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Meet the Governors Behind “State-Rape” Transvaginal Ultrasound Laws (It’s Not Just Virginia)
We have talked so much about the proposed Virginia transvaginal probe law that I thought I should remind you the name of the governor who wants to run a state that supports legalizing rape.
So, again, his name is Bob McDonnell.
When this story broke, I had so many questions. The immediate ones seemed so basic. I wondered why Bob McDonnell is so cruel. I wondered why Bob McDonnell felt he had the legal authority to force doctors to rape their patients.
And why, why, why did Bob McDonnell, the governor of the great state of Virginia, a man on every Republican presidential hopeful’s short list for vice-president ever feel he needed to?
“But wait!” you say, “Bob McDonnell backed off his support for this bill. He clearly realized that this was one of the most profoundly invasive hideous pieces of legislation anyone could imagine.”
Holy Search and seizure Batman! His reason is that it may violate the fourth amendment? Ya think?
Sometimes It Takes Three to Tango
In the comments on a recent piece of mine, “If no one’s being hurt, God’s okay with your sexuality,” a woman wrote to share that she is polyamorous — specifically meaning, in her case, that she is (as I learned) living with, in love with, deeply committed to, and basically in all ways but legally married to a man and a woman. I asked our new acquittance if she would be willing to let me interview her. At first she was reticent — but, as she put it, “the opportunity to share with others a glimpse into our life is too good to pass up.”
Could you give us a quick definition of what “polyamorous” is/means?
Honestly, the term “polyamorous” wasn’t on our radar when we fell in love. It was later that we discovered there was a term for what we were. If we need a term, we consider ourselves “polyfidelitous,” which is what polys call those who love more than one person in a long-term, faithful kind of way. Some people consider themselves polyamorous because they believe they need and/or want to be in multiple relationships at any given time. This is not a good description of us. We all feel we could be satisfied with just one person. It’s just that we fell in love with two, pretty much all at the same time… and we discovered (through lots of open and honest communication!) that we were all not just OK with it, but that it was something we wanted.
Truthfully, we don’t think of ourselves as polyamorous. We just think of ourselves as us.
Dr. Ruth Westheimer: What Jeremy Lin, Basketball Teach Us About Sex
Dr. Ruth Westheimer has been tweeting all about her own case of Linsanity. But the die-hard Knicks fan sees lessons for the bedroom (or kitchen floor) in Jeremy Lin’s success.
by Dr. Ruth Westheimer | February 24, 2012 4:45 AM EST
Jeremy Lin came out of nowhere to seemingly save the season for the New York Knicks. In the strike-shortened season, the Knicks, despite the recent acquisition of some superstars, weren’t playing very well together and were losing a lot more games than they were winning. While one player had the ball, the others were standing around. There wasn’t enough flow to the way they were playing the game.
Then the Knicks lost some players to injuries and personal problems, and Jeremy Lin was called off the bench to start. Jeremy isn’t the tallest of basketball players, nor does he have the skills of a superstar, but he’s a Harvard grad—so in addition to his talents, he brings his brains to the basketball court. This allows him to dribble the ball up the court while keeping track of the other players, allowing him to distribute the ball to the players who are open so that the Knicks can score.
Now most of you don’t play basketball, so what does this have to do with you, assuming you’re not a Knicks fan enjoying your team win instead of lose? Well most of you are sexually active, and if you’re not, you probably would like to be. But if your sex life isn’t all that hot, then there is a lot to learn from the basketball court that’s applicable to your bedroom, living room, or kitchen floor!
Sex, like basketball, is a team sport. If one of you is making all the moves and the other is just lying there, you’re not going to have good sex, or even mediocre sex. You have to learn to play together and if you do, you can score repeatedly.
As you know, sports teams practice a lot before the game in order to learn how to work together. That’s something you should be doing, too. And it starts with establishing good communications. If you don’t tell each other what works and what doesn’t, your sex life will sink into last place. No man can guess what gives his partner the most pleasure. She has to tell him. It’s like the alley-oop play. If the guard throws the ball above the hoop and the center isn’t expecting the pass, it will go sailing into the stands. The players have to know each other very well, and so do the two of you.
videos regarding a Russian advertising campaign for Putin that gives new meaning to the phrase “sexual politics”.
In this one minute video<http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=MbIzj21X0tU> a Russian woman is telling a man who appears to be a sex therapist “I’m scared. I want my choice to be based on love”. He tells her ” I understand you, it’s always scary the first time” while pointing to a copy of Time Magazine with Putin’s picture on it and telling her “trust is love”. The woman smiles and then happily walks into a voting station. Then there is this short video<http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=1Easr8WTwxs> produced by a Russian social networking group that encourages women to “tear their clothes off” for Putin. The article “How The Kremlin is Using Sex to Sell Putin<http://www.rferl.org/content/how_the_kremlin_is_using_sex_to_sell_putin/24492979.html>” provides a link to another Russian video<http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPvVgSOi1yg> of a group of women tearing up a teddy bear and trying to rip each others’ clothes off before Putin apparently
comes to the door. Anybody willing to devote the time can watch a19 minute video<http://www.businessinsider.com/russian-man-touches-1000-womens-breasts-for-putin-2011-9> in which a man touches the breasts of 1000 women and then shakes Vladamir Putin’s hand in order to transfer the accrued energy to him. As if that wasn’t enough, this “Girls for Putin”<http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7TC_N9qQLJ8> video shows the singer drinking Jack Daniels in front of a photo of Putin, painting her face so that she looks like his dog, partially undressing and then smashing a pumpkin with a baseball bat.
This is all described in a Business Insider Europe article published two days ago titled “This New Russian Election Advertisement Might Be The Most Creepily Sexual Yet<http://www.businessinsider.com/russia-nashi-election-video-putin-2012-2>.” Several of these videos are also referenced in a Radio Free Europe/Radio Liberty (RFE/RL) article, also published this week, titled “How the Kremlin is Using Sex to Sell Putin<http://www.rferl.org/content/how_the_kremlin_is_using_sex_to_sell_putin/24492979.html>.”
PayPal cracks down on erotica e-book sales
February 25, 2012 | 1:55 pm
Remember when Amazon started removing various kinds of erotica from its store? It’s happening again, this time with a number of independent e-publishing sites such as All Romance and Smashwords. Today, Nate Hoffelder called attention to an e-mail from Mark Coker of Smashwords to authors who publish through the platform.
Coker reported that PayPal had issued Smashwords an ultimatum regarding certain categories of erotica published through the site. If books in these categories were not removed, PayPal would stop doing business with the site. Because Smashwords relies so heavily on PayPal as a payment processor, the site is left without any feasible alternative:
You might wonder if Smashwords should simply switch to a different payment provider. It’s not so easy. PayPal is designed into the wiring of the Smashwords platform. They run the credit card processing for our retail store, and they’re how we pay our authors and publishers. PayPal is also an extremely popular, trusted payment option for our customers. It is not feasible for us to simply switch to another provider, should such a suitable provider even exist, especially with so few days notice.
As Hoffelder points out, the categories of erotica being removed aren’t even important in and of themselves. Some people will find them icky, but others enjoy them—and who the hell is PayPal to appoint itself the arbiter over what is and is not acceptable to publish?
It’s the monopolist in the field of online payments, that’s who. It’s been issuing this same demand to other sites, and meeting the same success everywhere. There just isn’t any good alternative to PayPal when it comes to taking and making credit card payments online.
I was going to say that this is an illustration of the danger of allowing any one company to monopolize too much of the market in its field of business. I was going to draw parallels to Amazon in that respect. But a little further research revealed that PayPal may not even be the root cause in and of itself. In a blog post looking at the matter, Selena Kitt explains that credit card companies charge higher premiums for taking payments for services where there is a high risk of chargebacks—such as erotica and porn.
And Now There’s A Kickstarter For Porn
Well, Kickstarter, it looks like you’ve finally arrived. And I don’t just mean that you launched 27K projects, saw $99 million pledged, or attracted 30 million+ visitors last year — all of which equalled a sizable increase in activity on your compared to the year prior. No, I mean that your winning crowdfunding model has been adopted by the adult industry. Clearly. Indeed, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and Groupon certainly saw its fair share of flatterers after its launch, but it didn’t inspire a response from porn, at least not in the early days. (Though there are those that are trying.)
Yes, according to Xbiz, “the adult entertainment industry’s leading source for business news and information,” a new startup introduced itself today, called Offbeatr, brought to you by the marketplace for adult digital products, Extra Lunch Money.