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Tonight!-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live – FREE Raffle- “Miss Chatterley” – “What Do Women Want” – Daniel Berger

Today, Tuesday, June 18th, The Erotic Literary Salon, FREE raffle for Logan Belle’s “Miss Chatterley.” Come early for a good seat, doors open 6:30.

What Do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire by Daniel Bergner

The following articles/reviews have been written describing what people feel is the new stance on women’s sexual desire, according to Daniel Bergner. Actually, it is reverting back to a time when people felt women’s desires were greater than man’s. Shall post later this week, history of women’s sexual desires. Perhaps it changes based on the historical context and ethnicity of the women.

Excerpts and links to entire articles.

NY Times Review:

I’ll Have What She’s Having

‘What Do Women Want?’ by Daniel Bergner

By ELAINE BLAIR

Galen of Pergamum, the great physician and medical researcher of antiquity, was one of many learned men of his time who believed that women had to have an orgasm during sexual intercourse for conception to occur. For 1,500 years this was the scientific consensus. How could we have continued to believe in the necessity of female orgasm when there must have been all kinds of evidence to the contrary? No one is sure, according to Daniel Bergner. When it comes to the study of female sexuality, scientists have tended to see what they expect, or want, to see, and there are fewer established facts than you would think. “Despite all the powers of contemporary science,” Bergner writes, “the seemingly straightforward anatomical question, is there a G spot? remains unanswered.”

Read More:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/16/books/review/what-do-women-want-by-daniel-bergner.html?pagewanted=all&_r=1&

Slate Review:

Women Want Sex

But men don’t want them to know it.

By 

Playboy is poised at an interesting moment in the cultural representation of human sexuality, where it’s en vogue to embrace the sexual desires of women—as long as they fit in neatly with the desires of men. As a producer for the now-bankrupt softcore porn franchise Girls Gone Wildtold Ariel Levy in 2004, Joe Francis’ cameras were merely capturing a new permutation of female sexuality, one where women willingly “flash for the brand.” Playboy, too, as Hugh Hefner told Levy, is being “embraced by young women in a curious way in a postfeminist world.” As the CEO said at the chateau, “at our parties, more girls want their pictures taken next to the Playmates in bunny costumes than men do. Now, you explain that to me.”

I had some theories. They crystallized that weekend, when I read Daniel Bergner’s What Do Women Want? a fascinating survey of the emerging science on female desire, published today. In the book, Bergner, an occasional Slate contributor, lays out a diverse body of research that threatens to disrupt all the modern stereotypes of female sexuality: That women are not visual creatures; that their sex drive is lower than men’s; that they’re aroused by love, not sex; and that they’re naturally fitted to be sexual objects, not agents.

If society didn’t realize all of that before, Bergner writes, it’s because the men who run it didn’t want to. “Women’s desire—its inherent range and innate power—is an underestimated and constrained force,” he concludes. In the Middle Ages, it was constrained by the idea that “lust-drunk witches … left men ‘smooth,’ devoid of their genitals.” In the last century, it was constrained by Freud’s theory that women have “a weaker sexual instinct” than men. Now, it’s constrained by modern evolutionary psychology that says that “women are rigged by their genes to seek the comfort of relationships.” Across culture, Bergner writes, “with scientific or God-given confidence, girls and women are told how they should feel.” Mostly, they should feel comfortable sexualizing themselves, but not men.

The sexologists Bergner profiles in his book are all working to peel back those cultural messages of how women should feel to find out what actually arouses them.

Read More:

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/06/what_do_women_want_sex_according_to_daniel_bergner_s_new_book_on_female.html

 

 

Tomorrow-Tuesday-June 18-The Erotic Literary Salon-Live – The Meaning of Sex-Dr. Marty Klein

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“The Meaning of Sex” according to Dr. Marty Klein, renowned sexologist.

Sex has no intrinsic Meaning.
Almost everyone wishes it did.

The desire to give sex meaning is an understandable, important enterprise. Honestly approached, it can be a valuable exercise; disguised as the righteous desire to simply appreciate the meaning sex has, or as the pursuit of restoring sex’s “true” meaning, it is a common source of conflict for both individuals and society.

Sex only has meaning insofar as we experience it. Its meaning is emergent, not objective. We discover the meaning of sex each time we have it, meaning that only resides in our experience. The meaning of sex changes–is reinvented–each time we participate in it.

Most people need sex to have meaning because the alternative is too frightening: having sex in an existential vacuum. Sex without meaning would require participants to float freely in sexual experience, rather than being snugly anchored in a cognitive framework, an explanation.

This is scary because of our indoctrination that sex is bad. We learn that we need protection from our sexuality: its non-linear, open-ended nature, its cacophony of impulses and feelings, its transcendent possibility of taking us away from ourselves. We might not, after all, make it back.

Because sex is ultimately grounded in the body, it is a right-brain, non-linear experience, not a left-brain, cognitive one. Of course, sex can be analyzed, evaluated, and so on, but not as part of the experience. Having sex and understanding sex are two separate activities, much like eating and understanding nutrition are two separate activities. Trying to understand nutrition or digestion while eating undermines the sensuality and enjoyment offered by the experience of dining.

“Sex” is not limited to intercourse; not even limited, in fact, to genital activities. In reality, “sex” describes a huge range of activities. This is half of a dialectic: many things can be sex because sex has whatever meaning we experience moment by moment; and sex has an infinite range of meanings because the scope of activities that can properly be called sexual is so vast.

People who believe they know the objective meaning of sex can easily say what sex is and what it isn’t. Their dichotomy is clear, the sexual side predictably narrow. That’s one reason such people can be so self-righteous about what humans should and should not do sexually.

“Intimacy,” for example, is a common rallying point for people who need sex to have Meaning. “Intimacy” (which, it should be noted, means radically different things to different people) is fine. But setting it up as a standard for “good” sexuality creates a hierarchy of sexual experiences, downplaying or even excluding many of its most important aspects.

This must be true regardless of the particular meaning people decide sex “really” has. In this sense, traditional Christianity and other sex-negative institutions are not the only source of sexual repression in our culture. Rigidity about sexual experience, meaning, and decision-making is the true culprit.

Organized Humanism, for example, stands opposed to religious concepts of sex being inherently evil. But to the extent that Humanism is attempting to discover some secular “true meaning” of sex, it colludes with society’s conceptual rigidity. Ultimately, it is different from other sexual dogmas only in content.

With the perspective that sex has only emergent meaning, we can experience a huge range of sexual feelings and meanings. Without this perspective, much of this range is either invisible, or worse, repugnant and, by definition, excluded.

Sexuality, for example, has a dark side. One can deal with this in many ways, but an experience-based model of sexuality does not judge this fact. Instead it accepts it, makes room for it, plays with it or not, but always respects it.

If, however, one believes sex has a revealed meaning–say, it must always “nurture a relationship”–then there’s no room in the model for sex to have a dark side. One has to deny that it’s there, say it reflects a perverse mind, weed it out, destroy it–because its existence threatens the model of what sex can be. This is a primary source of censorship and other repressive movements.

The fact that sex has no intrinsic meaning is, actually, its ultimate positive quality. It gives us the opportunity to discover an infinite number of meanings in sex, and to use sex as a vehicle for self-exploration. And it gives us the chance to play, in the purest sense of the word.

But the fact that sex has no meaning is scary. It means that every time you have sex you’re adrift. It means you have to take responsibility for your choices and experiences. If you believe that sex is dangerous, of course, or if you believe that sex is so powerful that it can destroy you, this is a terrifying prospect.

Sex’s lack of meaning is also scary because it means our partners are not accountable to objective criteria, and therefore not subject to our control.

Read more:

http://www.martyklein.com/the-meaning-of-sex/

Obama’s #2 CIA – Avril Haines – Erotica Nights

Avril Haines and I have one thing in common – “Erotica Nights.” This event was held in her Book Cafe and mine is at The Bohemian Absinthe Lounge. She has now been appointed Deputy Director of the CIA, not certain if I have a future in government? Actually, it never appealed to me, think I shall continue the well attended Erotic Literary Salon.

Excerpts from the NYPost article on Avril Haines’ Appointment:

President Obama’s choice for the number two position at the CIA will be the highest ranking woman to ever serve in the CIA — and she used to own a bookstore that featured regular erotica readings.

White House lawyer Avril Haines is slated to take the reigns as the Deputy Director of the CIA the White House confirmed yesterday, but before she rose through the ranks to become one of America’s top spies Haines opened and co-owned Adrian’s Book Cafe in Baltimore that featured a regular “Erotica Nights.”

A then-24-year-old Haines opened the bookstore in 1994 when she dropped out of a graduate program in physics at Johns Hopkins University. With her 29-year-old pilot boyfriend, Haines renovated a boarded-up old strip club in Baltimore’s waterfront neighborhood of Fells Point and turned it into the regular meeting place for a small community of erotica aficionados.

During the monthly gatherings, dinner would be served before guests either presented their own erotic work or performed readings from genre luminaries like Milan Kunderea, Isabel Anllende, and the godmother of vampire-fiction Anne Rice, reports The Daily Beast.

“Erotica has become more prevalent because people are trying to have sex without having sex,” Haines told the Baltimore Sun in 1995. “Others are trying to find new fantasies to make their monogamous relationships more satisfying. … What the erotic offers is spontaneity, twists and turns. And it affects everyone.”

To set the mood, Haines setup one erotica night reading by placing red candles throughout her bookstore before she got pulses racing with a reading from Rice’s “The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty,” which was written under the pseudonym A. N. Roquelaure.

“In the topmost bed chamber of the house (the prince) found her. He had stepped over sleeping chambermaids and valets, and, breathing the dust and damp of the place, he finally stood in the door of her sanctuary,” Haines read. “And approaching her, he gave a soft gasp as he touched her cheek, and her teeth through her parted lips, and then her tender rounded eyelids.”

In another passage from the same book Rice wrote, “He mounted her, parting her legs, giving the white inner flesh of her thighs a soft, deep pinch, and, clasping her right breast in his left hand, he thrust his sex into her.”

“He was holding her up as he did this, to gather her mouth to him, and as he broke through her innocence, he opened her mouth with his tongue and pinched her breast sharply.”

“He sucked on her lips, he drew the life out of her into himself, and feeling his seed explode within her, heard her cry out.”

“And then her blue eyes opened.”

Read more:

http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/highest_ranking_woman_nights_after_EdfXR6r5Fa5IcTebsL6qCI

Orgasmic Music – Female Desire – Libido Booster – Nymphomania

While researching articles on drugs to combat low libido in women, I was listening to my Baroque playlist. One of the comments, “Really is orgasmic music,” by Andrew9994 pertained to this piece  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSjAeKPoq5g&list=PL39AA25748C924B56. Listen for yourself and see if you agree. The next piece on the list had a vocal accompaniment, translation:

Lost love The river of memories The gravel bed of the past Is coming back to me But where will I find you If you don’t want me to? I feel the kisses again Your kisses They are still burning me (Kisses) that make me pine (Kisses) that make me die The river of memories… And the sea you see over there Its heat, its warmth I’d like to change it Into a frosty sea Into a mortal darkness. Translation by Konstantin Bratoev.

A wonderful morning of erotic sounds and words.

Hendrik van Balen / Bacchus and Ariadne

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Can a drug be too effective? Scientists claim that they may need to change the potency of the new ‘female Viagra;’ they fear an out of control sexual desiring woman. Did they ever consider this for the male Viagra? I think not.

Why not leave it up to the woman to decide? Are we unable to determine whether our sex drive is creating an unwanted situation? If the ‘itch’ is persistent and uncomfortable I believe a woman might decide a lower dosage is necessary. To have scientists and FDA (I suspect male) not offer us options is out of their personal fear; they are not practicing good science.

The word nymphomania is used within several articles. What does that word actually mean? More desire for sex than your partner can handle?

Excerpt from article at SFGate Blog:

Hot Topics: Scientists Fear Libido Booster too Effective

“More than one adviser to the industry told me that companies worried about the prospect that their study results would be too strong, that the F.D.A. would reject an application out of concern that a chemical would lead to female excesses, crazed binges of infidelity, societal splintering,” Bergner writes.

So drug companies may actually temper the potency of these easy-to-swallow menthol-flavored passion-stimulants, lest these crazy sex-having females have, you know, crazy amounts of sex. Whenever they feel like it, which would, presumably, be way more often (starting in 2016, when the drug developed by amusingly named med makers Emotional Brain is expected to hit the market).

(Again, the problem is …?)

“You want your effects to be good but not too good,” Andrew Goldstein, who is conducting the study in Washington, tells Bergner (on page 8, online) in the May 22 story. “There was a lot of discussion about it by the experts in the room … the need to show that you’re not turning women into nymphomaniacs. There’s a bias against — a fear of creating the sexually aggressive woman.”

Read entire article:

http://blog.sfgate.com/hottopics/2013/05/29/scientists-fear-female-libido-booster-too-effective/

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