Cabaret Administration Pizza Party Fundraiser! Sunday March 15

Cabaret Administration brings you some of the best Burlesque/Cabaret in Philadelphia; definitely worth the trip if you live at a distance. Philly has some great Burlesque and this is one I can recommend highly.

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Cabaret Administration Pizza Party Fundraiser!

Cabaret Administration Headquarters 1730 North 5th Street

March 15, Sunday – 6:00pm – 11:00pm

This will be an awesome event to raise money for The Cabaret Administration.

We are extending this invite to our fans on FB! All we ask is that you RSVP as we are making FRESH PIZZA DOUGH!

Pizza will be 10$ per pie. I have decided that toppings and specialty pies(like mushroom truffle oil!!) will be additional $.
Basically, you show up, tell me your toppings and in about 15 minutes you have a pizza.
Everything is from scratch. You’ll never even want another pizza again.

One of the things we aim to do with the funds is bring Meagan L. Rumberger back to Philly to perform in our FTLF re-mount at the end of April. She performed the role of Claire in the premier of this show a year and a half ago and we want her back!

Some of the girls and boys of the Cabaret Administration will be on hand to serve you your pizza and other antics.

Including:
Massage therapist Donald Little offering chair massages with proceeds going to the CA!

There will be other refreshments available and maybe some other burlesque-y- show-y items also “for sale”!

Invite people! It’s a rolling open house type party! The more the merrier! 

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Nature and sex redefined – we have never been binary

Reminder next Tuesday, March 17 come celebrate St. Patrick’s Day at the Erotic Literary Salon.

Are there only male and female sexes?

A recent article in Nature suggests that biologists ‘now think’ the idea of two sexes is inaccurate; in fact, says Vanessa Heggie, for decades biologists have been at the forefront of campaigns against this simplistic understanding of sex. It’s the first question we ask about a new baby; but perhaps impossible to answer.

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recent article in Nature claims that biologists ‘now think’ that sex is not a binary feature for human beings – rather than being simply male or female, there are various kinds of sex, such as chromosomal sex or hormonal sex, and all of us exist across several spectrums of sexual identity.

Two sex; five sex; nine sex models

The claim that we are non-binary is well evidenced, but the claim that this is what biologists ‘now think’ seems to ignore much of the history of sex and gender research. This is made clear by the very first comment on the article, signed ‘Anne Fausto-Sterling’. Fausto-Sterling is a pioneering researcher into sex and gender identities, and published controversial work in the early 1990s suggesting that there were at least five different ways of measuring sex – a publication which is not mentioned at all in the Nature article.

The scientific scepticism of ‘binary’ sex – that is the idea that there are men and women and they can be clearly distinguished – started even earlier. In 1968 the Journal of the American Medical Association carried an article by biologist Keith L Moore, listing nine different components of someone’s sexual identity: external genital appearance, internal reproductive organs, structure of the gonads, endocrinologic sex, genetic sex, nuclear sex, chromosomal sex, psychological sex and social sex.

It’s possible to design tests for many of these kinds of sex, but none of them provide a convenient ‘male or female’ binary answer. Results will always depend on averages, on statistical norms, or on arbitrary cut-off points, and there will always be people who appear both male or female (or neither) when all nine kinds of sex are considered. Further, what science cannot do is tell us which of these tests is the best measure of sex, or which gives us our ‘true’ identity – that entirely depends on what we want to do with the results, why we’re testing, and our cultural attitudes towards sex and gender (gender being the psychological and social aspects of sexual identity).

(Barr) Bodies of Evidence

Moore wrote his article in 1968 specifically to criticise one form of sex testing: the tests that were being used in international sport to decide whether athletes were eligible to compete as women. Sport is often an arena that absolutely insists that human beings come in only two forms, male or female, and has spent around 80 years trying to find an objective scientific test that will prove that this is the case. So far it has failed.

This failure came as no surprise to many of the scientists working in genetics, or endocrinology, or other areas of the study of sex and gender. At least as early as the 1930s it was scientifically understood that some aspects of biological sex and gender identity might not match in individuals, and surgery and hormonal treatments were used to help people create stable identities. There were several high-profile cases of transgendered athletes in the 1930s and ‘40s, so the idea that sexual and gender identity might be fluid rather than fixed was discussed in the popular press as well as in scientific journals. These stories were part of the reason international sports organisations began to introduce stricter eligibility rules for women’s sports in the 1940s.

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Tests for Barr bodies can easily be performed on cheek cells taken by a simple oral swab – the simplicity of the test is probably part of the reason it lasted for so long in international sport.Photograph: Guardian

Moore was intimately familiar with these tests, as he was a co-developer of the one the International Olympic Committee (IOC) used for nearly 25 years. Moore was the PhD student of Canadian scientist Murray Barr, who in 1949 published (in Nature as it happens) the discovery of the ‘Barr body’. This is a chromosomal artefact caused by the inactivation of the second X chromosome in a cell; as it is relatively easy to visualise it is sometimes used as a rough and ready indicator of ‘femaleness’ in mammals.

The Barr body test was the first standardized scientific test for sex used in international sport, replacing the unpopular ‘naked parades’ in 1968. But by the time the IOC introduced the Barr body test, it was already being condemned as unreliable as a proxy for sex by Barr and his fellow researchers, including Moore, who said

Females have been declared ineligible for athletic competition for no other apparent reason than the presence of an extra chromosome…[these tests] cannot be used as indicators of ‘true sex’

Why do we need the binary?

I’ve pointed out elsewhere that the problem with sex testing for sports is that none of the ‘kinds’ of sex correlate perfectly with sporting ability, so any test will exclude competitors with no physical advantage. Meanwhile lots of other genetic and physiological variations – such as height – confer advantages on some lucky competitors, and yet we make no effort at all to segregate these athletes in the name of ‘fairness’. Scientists always understood the limitations of sex tests, even if sports administrators struggled to accept them: in particular there was Finnish geneticist Albert de la Chappelle, who fought against the IOC’s sex testing regime of the 1980s, promoting a more complicated way of determining eligibility that would consider hormonal, physiological and psychological sexual identity.

Although attitudes towards people who identify as transgender or intersex, or simply ‘non-binary’, have not always been sympathetic, there has never been scientific (or philosophical, or sociological) consensus that there are simply two human sexes, that they are easily (and objectively) distinguished, and that there is no overlap between the two groups. Nor have they agreed that all of us are ‘really’ one sex or the other even if bits of our bodies or our identities don’t entirely match that sex. You can examine someone’s genitals, their blood, their genes, their taste in movies, the length of their hair, and make a judgement, but none of these constitute a universal or objective test for sex, let alone for gender.

When groups, whether in sport or elsewhere, turn to scientific definitions to try to exclude some people from the category of ‘woman’, it is worth remembering this fact: scientists have never agreed on which kind of sex really matters to our identities, or to our right to call ourselves men, or women, or neither, or both.

If you want to read more about the conflict between science and sex testing, @hps_vanessa has recently published a chapter in the Routledge Handbook of Sport, Gender and Sexuality that covers the topics in this post, and more.

What Part of “Fantasy” Don’t They Understand?, Resuscitate your relationship with erotica

Two very interesting and informative blog posts on erotica/porn:

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What Part of “Fantasy” Don’t They Understand?

Dr. Marty Klein

The success of “50 Shades of Grey” and news about Pornhub’s most popular search terms has too many people buzzing about the alleged dangers of each.

Both traditional conservatives and some self-identified feminists are condemning 50 Shades as encouraging violence against women. Clearly, these people know nothing about S/M, and not nearly enough about violence against women. Similarly, groups like xxxChurch and other anti-porn crusaders are dismayed that “teens” was the most popular porn search term last year, fearing this means we’re about to see a rash of adults trying to have sex with teens.

The panic about both of these things is founded on the persistent myth that enjoying a fantasy is the same thing as desiring it in real life. If that were true, millions of our neighbors would be punching their bosses, sleeping with their brothers-in-law, selling their homes to start over in Boise, or urinating on the very next TSA guard that hassles them.

Most grownups know that fantasy doesn’t equal desire and that it doesn’t predict behavior. One of the ways we cope with the pressures and complicated decision-making of adulthood is fantasy. We watch Star Wars and Star Trek, CSI and Grey’s Anatomy, John Wayne and Clint Eastwood and James Bond (and yes, Wonder Woman and the Million Dollar Baby) and we think “If only that were me…if only I had the chance…”

And we make damn sure we never have the chance. That mayhem stuff is dangerous. Fun to imagine, but nothing to mess with.

Which explains the appeal of 50 Shades of Grey: Fun to imagine, but nothing to mess with. And the appeal of porn featuring 18 and 19 year olds (the only teen porn you can find on the overwhelming majority of porn sites): fun to imagine, but nothing to mess with.

Yes, there are people who coerce women sexually. And adults who romance college kids, even some high school kids. But 50 Shades isn’t making that happen, and neither is porn. According to the federal Justice Department, the incidence of each has gone down in the last decade.
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Anyone who looks at 50 Shades and thinks that women like to get roughed up is (a) not really watching the movie, and (b) thinking that before they watch the film. The idea that women like to fall in love with guys who rough them up was popular before E.L. James was born. Jimmy Cagney and Jane Austen come to mind. 50 Shades isn’t the problem. Given economic options, most women don’t stay with someone who roughs them up. And, of course, 50 Shades isn’t about roughing someone up, it’s about two people collaborating on an experiment.

The concern about porn and – read more:

https://sexualintelligence.wordpress.com/2015/02/23/what-part-of-fantasy-dont-they-understand/

 

Resuscitate your relationship with erotica

ALL WOMAN  

So the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over and life is becoming monotonous. Everything in the relationship has become boring, including the sex, which is now once a week, and a scheduled activity. Honestly, you have both tried everything that you could possibly think of, but still there is something lacking. How can you get that spark back?

With the recent release of the Fifty Shades of Grey movie, women all over have been lobbying for more passion in their love lives. And men all over have been seeking ways to meet the demand.

Here to help is Jamaican author K Sean Harris, who is no stranger to erotic fiction. Below he shares five ways in which erotica can add some much needed spice to your relationship.

1. Erotica can help to broaden your sexual horizons; adding a bit of spontaneity to your love life, especially if sex has become predictable. Most of us go through school reading books related to our course of study, he said, but how many of us pick up books about sex? “You learn a lot through reading. And it’s no different with well-written erotic fiction. You can learn many new things or new spins on old ones, and that knowledge can be brought into the bedroom to resuscitate relationships on their sexual deathbed,” he said. So the next time you are in the bookstore, walk on over to the adult section and browse. See what they have; you never know what you may find.

2. Erotica can help to enhance communication between you and your partner. Though many persons may not frequently practise this, talking about sex with your partner is actually quite a liberating experience. “One of the keys to a healthy sex life is actually being able to talk about sex freely with one’s partner, and being able to reference scenes or acts from a book as an example of something that you’d like to do can be a catalyst to create excitement where there used to be a dull routine,” said Harris. This tip alone, if taken seriously, can change the whole dynamics of your relationship.

3. Erotica can be an excellent aphrodisiac. Within the privacy of your bedroom, before jumping into bed, flipping through a few pages of an erotic novel can be good foreplay. “Erotica gets you in the mood for the real thing. Think of it this way, it is like a literary lubricant,” Harris said. So bookmark that page and go right ahead…

4. Erotica is a great source for ideas. Sex performed in the same way every time gets boring. It is often said that sex it not only a physical thing, it is a mental thing as well, and as such the brain is actually the biggest sex organ there is. If that is so, why not give it something to think about? “Erotica provides tons of ways and scenarios for people to have sex and introduces readers to experiences and fantasies that they likely wouldn’t have thought of before or in some cases, can relate to, which in itself can be a huge turn-on — seeing the things you love deliciously described in print,” said Harris.

5. Erotica facilitates intimacy and sharing between couples. “Erotica can add a whole new dynamic to a relationship. When couples read sexy paragraphs or scenes to each other in bed it can be a super cool way of talking dirty to each other with no pressure of coming up with the right words to say.”

http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Resuscitate-your-relationship-with-erotica

 

SEXx Interactive – A Journey for the Mind, Heart and Body

Founders of the SEXx event will speak during the Sex-Ed portion of the Erotic Literary Salon in April.

I (Dr. Susana) will be offering several workshops:

Terri Clark, MPH, sexuality educator and I will present:

Touch Me…Touch Me Not: Relationships and Skin Hunger

I will present:

Ageless Sex: Does Sex Have an Expiration Date?

Everything you Want to Know about Women’s Orgasms, but no one to Ask.

What is your Recipe for Sexual Ecstasy? 6 Work Sex Memoir

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SEXx Interactive: a journey for the mind, heart and body taking place in Philadelphia, May 7-9th, 2015 (in In honor of May being National Masturbation Month). This interactive forum will engage over 200 participants with more than 40 informational presentations, sexuality-based performances, “how-to” workshops, and sexually-themed art exhibitions between Thursday and Sunday. SEXx is the region’s first event of its kind that will: connect the complexities of the intellectual, spiritual, and physical dimensions of sexuality; create spaces for interaction and conversation across gender and sexual orientation; and support the empowerment of the curious and seasoned alike.  http://www.sexxinteractive.com

Purchase Tickets Here: http://www.sexxinteractive.com/attend/