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Press Release-Oct 18-The Erotic Literary Salon-Adult-Sex-Ed- Presenter Kathleen Murphy

Philadelphia’s Erotic Literary Salon and the Adult Sex-Ed Salon, Featuring Writer & Poet Kathleen Murphey along with Attendee Readers, Tuesday, Oct. 18.

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Tuesday, September 26, 2016

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

 

 

PCSalons@gmail.com – contact: Susana Mayer, Ph.D., Salonnière,

PCSalons@gmail.comreserve a time slot to read at Salon (5 min max)

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – guidelines for reading.

www.theEroticliterarysalon.com – blog: events, Salon notices, erotica, and guidelines.

 

The Erotic Literary Salon will be held Tuesday, October 18. Featured reader Kathleen Murphey teaches composition and literature courses at Community College of Philadelphia. Recently she has started creating fiction trying to give voice to more empowered visions of female sexuality and other under-represented sexualities. http://www.kathleenmurphey.com

 

Dr. Murphey will present an excerpt from “The Frog and the Transgendered Prince” a story about Stephanie, the spoiled, awkward princess.  She is given a golden ball on her sixteenth birthday which she loses in a pond, and a frog retrieves it for her on the condition that she does the frog a favor.  She breaks her word and leaves the frog.  The frog finds her at the castle and demands to be her companion.  Slowly, Stephanie begins to talk to the frog and comes to know it as it comes to know her.  Finally, Stephanie realizes that the frog must be under an enchantment, and she hopes the frog will transform into a prince, but the frog reveals that it is a she, so Stephanie chooses to be a prince to be with the frog princess.  Thus the two are transformed into Stephen, the transgendered prince, and Julia, the princess.

 

The Adult Sex-Ed Salon is a one-hour program held prior to the Erotic Literary Salon. The attendees will create this month’s theme. They will have the opportunity to pose any questions regarding sexuality anonymously. Sexologist Susana Mayer, PhD, along with co-host Walter will facilitate the Adult Sex-Ed Salon and attendees interested in sharing their knowledge and experiences will join in the discussion.

 

PHILADELPHIA: The Erotic Literary Salon, unique in the English-speaking world has launched a growing movement mainstreaming erotica. Salons attract a supportive audience of 65 or more individuals. Approximately 15-20 participate as writers, readers, storytellers, spoken word performers of original works/words of others, the rest just come to listen, enjoy and applaud.

 

Salons gather the 3rd Tuesday of every month at TIME (The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge), 1315 Sansom Street, Center City, Philadelphia. Doors open at 6:30 p.m., for cocktails, food and conversation. Adult Sex-Ed between 7:00-8:00, readings begin at 8:30. Admission is $12, discounted for students and seniors to $10. Salon attendees must be 21.

 

Creator of this event, Dr. Susana, is Philadelphia’s best-known sexologist. She lends her voice to the Salon by offering relevant information to support the discussions that arise in the Salon and blog.

…surprisingly comfortable….Salon devotees praise her for the space she has created….”

“I think Susana is doing a very brave thing.”

Philadelphia Inquirer, February 10, 2010

 

“There are laughter and tears along with the hot rush of blood – to the face.

Daily News, March 15, 2010

 

“I never knew such a life of honesty could exist. I finally found a home I can be comfortable in…this event changed my life.

First-time attendee and reader 2013

 

 

Sexual Freedom Day – Victoria Woodhull’s 178th Birthday (First Woman to Run for President)

The Strange Tale of the First Woman to Run for President – read below.

“…To recognize the Woodhull Freedom Foundation for its generous and valued contributions to the recognition of sexual freedom as a fundamental human right, and to declare September 23, 2010, as “Sexual Freedom Day”…   RESOLVED, BY THE COUNCIL OF THE DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA , That this resolution may be cited as the “Sexual Freedom Day Declaration Resolution of 2010.””

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Please donate to this wonderful organization so that they can continue to defend your right to sexual freedom. “Sexual freedom…when all individuals are in control of their own bodies, and have the right to enjoy sexual dignity, privacy and consensual sexual expression without interference from the government, without coercion and without being stigmatized for those choices.” woodhullfoundation.org

Who is Victoria Woodhull?

The Strange Tale of the First Woman to Run for President

Before Hillary Clinton, there was Victoria Woodhull.

As Hillary Clinton’s official campaign announcement nears, expect much more talk about the historical importance of a woman becoming president—it was, after all, a precedent-shattering approach that helped deliver Barack Obama to the White House in 2008.

Despite two women appearing on national tickets—Sarah Palin in 2008 and Geraldine Ferraro in 1984—the nation’s highest office remains elusive to the female sex. In fact, with the exception of Clinton, there’s not another woman in either party well positioned to win the nomination (face it, progressives, Elizabeth Warren is a pipedream, not a possibility). Clinton owns the glass-ceiling territory, and that’s pretty compelling for women voters who happen to constitute a majority of the electorate yet have spent their entire voting age lives choosing between candidates of the other gender.

Based on the rhetoric surrounding her historic candidacy in 2008 and, in more recent months, leading up to the 2016 campaign, you’d be forgiven for thinking that Clinton was the first woman ever to run for the nation’s highest office. Far from it.

Clinton, as she dropped out of the 2008 presidential race, celebrated the groundbreaking success in her race. “Although we weren’t able to shatter that highest, hardest glass ceiling this time, thanks to you, it’s got about 18 million cracks in it,” she told supporters.

Few know, though, the name of the woman who put the first crack in that highest, hardest glass ceiling. That honor belongs to a beautiful, colorful and convention-defying woman named Victoria Woodhull, who ran for the office in 1872, 136 years before Clinton made her first run in 2008. Woodhull, who died nearly twenty years before Clinton was even born, hazarded a path on which no woman before her had ever dared to tread. Even more amazing is that she did it almost 50 years before the ratification of the 19th Amendment in 1920 gave women the right to vote. On Election Day, November 5, 1872, Victoria Woodhull couldn’t even vote for herself.

Although it must be noted that she could not have voted for herself in any case, given the fact that she was incarcerated on Election Day, and for a month or so after, in New York City’s Ludlow Street Jail on obscenity charges. (Details below.)

Woodhull ran under the banner of the Equal Rights Party—formerly the People’s Party—which supported equal rights for women and women’s suffrage. The party nominated her in May 1872 in New York City to run uphill against incumbent Republican Ulysses S. Grant and Democrat Horace Greeley and selected as her running mate Frederick Douglass, former escaped slave-turned-abolitionist writer and speaker. On paper, it was an impressive pick, but not really: Douglass never appeared at the party’s nominating convention, never agreed to run with Woodhull, never participated in the campaign and actually gave stump speeches for Grant.

But that’s just one more of many caveats about Woodhull, who, throughout her long life—she died in England in 1927 at age 88—never much cared for rules or regulations of a game she considered egregiously rigged against women. On inauguration day, she would have been just 34 years old. Article 2, Section 1 of the Constitution requires that the president be 35 on the day “he” takes office. In the end, though, her youth was the most moot of moot points, because Victoria received zero electoral votes. (There’s no record of how many popular votes she received; though we do know that 12 years later, another woman running for president under the banner of the same Equal Rights Party racked up 4,149 votes in six states.)

When to Victoria’s ineligibility and lack of votes are added certain other details of her biography—her guttersnipe, vagabond parents, her three marriages, her work as a child preacher, a fortune teller, a clairvoyant and a spiritualist healer—it’s not surprising that history has reduced her to a curiosity and a footnote, and characterized her, at best, as a free-thinker and an eccentric; at worst as a scoundrel and a hustler. The full story, as is so often the case, is much more interesting.

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Born in 1838, Victoria California Claflin was the seventh of 10 children who lived in an unpainted wooden shack in Homer, Ohio, a small frontier town in Licking County. Her education lasted less than three years between the ages of eight to eleven. According to Myra MacPherson, Victoria’s latest biographer ( The Scarlet Sisters: Sex Suffrage and Scandal in the Gilded Age was published last year and focused on both Victoria and her younger sister Tennessee), Victoria claimed that she had never spent even one year in a schoolroom. MacPherson, whose look at the sisters’ lives is as entertaining as it is sad, writes that their mother, Annie, was a “slattern” who was “described by all who met her in later life as an unpleasant old hag.” Their father, Buck, was, if possible, worse: a thief, a child beater, “a one-eyed snake oil salesman who posed as a doctor and a lawyer.” The lives of the six surviving children were “filled with Dickensian debauchery.” Victoria was forced by Buck to travel in his painted wagon and work as a revivalist child preacher and a fortune teller; Tennessee, with whom Victoria would collaborate closely throughout her life, worked as a “magnetic healer”; and both were made to perform as “faith healers” and “clairvoyants who spoke to the dead.” Their lives were tumultuous, impoverished, unpredictable and nomadic.

Read more (2 more pages: http://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2015/04/victoria-woodhull-first-woman-presidential-candidate-116828#ixzz4L5emo7Z8
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Tonight-Tuesday-Sept.20-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live/Adult Sex-Ed, Article-Are You Sexually Compatible?

Theme for this evening’s Adult Sex-Ed – SEX: What’s Love Got To Do With It? Come with your question(s), write them anonymously.

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Article worth reading –

Are you Sexually Compatible?

As the urgency of a new relationship fades (honestly, you can only play “How many times can we have sex before being late to dinner?” so often before you stop getting invited) your sex life will take on a more comfortable tone. It’s still good but…different?

If you’re starting to wonder about your sexual compatibility in the context of a long term relationship, our questions can help shed some light on whether you’re just settling into a groove or dancing to different tunes.

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Sex Drive

Do you feel like one party is having sex more or less than they’d like to on a regular basis?

  1. Yes, I’m often feel like I’m bugging my partner for sex.
  2. No, we’re pretty equal.
  3. Yes, my partner’s sex drive is much higher than mine.

Do you find you and your partner get aroused at similar times during the day?

  1. Yes, we’re in step with each other.
  2. Sometimes they conflict but we try to accommodate both.
  3. No, it’s literally like night and day.

Sex drives are way more complicated than we tend to think, and can be affected by things as simple as what time of day either of you tend to be in the mood, or even who is initiating. Some people rarely feel like initiating sex, but are game as soon as there’s some kissing and cuddling going on. However, just because you’re turned on like clockwork as soon as you’re off the clock, but he doesn’t heat up ‘til later in the evening doesn’t mean you’re headed to a dead bedroom.Differences in sex drive can be worked through, if they don’t vary too widely, and if both partners are able to talk through their expectations for frequency of sex. Neither of you should feel badgered for sex and a partner who whines when they hear a ‘no’ is a huge red flag, but being able to talk about your expectations let it be a reasonable conversation rather than the nagging and guilt-tripping that lack of openness can make it seem like.

Openness & Communication

Are you able to discuss your sexual needs?

  1. Heck yes! I tell them exactly how to [redacted] [redacted] me [redacted]!
  2. I sometimes mention what I want either before or during sex.
  3. I prefer for my partner to anticipate my needs.

Obviously, some amount of conversation is required to a happy and healthy relationship, but it’s true that some people are just not as comfortable talking about sex. It can be highly situational, given that we all know one person who will enthusiastically describe their latest sex toy purchase in the middle of a restaurant, and those who prefer to keep it private, pillow-side conversations.

Again, you and your partner don’t need to be exactly the same, but if one of you likes to hear naughty talk in the bedroom and views sexting as a required foreplay, it may be difficult to work through if the other gets uncomfortable with the most euphemistic discussions of sexuality and body parts.

Sexual Style

LELO-Suede-Whip-purple-sensuaYou would describe your preferred sexual style as:

  1. Harder, better, stronger, faster!
  2. I take the rough with the smooth.
  3. When it comes to love, I want a slow hand.

How often do you like to switch up your routine?

  1. As much as I can!
  2. Sometimes.
  3. We’ve perfected a groove that works for us.

Foreplay is…

  1. What’s for dinner, every night.
  2. All about give and take.
  3. Something I don’t have the patience for.

Sexual style is just about equal parts what you naturally gravitate towards in bed, and also how open (and enthusiastic) you are about new experiences, and doesn’t necessarily depend on how kinky you are. To clarify, some people might be happy with the inclusion of hand cuffs or ticklers once in a while, while others are greatly interested and invested with exploring new sensations.

Sexual tastes can develop at any time, and while some people may dip their toe into new kinks occasionally, or are happy to do so to please their partner, but don’t feel particularly compelled to continue explore new things on a regular basis. In that way, two people of differing styles can still have a happy sex life, but if catering to each other’s tastes seems like a chore, it doesn’t bode well.Does your partner feel the need to push sexual boundaries and explore new kinks regularly? Try and be open minded and enthusiastic to try new things within reason. You don’t want to agree to things that will upset or disgust you, but you may find you get a lot of enjoyment out of their kinky pleasure.

Monogamy

Monogamy and you are:

  1. Mortal enemies.
  2. In talks.
  3. Monogamous.

Monogamy has been the assumed default model for relationships for so long, people can forget that it’s an important discussion to have. Clearly, given the popularity of the threesome fantasy, it simply doesn’t make sense to never discuss how ‘open’ you’d both like your relationship to be.Some people will treat watching porn as infidelity, and some people will want their partners to be able to find sexual satisfaction with other people in situations where they can’t or would not like to fill a particular need. Both can be equally healthy as long as those attitudes are discussed and agreed upon (sincerely). And hey, it’s ok to change your mind about the level you’ve agreed upon during your relationship, just make sure it’s posed as a new discussion and not an accusation.

Intimacy & Affection

When you think of the most intimate moments you share with your partner, you think of:

  1. Cuddling on the couch.
  2. Having a deep conversation at dinner.
  3. When you’re both in the throes of passion.

Your favorite place to keep your hands is:

  1. All over your partner.
  2. In their hand.
  3. In my pockets.

When you’re stressed out…

  1. Sex is the furthest thing from my mind.
  2. My partner and I relax with each other, sometimes through sex.
  3. Sex is my go-to way to relax.

This may not seem entirely like it’s relevant to sexual compatibility, but bear with us. Imagine one partner rarely makes bodily contact with the other, unless they’re in the bedroom. If their partner is a highly affectionate person, this can seem cold, and perhaps make them think their partner is only interested in them sexually.

Really, we all have different ways of communicating love and affection, as well as attitudes toward things like PDA. Because they aren’t calculated responses, we don’t always think about how our partner will interpret them. By examining your habits and talking about them, you can clear up any misunderstandings about behavior, and also learn how to better communicate affection and intimacy to your partner purposefully.

Conclusion

Be honest: How important is sex to you?

  1. It can fluctuate depending on who I’m with.
  2. Extremely!
  3. I like sex but it doesn’t figure that much into my daily life.

Look back over your answers, and think about how your partner would answer them. Better yet, ask! This is a key step to finding out how compatible you are because it will open up discussions about things that you both may have assumed about each other. Have different answers? Before you panic (it’s ok, we promise!) focus on which things are negotiable for you and your partner.

You know yourself that things are rarely black and white, compromise and flexibility are key to establishing how complementary you are as a couple.

And figuring out how you both feel about these aspects of your sexuality doesn’t mean squaring off to see who can get more out of the other person, or that you need to change fundamental parts of yourself. Negotiation might not sound sexy, but trust us when we say that discussing things like how kinky you are and how often you get turned on tend inspire couples to discovery!

https://www.lelo.com/blog/are-you-sexually-compatible/

Next Tuesday, Sept 20, The Erotic Literary Salon-live, Adult Sex-Ed-Having Sex, Making Love, Fucking

Sex, What’s Love Got To Do With It?

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Come with your questions, write them anonymously. It is rare that you have the opportunity to ask your question to a certified sexologist, an audience filled with people of all ages, ethnic backgrounds, all orientations, all genders, and the co-host Walter who will put a spin on it. Refer to the subject – What is the difference between making love, having sex and fucking. and Sex, What’s love got to do with it?