their minds. “There’s no shame in anything you want to talk about here,” one attendee said.

Pretense and pompousness, along with a fear-inducing stage, are missing. You don’t need to be the second coming of Anaïs Nin to be a hit. Many approached the mic holding cell phones or tablets to read from; some spoke timidly, while featured reader Lynn Hoffman, author of Radiation Days, used his voice to boom out his poetry about having orgasms after 40.

It’s a room so open-minded that frequent reader Jennifer came out to the crowd as transgender before she told her own family. At the session last week, she offered a humorous take on lesbian sex, referencing “boob-level 69,” but got serious when she said, “My greatest challenge now is being seen as halfway between male and female.”

Nobody can reveal every nuance of their lives in five minutes or less — the time limit to the readings — but you’d be surprised at how much a good storyteller can pack in.

Mayer has a doctorate in human sexuality, and her educator hat showed during last week’s opening talk about masturbation and the history of hysteria. People volunteered what they’d been told growing up about solo pleasure. (My favorite? That they’d run out of sperm!)

She doesn’t screen what people say, but she will offer her two cents. One night, when someone waxed rhapsodic about putting soap inside a woman’s private parts, Mayer was quick to warn that this could be dangerous.

She admits her no-holds-barred approach can “make people squirm,” but to her, that’s a good thing. Local comedian Rachel Fogletto did standup, mimicking getting come on her face, while others offered odes to anal play, threesomes and goddess-centered sex. It’s apparent there’s no right or wrong way to approach eroticism.

The salons are open to the public, 21 and over, and Mayer charges $10 ($8 for students/seniors). The next salon, Nov. 18, will feature erotica writer Emerald and a discussion on ageless sex (“Sex has no expiration date, or does it?”), Mayer’s forte and the subject of her forthcoming book. Be prepared to laugh, learn, gasp, talk to strangers and, yes, squirm.

✚ Rachel Kramer Bussel is the author of the essay collection Sex & Cupcakes and editor of over 50 erotica anthologies, most recently Hungry for More and The Big Book of Submission.

She tweets @raquelita.

Press Release – November 18 – Featured Reader Erotica Author Emerald

Philadelphia’s Erotic Literary Salon, Featuring Erotica Author Emerald, Along With Attendee Readers, Tuesday, Nov. 18.


Monday, October 27, 2014


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – contact: Susana Mayer, Ph.D., Salonnière,

PCSalons@gmail.comreserve a time slot to read at Salon (5 min max) – guidelines for reading. – blog: events, Salon notices, erotica, and guidelines.


The Erotic Literary Salon will be held Tuesday, November 18.  Emerald will read from her first single author books, If…Then: a collection of erotic romance stories and Safe: a collection of erotic stories, published by 1001 Nights Press.


Emerald is an erotic fiction author whose short stories have been featured or are forthcoming in anthologies published by Cleis Press, Mischief, Logical-Lust, and Sweetmeats Press. She is an advocate for sexual freedom, reproductive rights, and the rights of sex workers, and she serves as a Facebook group moderator and assistant newsletter editor for Marketing for Romance Writers (MFRW).


Prior to Readings – Adult Sex-Ed: The Joys of Sex

Topic – Sex Has No Expiration Date, or Does It?


Approximately twenty attendees will also entertain with their 5-minute erotica, sex memoirs, rants, short stories and poetry.


PHILADELPHIA: The Erotic Literary Salon, unique in the English-speaking world has launched a growing movement mainstreaming erotica. Salons attract a supportive audience of 65 or more individuals. Approximately 20 participate as writers, readers, storytellers, spoken word performers of original works/words of others, the rest just come to listen, enjoy and applaud. Frances, our resident nonagenarian (97 years young) occasionally recites her original erotica.


Salons gather the 3rd Tuesday of every month at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge), 1315 Sansom Street, Center City, Philadelphia. Doors open at 6:30 p.m. (limited seating), for cocktails, food and conversation. Adult Sex-Ed: The Joys of Sex between 7:00-7:30, readings begin at 8:00. Admission is $10, discounted for students and seniors to $8. Salon attendees must be 21.


Creator of this event, Dr. Susana, is Philadelphia’s best-known sexologist. She lends her voice to the Salon by offering relevant information to support the discussions that arise in the Salon and blog.


…surprisingly comfortable….Salon devotees praise her for the space she has created….”

“I think Susana is doing a very brave thing.”

Philadelphia Inquirer, February 10, 2010


“There are laughter and tears along with the hot rush of blood – to the face.

Daily News, March 15, 2010


“I never knew such a life of honesty could exist. I finally found a home I can be comfortable in…this event changed my life.

First-time attendee and reader 2013