Next Tuesday-October 21-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live-Lynn Hoffman-Featured Poet, Adult Sex-Ed Topic Masturbation

Reminder, please mark your calendars. Tuesday the award winning poet, Lynn Hoffman, will be the featured reader at next week’s Erotic Literary Salon in Philadelphia.

Lynn is not only a poet but author of several non-fiction books and novels. His most recent, Radiation Days: The Rollicking, Lighthearted Story of a Man and His Cancer can be found on Amazon


I shall be leading the Adult Sex-Ed section with a talk on masturbation.  The Salon is a comfortable and safe space to talk about this and other topics on sexual behaviors.

Press Release:


National Coming Out Day 2014: LGBT Whispers – The Erotic Literary Salon Outloud

The Erotic Literary Salon is all about Whispers in person, out loud.


For the past year Jennifer Booker has been sharing her transitioning from CIS male to female. The audience is learning about the effects of hormones and the effects of people’s responses on her psyche and her physical body. We are being enlightened in a manner never before witnessed. It is awe inspiring, she is our poster ‘child’ woman. She is beautiful, intelligent and brave.

Come October 21st to hear Jennifer along with many other readers share their heart felt stories, poetry, rants, and more.

For Single Women, An ‘Infinite Variety Of Paths’

NPR: The Changing Lives of Women


Over time, the image of the single woman has evolved — from Mary Tyler Moore to When Harry Met Sally to Sex and the City to 30 Rock‘s Liz Lemon.

Writer Rebecca Traister says until very recently, getting married marked the beginning of a woman’s adult life. But in the past few decades, there has been a dramatic jump in the average age women get married — from around 22 to around 27 — a change that’s been profound.

“We have now shifted our vision of what an adult woman’s life path usually entails, and it now entails some period of economic, social, sexual independence,” says Traister, a senior editor at The New Republic and author of an upcoming book about unmarried women. And she says that while the shift in marriage patterns is mostly a good thing for women, it can also be seen as a destabilizing force in society.

Single In America

105 million: Number of unmarried people in America 18 and older in 2013

53 percent: Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older who were women in 2013

62 percent: Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2013 who had never been married

Source: U.S. Census Bureau

Interview Highlights

On the messages associated with the rise of single women

The lack of marriage is being blamed for almost every social ill — whether it’s gun violence, whether it’s poverty, whether it’s the dropping birth rate. You have demographers worried about the fact that as people marry later, they’re having fewer children. Single women come in for an enormous amount of blame, politically and culturally.

So that’s one set of messages. Another set is this kind of glamorization — whether it’s Sex and the City, which is now 10 years old, or whether it’s theNew Girl or Mindy Kaling — you see all new depictions of women living independently and having interesting, varied lives.

On the reality of shifting marriage patterns

I think we make a mistake when we create binary between “you’re either married or you’re unmarried.” Once you lift the imperative that everybody get married at age 22, what you get is an infinite variety of paths.

It’s not simply some argument that single life is inherently better than married life. The fact is there are all kinds of married lives and all kinds of single lives, and more people are now free to go down a variety of paths.

On this “mass shift”

You basically have the creation of a new population. One clear example is that single women actually in 2012 made up 23 percent of the electorate, and they voted overwhelmingly for Barack Obama over Mitt Romney. You have women who are earning money in places where they’d never earned money before. You have women who are single who are having babies out of wedlock. More than 50 percent of first births are now to unmarried women. It destabilizes the power structures that had existed before because to have women living independently in these ways — voting, having babies, earning money — it removed some of the power that had traditionally belonged to men, who have long been in economic and political power.

On how much of this shift is about the economy and not necessarily a choice [a 2010 Pew study shows that marriage is still a life goal]

I think the fact that women have unprecedented economic opportunity, that they are now permitted to, and in fact in many cases expected to, go out and earn money, they are busy doing other things. That does not mean that many women and men don’t still have the desire to partner, to fall in love, but the actual economic tolls of marriage and motherhood — which are very real — mean that often they’re electing not to take on those tolls of marriage and motherhood early in their careers when they are now in the position to be out stabilizing themselves economically. …

It’s not necessarily politicized, it’s a human sense of “I don’t want to get tied and distracted by my emotional life right now as I’m establishing myself as an adult.” That doesn’t mean that the desire for love, partnership and companionship is removed. The kinds of strategic choices that women across classes are making — about when to marry, when to have children, how to commit themselves to their career, how to make money — doesn’t mean that any of them don’t yearn for companionship. But there are also a series of practical choices now available to them, ways of balancing the different things they can do with their lives, that often mean that marriage doesn’t necessarily have to come first, and in fact in many cases, it doesn’t make strategic sense for marriage to come first.

Bare! True Stories of Sex, Desire and Romance – Tonight

Sunday, October 5, 8-10pm, $10

L’etage 624 S 6th St. Philadelphia, PA 19147 (Where the Erotic Literary Salon met originally.)


New York’s sexiest storytelling show is now monthly in Philadelphia! Come celebrate our first anniversary at L’Etage.

Bare! True Stories of Sex, Desire and Romance brings together storytellers, comedians, sex educators and others to share true tales from their own experiences of sex, desire and romance. With stories as diverse as the people telling them, Bare! opens doors to bedrooms, back seats and dungeons to tell what your mama left out about the birds, bees and in-betweens.

Join our all-dolled-up storytellers as they tell tales of dating:

Hosted by Jefferson (One Life Take Two)

Vickie Fernandez

Ben Fidler

Rachel Fogletto

Alanna Kennedy-Gorman

Bitey Switch

. . . and you! Put your name in the hat for a chance to bare all on the Bare! stage.

Jefferson is the curator and host of Bare!, regularly in Boston, New York, Philadelphia and Washington, D.C. A sex educator and writer, Jefferson keeps a pseudonymous blog, One Life, Take Two, that details his life as a parent and pervert. He is a storyteller frequently seen on stages around New York and elsewhere, including The Moth, where he is a StorySlam winner. He is also host of Foreplay! A Sexy Storytelling Open Mic, biweekly in New York.

Vickie Fernandez is an award-winning writer, storyteller and comedian. Her stories have appeared in a number of publications you’ve probably never heard of, but should check out. When she’s not working on her memoir and wrangling new unruly tales into submission you can find her performing her stories and telling jokes all over Philadelphia. She hopes to someday move to Mexico and live in a brightly colored house with plenty of room for her pet monkeys, Frida Kahlo shrines and disproportionate collection of cowboy boots.

Ben Fidler has been hitting clubs in the Philadelphia comedy scene since 2007. His high energy comedy is based on his unique look at life experiences and individuals he interacts with. Since starting comedy he founded the Puck Live Open Mic in Doylestown, PA, won the 2014 South Jersey Comedy Competition and featured on Podcasts such as Mental Poison, Breaking Badichek and Super Crappy Funtime. Ben has also been a finalist in the March Madness Comedy Competition and featured in shows all over the northeast. In 2009 Ben and some friends started LawnBoys Comedy, a sketch, standup and improv comedy troupe. Though his first passion will always be comedy, Ben is also a writer, storyteller and illustrator.

Rachel Fogletto is a stand-up comedian local to Philadelphia who also dips into storytelling, with a background in poetry and erotic sharing. Rachel got started on the mic about three years ago telling stories at the Erotic Literary Salon. Rachel has been on the comedy scene for slightly over a year and is already on her eighth monthly self-produced and hosted show, Comedy-Gasm! A Comedy showcase by the unashamed, for the unashamed. Several media sites have reviewed the show’s success, including, and You can often catch her performing all around the city, frequent updates available at, FB and Twitter @RachelFogletto.

Alanna Kennedy-Gorman is a writer, storyteller and crazy cat lady living in Collingswood, NJ. She performs in Philadelphia comedy and storytelling shows, including Second Stories, Comedy-Gasm and Toiling in Obscurity.

Bitey Switch is a professional switch and sex educator. She has been in the kink scene for three years . . . and has been slutting it up even longer than that! Throughout her various sexcapades, Bitey has adopted a fuck-and-tell policy that will have you at the edge of your seat. Follow Bitey on Twitter @biteytheswitch for her thoughts on whoring and pictures of dogs. To book an appointment, check out Bitey’s professional website,

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Bare! True Stories of Sex, Desire and Romance occurs regularly in Boston, New York, Philadelphia and Washington, D.C. Try your hand at sexy storytelling at Foreplay! A Sexy Storytelling Open Mic, biweekly in New York at The Delancey.