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The Price of Marriage in China

The state of marriage affairs in China; not certain it is that different in the U.S., just not as blatantly obvious.

The Price of Marriage in China

By BROOK LARMER

Excerpts:

…In Joy City, Ms. Yang gave instructions to her eight-scout team, one of six squads the company was deploying in three cities for one Shanghai millionaire. This client had provided a list of requirements for his future wife, including her age (22 to 26), skin color (“white as porcelain”) and sexual history (yes, a virgin).

“These millionaires are very picky, you know?” Ms. Yang said. “Nobody can ever be perfect enough.” Still, the potential reward for Ms. Yang is huge: The love hunter who finds the client’s eventual choice will receive a bonus of more than $30,000, around five times the average annual salary in this line of work….

Three miles away, in a Beijing park near the Temple of Heaven, a woman named Yu Jia jostled for space under a grove of elms. A widowed 67-year-old pensioner, she was clearing a spot on the ground for a sign she had scrawled for her son. “Seeking Marriage,” read the wrinkled sheet of paper, which Ms. Yu held in place with a few fragments of brick and stone. “Male. Single. Born 1972. Height 172 cm. High school education. Job in Beijing….”

The lack of chemistry didn’t seem to bother the woman, who told him about her profitable photo business and the three Beijing apartments she owned. Mr. Zhao didn’t find her unattractive, but how was he supposed to respond? Then, even before broaching the possibility of a second date, he said, the woman made a proposition: if they married, he wouldn’t have to work again.

“She said she made enough money for the two of us,” he said. “I could have anything I want.”

The marriage proposal stunned him. He had never heard a woman talk in such blunt, pragmatic terms. A life of wealth and leisure sounded tempting. Still, in the end, he couldn’t imagine being subordinate to a woman. “If I accepted that situation,” he asked me, “what kind of man would I be?”

It took Mr. Zhao several days before he worked up the nerve to tell his mother he had rejected the offer. He knew how hard she had worked, how much she had been counting on this. The news frustrated Ms. Yu. “Kids these days are way too picky,” she said….

Mr. Big had an excruciatingly specific requirement for his second wife. The ideal woman, he said, would look like a younger replica of Zhou Tao, a famous Chinese television host: slim with pure white skin, slightly pointed chin, perfect teeth, double eyelids and long silken hair. To ensure her good character and fortune, he insisted that her wuguan — a feng shui-like reading of the sense organs on the face — show perfect harmony.

“When clients start out, all they want is beauty — how tall, how white, how thin,” Ms. Yang said. “Sometimes the person they’re looking for doesn’t exist in nature. Even if we find her, these clients often have no idea whether that would make their hearts feel settled. It’s our job to try to move them from fantasy toward reality….”

 

 

Youtube Video – Erotic Sounds – Justin Bieber of Classical Piano – Valentina Lisitsa

What does erotic have to do with sound? When you listen to this music, close your eyes at 1:35 minutes on video, and you might be transported to a sensual landscape as I was. Open them, and you will witness a musician making love to her instrument.

Excerpts from Wall Street Journal article:

The YouTube channel of Ukrainian-born classical pianist Valentina Lisitsa has more than 55 million video views and 77,000 subscribers. She has played at New York’s Avery Fisher Hall, made a sellout London debut last June at the Royal Albert Hall and ridden her YouTube fame to a deal with a mainstream record label….

The YouTube channel of Ukrainian-born classical pianist Valentina Lisitsa has more than 55 million video views and 77,000 subscribers. She has played at New York’s Avery Fisher Hall, made a sellout London debut last June at the Royal Albert Hall and ridden her YouTube fame to a deal with a mainstream record label….

Read entire article: http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887324128504578344500782412998.html#printMode

 

Videos – “One Woman” Song and International Women’s Day 2013 – End to Violence Against Women

END VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN NOW!!! Find out how you can get involved – 

“From China to Costa Rica, from Mali to Malaysia acclaimed singers and musicians, women and men, have come together to spread a message of unity and solidarity: We are “One Woman”.

Launching on International Women’s Day, 8 March 2013, the song is a rallying cry that inspires listeners to join the drive for women’s rights and gender equality. “One Woman” was written for UN Women, the global champion for women and girls worldwide, to celebrate its mission and work to improve women’s lives around the world.

This year, International Women’s Day focuses on ending violence against women — a gross human rights violation that affects up to 7 in 10 women and a top priority for UN Women.” Read more & get involved: http://song.unwomen.org

 

UN Women Executive Director calls for action on ending violence against women in her message for International Women’s Day

 

Marty Klein’s – 13th Annual Sexual Intelligence Awards – Scarleteen

Scarleteen (Sex Education for the Real World) website was honored with Marty Klein’s 13th Annual Sexual Intelligence Award.

“The Scarleteen website has too many colors, too many fonts, bad puns, and references to social media I’ve never heard of. So it’s perfect for its audience–teens and early ’20s who want sexual information.
Since 2006 Scarleteen’s site has received a billion hits. What do visitors get?
Hundreds of articles, factsheets, and Q/A on sexual health and relationships. The content is written by adults and teens/young people.
Interactive message boards, a text/SMS service, and an active presence on Facebook and Twitter–written by staff, volunteers, and young adult users.
Referrals to other services such as STI testing, contraception, pre-natal and abortion care, and crisis care.
Since Corinna founded it in 1998, Scarleteen has provided young people with accurate information along with social justice activism and a fierce commitment to a diversity-oriented, non-pathology model of sexuality. The U.S. has 1.5 million home-schooled students and 6 million high school-age youth no longer in school. Scarleteen is a crucial part of their sex education.
We are proud to join organizations such as UNICEF, Planned Parenthood, and The Boston Women’s Health Collective in recognizing Scarleteen and Heather Corinna for raising the Sexual Intelligence of the world’s young people.” Read more: http://campaign.r20.constantcontact.com/render?llr=bb7pmmjab&v=001QGVxMVttOOavwa7VHrx1ABpy1qO8S6GSZYQz2IoqkcQRfXsySHUOYMxKfX4sOGJ34tVQ5L87gAbNcLXWq1f5WRlj6AhNSfltuvsqy0I-Kws%3D